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Original poster

Some f**king old bag

246 replies

Mummasmurf · 15/12/2013 17:31

Is it me?

We moved towns in July and started going to the local church. I joined the choir in November (half of which can't sing). A few weeks ago one of the old bags shouted loudly that she wished my DD would stop running round. I glared at her. The "running round" was that she went to the back of the church and came back to tell the choir master it sounded "beautiful".

Tonight we were at a Christingle service (a kids service basically) and she loudly had a go again cos the DD stood up to have a look at the goings on.

I'm really pissed off at her and now I don't know whether I should bother going back. The other women said she was out of order and don't let it get to me. It's just that when it's your kids someone's having a go at it's worse than if she was having a go at me.

OP posts:
VerySmallSqueak · 15/12/2013 18:04

Some of us old bags find a happy child enjoying being in the church is the only amusement we can find when put in a position that we have to go to church.

I love watching the little kids 'misbehaving'. My kids thought churches were castles when they were tiny,and just loved being in them.

HairyGrotter · 15/12/2013 18:04

It's all go in the church...packed to the crucifixes with hypocrites and horrors..! Enjoy Grin

formerbabe · 15/12/2013 18:05

To be honest, some of the most religious people (inc all religions here by the way) that I know are also the most nasty people I know.

Salmotrutta · 15/12/2013 18:05

I know a fair few religious people (unlike me) and they never swear.

usualsuspect · 15/12/2013 18:05

Was it Enda from Emmerdale?

usualsuspect · 15/12/2013 18:06

Or her sister Edna

Salmotrutta · 15/12/2013 18:07

Are you going to explain why the "old bag" was hypocritical formerbabe?

Hypocrisy doesn't mean telling off children as far as I know?

RaRa1988 · 15/12/2013 18:07

Good grief. Reinforces the idea that religion is the source of most evil in the world Hmm . Can't figure out who's the most intolerant - the OP or the 'old bag'!

formerbabe · 15/12/2013 18:08

I would imagine she considers herself moral and compassionate if she has a faith and worships regularly and I don't think she acted very kindly to a young child.

Salmotrutta · 15/12/2013 18:09

Or do you mean the "suffer the little children" aspect?

Unless the old bag was the vicar or Jesus I don't see hypocrisy.

Salmotrutta · 15/12/2013 18:10

Or maybe she's old school Christian?

Spare the rod and spoil the child etc.

Salmotrutta · 15/12/2013 18:11

Or was that Old Testament?

I don't know why I even care Confused

Original poster
Mummasmurf · 15/12/2013 18:11

Thanks for your support, I'm sure that's what this site was for?

Of course I came on here for a rant rather than telling her what I thought of her. Maybe I have it all wrong..

No my DD wasn't blocking her view.

Yes I am otherwise happy.

Yes I am good natured, I guess I'm not in the clique.

OP posts:
PresidentServalan · 15/12/2013 18:11

You do know that not all people think your little darling is as charming as you do, don't you OP?

And I agree with PPs - your description of the woman is vile.

formerbabe · 15/12/2013 18:12

I think the op is right...I would have called her an 'old bag' to her face.

Alliwantisaroomsomewhere · 15/12/2013 18:13

OP, it is not a case of not being in "the clique". That's a childish thing to say. You were nasty about a group of women at your church. That's what the uproar is about.

Get a grip. Or get a fucking grip.

herethereandeverywhere · 15/12/2013 18:14

Wonderful Christian attitudes from all parties involved Hmm

Salmotrutta · 15/12/2013 18:14

I doubt I'll ever support someone who comes on here and lumps all older women together insultingly by using the phrase :-

one of the old bags

Golddigger · 15/12/2013 18:15

I personally wouldnt want you to stop going to church because of that. Have a word with the vicar.
[yes I know that the op is bandiing words about]. But I believe that a church, and the people in it, should learn to be tolerant. Peace and all that.

Latara · 15/12/2013 18:16

This thread illustrates why I don't go to church or call myself a practising Christian.

Neither the old lady in the OP or the OP herself demonstrate very kind Christian ''turn the other cheek'' attitudes - I find many 'Christians' to be hypocritical like that, sorry.

Canidae · 15/12/2013 18:17

If this one woman upset you, why are they all 'old bags'? Because they can't sing? Charming.

TondelayoSchwarzkopf · 15/12/2013 18:17

You Christians truly do set examples to the rest of us.

MiracleOntheM4 · 15/12/2013 18:18

The site is very supportive for those who need help/advice not to vindicate shitty behaviour.

oldbaghere · 15/12/2013 18:18

But OP your rant wasn't just about one "old bag". You lumped all the older women together AND you disparaged the fact they can't sing - so what if they enjoy it and feel it's an appropriate way to show their love of God.

Can you see that?

JodieGarberJacob · 15/12/2013 18:19

I think this is an older person feeling that the mother is allowing her child to misbehave but saying it obliquely. What is a mother's indulgent moment is another person's irritation. Tolerance all round needed. Maybe you need to join a church?

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