to get the rage at thin-ist comments?

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Am I??

Seriously, just over the last few days, I've seen so many comments slating thin women and it's starting to piss me off. I would never dream of making sizeist comments, firstly because I don't think being a certain size (or not) makes you attractive.

But a brief list of the thin-ist comments I've come across this week.

"Most men don't go for size 8s"
"It would be like shagging a folding deckchair"
"some skinny little cow"
if he wants you to lose that much weight and be that slim, he must be gay"

etc..

If anyone tried to same the same about, say, size 18s they'd be slaughtered and rightly so. So why is it ok to pick on women who are slim? Not "anorexic" (unless they really are of course, which is a completely different issue), women who are just naturally slim and small. Why? WHHHYYY??

Trash can, is there a point to your post or did you just want to pick apart your friends eating habits?

Eyes on your own plates ladies and gents

Some people can eat whatever they want trashcan I have had a large wetherspoons breakfast, large bag of mini eggs, 2 crumpets and crispy duck pancakes and rice, 5 halfs of cider and black and still only 7 and a half stone. Im just skinny not all skinny people have to starve themselves.

Definitely much more passive aggressive. So that it might look like you were being over sensitive if you reacted angrily.

Angus99 why is your wife lucky? Slim doesn't necessarily mean healthy.

I've seen these comments, the deck chair one was particularily horrid.

I don't like the memes going around FB atmo. I see my friends posting them and Ihave to admit t

There are a lot of unpleasant remarks on that thread, sizest both ways and homophobic too.

And each comment like that made at least three other Mnetters shouted it down.

On the second thread, well granted, yes the stick insect comment was bloody stupid. So done else could be reading as they are uncomfortable naked as they font feel womanly enough.

I find threads like this though inevitably also attract some unattractive personalities.

It's interesting that both threads had LOADS of sizest comments but you only focused on the skinny ones? Possibly because you've dealt with it in real life?

traschcan You've got it. Ok. You have experience of one thin person, so that's all of us nailed then. No. Today was a pretty normal day, food wise. I had a big bowl of muesli and a banana for breakfast. 4 bourbon biscuits after that. Soup, cheese and boiled egg for lunch. 2 bags of crisps in the afternoon, and another handful of bourbons. Grapes and cheese while cooking dinner. Dinner was a huge plate of ham&cheese rice gratin with veg. And I mean, a full big plate of rice. Then half a child size plate as DS1 didn't finish his. Another bag of crisps after kids were in bed, one more bowl of muesli and now 100g of milkybar. And I finished every single bloody bite of all of that

However - me, my mum and grandma are all size 8s. Great grandma was probably a size 6, tall but v slim. Soo.. could it be genetics (therefore natural) or am I just lying to myself and the world about how much I eat?

I know I dont have to justify myself, just for anyone who thinks anyone is a size 8 because they starve themselves or spend every waking minute at the gym

I would probably gain weight. But I expect I'd have to eat well over 2500 calories.

I've had plenty of comments about my weight but tbh it doesn't bother me too much. Like others have said its likely down to jealousy. I seem to be getting more of it what with being pregnant and very small. I would never dream on commenting negatively on someone's physical appearance.

I saw that thread too, OP, horrible. It does seem to be more acceptable to denigrate thinness rather than fatness.

If it's not ok to disparage one then it's not ok to disparage the other either.

Agh, got cut off. I absolutely dislike the idea that those of a smaller size are any less womanly than those that are larger size,(someone, please tell me the norm).

Maybe its an attempt to bully persuade men to prefer them, thus swinging the odds more in their favour?

Like a sort of propaganda campaign? Men prefer curvy women, repeat ad infinitum until most men are scared to admit to anything different?

Honeydragon on the longer thread there were comments both ways and I was relieved for the op that people were picking up on the negative comments on her weight and pulling people up on it. Was also relieved that others noticed the anti-skinny comments (including me!), but I felt they weren't defended as much. I think you are right, though, that they stood out more for me as they were more personally painful.

Thants Angus99 why is your wife lucky? Slim doesn't necessarily mean healthy

Her BMI is likely to be in a healthy range. BMI is a tool designed to compare populations. It shows that a higher BMI leads to a higher risk of cardiovascular disease at an early age. Her waist size is also likely to be smaller. Waist size is directly correlated statistically to much lesser likelihood of adult onset of Type 2 diabetes.

Lessmiss it's a reaction to be constantly told day in day out that your body is ugly and that being slim is an important part of femininity. However it blames the wrong people! We all need to fight sexist ideology not each other.

Lessmiss but if she eats crap it doesn't mean she is healthy just because she is slim...

Thants. I made no comment about whether I thought she was lucky, by any objective measure. I said that probably by many people's reckoning she is lucky because she seems able to eat at will and not put on weight. I believe she feels lucky herself because whatever else she might feels about her shape she prefers having a flat stomach. That's all.
So to your other point - Isshe in fact objectively speaking unlucky because she is unhealthy?
Er... We'll am afraid I ever mentioned her being unhealthy. In fact you appear to suffering from exactly the prejudice this thread has raised. It is your prejudice to equate thinness with lack of health.

thants spot on!

I'm size 8. Aside from walking to work & back, I don't really exercise. In fact you could probably figure out from my recent posts that I spend my free time on MN & eating homemade fudge.

Read your own post. You made a point of saying she eats a lot of animal fat but is still thin.
I think it's important to focus on health rather than aesthetics and to not assume that simply because one is thin they are healthy. I don't know either way but you have based it entirely on her thinness.

Sorry Thants on re-reading your post you don't appear to be saying quite what I thought you were.

Why would you like to be told you look curvy OP? No one uses that word in its true sense any more, it's become a euphemism for chubby.

Why do people assume that slim people have a crap diet?

"Lessmiss it's a reaction to be constantly told day in day out that your body is ugly and that being slim is an important part of femininity. However it blames the wrong people! We all need to fight sexist ideology not each other."

A thousand times this!! Thank you Thants very well said!

Thants just saying that BMI, which you can work out from height and weight, was a tool designed for comparing populations, and that is what its medical use is for. That's why its not particularly good for individuals, but what it does do is predict reasonably accurately that if a population has a certain percentage of people with a BMI over X then statistically that town will need more cardiovascular resources than another town with a lower proportion.

Floozey maybe I'd like to be told I'm chubby then Why is that strange?