to keep DD home rather than send her to this?

[Sleeplesssister]

My DD aged 3 is meant to be attending an activities session tomorrow which will assess whether she gets into a certain girls prep school that DH is very keen on. Problem is, she has been throwing up since Saturday. DH says that if she manages breakfast tomorrow we should still send her, and that although we could re-schedule, the prep school will probably allocate all its places tomorrow so she will be at a disadvantage if they don't see her...

We will obviously see how she is tomorrow morning, and ask her how she feels about going to 'have a play' at this school, but my heart strings are going at the thought of sending her along when she is not feeling at her best. I went to school abroad so don't know how these sorts of schools work, anyone have any ideas or views?

Noiti

Sorry..big phone issues.

I am not annoyed. I dont feel you should have to explain yourself if feeling angry either,is all. :)

So what does happen in private schools when they admit kids with special needs or SEN? Do they charge the child's parents for support staff different materials and equipment, would that in itself be disablist?

I know a pair of twins, one of whom has SEN. They both attend a private prep and the parents are personally footing the bill for their son's TA. However the parents know its only a matter of time before he is pushed out.

And the lawyers are involved, so it's not like the parents haven't made any attempt to fight for their DS's education. Unless you have a large legal fund and are up for a relentless fight you don't stand a chance in the private system.

coco I can only speak for the school I work in but the parents of our children with SEND pay for some things but not others. They don't pay for additional resources, adaptations or support given by the class teacher or teaching assistants. They do pay for any individual support lessons they choose to take and sometimes for a personal support assistant if they need one (statemented children get this funded in the same way that their peers in state schools do.)

This is true for children at both ends of the learning needs spectrum by the way - very high included, even if no other SEN.

It depends on the school and the needs.
My son was at one of the best academic independent schools in the country. The had plenty of incredibly intelligent boys on the spectrum. He regularly spotted and mentored boys as they entered the lower years. He always felt it was a brilliant environment where they could all be themselves and 'geekiness' was admired.

At a pervious school where he had just been warmly offered a place by the Head, ds2 suddenly did some massive stims and another member of staff hastily asked us to explain. When we did she pointed at ds1 in some alarm and said 'he doesn't have anything like that does he!'
Obviously we took DS1 somewhere else.

It depends on the school. I'm lucky and all my chikdren go to schools that best meet their needs. The idea that independent schools are a way to avoid my dc mixing with chikdren with SN is bloody stupid.