To be totally hacked off with the bride and groom?

[Sarah2506]

So we are meant to be off to a wedding in Scotland next month. Quite an undertaking as we live in London and have seven month DD, but they are good friends so we booked flights, a non refundable hotel and arranged to drop DD with MIL for the whole weekend as it's a child free wedding. Fine. Actually looking forward to it as first weekend away, yay!

Then today we get an email saying that, 'unfortunately we've had to make the difficult decision to put the wedding back to the autumn. We were struggling to pay for the wedding on time and think it would just be better to delay a few months so that we can save a bit more and do it properly. We hope you understand and can make the rearranged date'.

Is this reasonable? We've paid out 500 quid in flights and hotel which we won't get back. Travel insurance doesn't cover it as it counts as disinclination to travel. The flights can't be changed- or rather they can but it costs as much as buying new ones! I'm on maternity leave, I'm not being paid, I've no desire to travel to Scotland for the weekend anyway and we won't be able to pay out for the rearranged wedding as well. I feel really sad that we might now not be able to go.

AIBU?

[Alisvolatpropiis]

That wedding ain't happening. Nope.

Surely everyone discusses a budget prior to planning, with a bit of leeway money "just in case"?

[Mouldypineapple]

I was due to get married about 15 years ago after being with my partner for 5.5 years. 3 months before the wedding he said to me "I don't think I can go through with this" which upset things rather! Anyway we spent a few weeks going round in circles, he couldn't make a decision so in the end I said "ok, bye then" and we did! Obviously a few more words were said but the crunch time was pay for everything or back out! We lost deposits but fortunately none of our guests were travelling long distance and lost money like you are.
I did tell some people that we were postponing because I was so embarrassed and it was easier to say that than the truth.
So...

Have a lovely weekend in Scotland, baby free as you have the chance. I would tell the friend though as its short notice you would lose your money and unfortunately won't be able to attend the new date (but I don't think there will be one! Hopefully that's not true!)

[WilsonFrickett]

glasgow events listing guide also has a food and drink section. Tonnes on in Glasgow any time of year, expect rain but honestly, you'll have a great time.

[ALittleBitOfChristmasMagic]

Definitely have a lovely weekend in glasgow !! I'm not far from there and it's a beautiful place . Definitely go to Loch Lomond . And I'd suggest viva Brazil for dinner . If you don't mind saying where are you staying ?

[WhenWhyWhere]

Gosh what plonkers!

I hope you have a wonderful weekend away. I would let them know that you can't reschedule it - maybe you can meet up with them on your weekend and have a pre-wedding celebration.

I would enjoy a kid free weekend in Glasgow with my DH way more than a wedding

[cupoftchai]

Just veggie or do u eat fish? Wudon on great western rd has great sushi/tempura menu with a few just veg choices

[AgentProvocateur]

There's a "weekend in Glasgow - what's unmissable?" Thread in chat at the moment.

As an aside, how do I link a thread on an iPad?

[SconeRhymesWithGone]

Glasgow is great. So much to do and very friendly people.

[liquidstate]

Isn't the Charles Rennie Mackintosh designed Art school in Glasgow. Its the one place I would love to go. daily tours can be booked here:

www.gsa.ac.uk/visit-gsa/mackintosh-building-tours/

They sound very dippy. Annoying for you, the bride and groom can't expect you to rebook in the Autumn and shell out again. But try and enjoy your weekend away

[HeartsTrumpDiamonds]

Went to a conference in Glasgow last year and loved it! Very different to my expectations. I'd love to go back and explore properly.

Oh yeah, that wedding ain't happening.

[peaz]

My cousin did this.... AFTER people had booked their flights from England to the States! People still went over (on the non-wedding date) and had a great time etc but it wasn't something they would have done if there wasn't a wedding, if you get me?

My mum had booked her flight too, then I got pregnant and was due just after the wedding (she was staying on for a bit), then the wedding got cancelled so she rearranged her holiday so that she was back in time for the birth (typically I went 2 weeks over) then cousin rescheduled the wedding and my mum felt bad that no one from the uk was going (cos of lack of funds!!) so she forked out for a second trip!

[LoveBeingCantThinkOfAName]

Please go and have a fab time before you go back to work

[Noggie]

If you fancy seeing a film the grosvenor in the west end has sofas and wine! Or Glasgow film theatre in centre has interesting films. Not sure about Thai massage- blythswood square spa is amazing

[UncleT]

I don't buy it either. If there's not a serious problem in the relationship then they are bang out of order. Even if there is, they're saying it's postponed - this surely risks messing people around even further.

[PrimalLass]

Glasgow is brill. Even though we are only an hour away, OH works there everyday, is from there and I lived there for 5 years, we still went there for a weekend sans kids last year. It was great to be in the city (we live in the sticks).

[Mabelandrose]

Go and enjoy! I would be annoyed though.

[BadgersNadgers]

Glasgow is brilliant. Someone's got cold feet, wedding's off I'd bet.

[pipsy76]

You lot are making me want to visit Glasgow, I'm now planning a city break

[BuilderofDuplo]

I would be severely hacked off too, definitely go and enjoy your weekend, Glasgow is a great place for a weekend break. I would not be attending the rearranged wedding if it goes ahead. The fact that their family wouldn't help them out speaks volumes about what they think of the future of this relationship.

[maddy68]

I would say there is more to this story

Feel sorry for them ASAP best they've had to admit they can't afford their wedding, at worst....well .....

[ImMarmite]

Sounds to me like the day is the most important thing!!! They wanna get a grip & realise a wedding day is about celebrating their love together & with people how love & care for them...it's NOT an excuse for a party!!!

Go enjoy your weekend with your little family

[LittleBearPad]

Go to Glasgow anyway and have a lovely time. Your friends are taking the piss.

[IwishIwasmoreorganised]

Enjoy your weekend away anyway. It would be a shame to just write that amount of money off.

If it was me,( and the wedding does go ahead) I'd buy them some lovely engraved glasses with the original wedding date in as a present!!

[bouncingbelle]

Go to ashton lane for drinks, it's fab! :)

[Bue]

My coworker's cousin did this - and she was flying from the UK to NEW ZEALAND! And it was a non-refundable flight. No reason given other than 'it's all getting a bit stressful organising it on time and we felt it would be best if we postponed the wedding to a later date and pared down the plans'. I have often wondered if familial relations are still a bit frosty...