To think this is an ok lunch for ds?

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Ds1 is 7.

He has some issues with food. Severe allergies to milk, eggs, shellfish and some nuts. He also detests having lunch at school, he hates the smell of the hot lunches and hates sitting near people eating anything that either smells strong or he is allergic to.
He also cannot abide having a lunch box and prefers a clear plastic bag as it "stays clean".

Before the holidays I was trying really hard to tempt him with nice food, pasta salads, cous cous, fruit salad, different crisps etc etc and he was not eating his lunch and getting unwell and hungry every afternoon and getting stomach pains.

I asked him last week to tell me what he would eat and I'd get it if he promised to eat all of his lunch every day. He told me a few things he will eat and I made his lunch last night:

A small bottle of water
A packet of ready salted crisps
Few slices of cucumber
Small apple
2 fruit shortcake biscuits
Alpro chocolate milkshake

Dsis was at my house, she took one look at ds lunch and said "what is that? If that's his lunch its appalling"

I didn't think it was too bad ? He eats a decent breakfast every day either porridge made with soya milk, potato cakes or tea cakes and a drink of water. I just want him to eat some lunch at school.

oh gosh I'm really recognising a lot of this with regards to my eldest dd, a teen. the packed lunch phobia thing, and food hygiene/smell issues, it's actually getting worse as she gets older and more able to make her own food, choices, eat out alone etc. She doesn't have allergies but has stomach issues (reflux, suspected coeliac or Behcets still under investigation) Weirdly she's fine with most restaurants and commercial chains, and to some would be seen as quite adventurous - she eats spicy foods, lots of food from foreign countries etc, but it has a common theme of similar ingredients and nothing she won't eat in it, also she likes "Dry" food a bit like your ds, and when she was having packed lunches she would never eat, she would subside on a drink and crisps or a biscuit all day and was underweight, but would eat 4 slices of toast when she got home. Her appetite increased as she hit teens but the anxiety and smell thing is getting worse, especially looking at other people eating, the sounds etc. She doesn't like foods touching and eats things on her plate separately. I really don't know why this is apart from the stomach thing and image anxiety which isn't too bad normally, "dieting" is not on her agenda in fact she wants to eat 3 healthy meals a day instead of subsisting on bought, unhealthy snacks and sugary drinks (she'll drink a fanta or the like when she feels shaky, if she's at school or work, because it's easier than having to find something she'll eat, especially if she's not able to access something on her list of foods she happy with!) Work is especially a bad time, one shift at weekends all day she is only able to take food with her, not go out and buy any, and she often relies on me bringing her something like a shop bought sandwich or a McD's or something. If she was at home she'd eat a greek salad, or a chicken sandwich or something perfectly normal.) It's very strange and I think a form of anxiety. Hope you can get something sorted for your ds.

In my experience family members have been the critical and unsupportive.
You sound so caring and concerned. He is lucky to have you.
After reading some of these comments I am now dreading the school lunches for my Dd ,and she's only two.
I had better start growing a thick skin.

It's not ideal but if he will eat it it's better than a really healthy lunch that he won't touch
Hope you don't mind me saying but he sounds like he could be somewhere on the autism spectrum. (Dislikes certain smells, will only have a certain lunchbox etc) (He may just be fussy and not at all!). But that's the first thing that jumped out at me from your post. Really hope I havent offended you.
Back to the op. Are the school ok with that? I know some schools the lunchbox police would remove some of those things. Make sure that school know about his issues before hand