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Some f**king old bag

246 replies

Mummasmurf · 15/12/2013 17:31

Is it me?

We moved towns in July and started going to the local church. I joined the choir in November (half of which can't sing). A few weeks ago one of the old bags shouted loudly that she wished my DD would stop running round. I glared at her. The "running round" was that she went to the back of the church and came back to tell the choir master it sounded "beautiful".

Tonight we were at a Christingle service (a kids service basically) and she loudly had a go again cos the DD stood up to have a look at the goings on.

I'm really pissed off at her and now I don't know whether I should bother going back. The other women said she was out of order and don't let it get to me. It's just that when it's your kids someone's having a go at it's worse than if she was having a go at me.

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VerySmallSqueak · 15/12/2013 18:20

I think that the shit isn't all flowing in one direction.

The woman was intolerant of the op's DD,and that has pissed the op off.

While the op is being thoughtless in the choice of language,I think I would be riled and not feeling the love towards the 'old bag'.

ButterflyJenn14 · 15/12/2013 18:20

I would have told the fuckin old bag to shove her christingle up her ass, give her something to really be uptight about!

ilovesooty · 15/12/2013 18:22

You think you've been criticised and posters find your attitude unpleasant because you're not in some kind of clique? Get over yourself.

Your thread title was thoroughly unpleasant, as was your OP. I think you need to take a good hard look at yourself and your attitudes if you're unable to comprehend that.

LifeIsBetterInFlipFlops · 15/12/2013 18:22

If you keep your DD next to you - problem solved.

GodRestTEEMerryGenTEEmen · 15/12/2013 18:25

Which clique would that be?

The be polite to other people clique? Don't call people names clique?

You're right. You don't belong to that clique.

Too bad for you. We have wine every night.

NoComet · 15/12/2013 18:25

DMIL used to complain bitterly about the singing abilities of some of the choir. Ours isn't at all bad. Mind you I am biased DD1 sings solos for them.

ilovesooty · 15/12/2013 18:26

Butterfly was that a s
erious comment? If so you make the OP seem positively pleasant.

Rissolesfortea · 15/12/2013 18:26

Ah, not very christian are you? despite going to church. Another "old bag" here Xmas Confused

formerbabe · 15/12/2013 18:27

I know its childish but the 'old bag' started it.

monicalewinski · 15/12/2013 18:28

Fucking hell.

I was all geared up to start being a Christian next week due to the fact that they're all 'turn the other cheek' and all that - and I'm such an old bitch usually.

I shan't now, if it's just a bunch of grumpy old bags and young bags with errant children who can't behave - it would just end up in me being even more unreasonable than I already am.

usualsuspect · 15/12/2013 18:28

We have special 'Old bag' wine.In the 'Old bag' clique.And werthers.

LifeIsBetterInFlipFlops · 15/12/2013 18:28

Errr - formerbabe, the OP started it by not keeping her daughter by her side.

Salmotrutta · 15/12/2013 18:32

And don't forget the tartan rugs for our knees usual

ilovesooty · 15/12/2013 18:33

Perhaps formerbabe thinks they started it by not being good enough singers?

Golddigger · 15/12/2013 18:34

All churches are different. Unfortunately, there are some people in them who are not so charitable as they should be.
I would say to the op, others, and to monicalewinski, that if you dont like one for whatever reason, try another.

Joysmum · 15/12/2013 18:34

Great Christian attitude there.

Rissolesfortea · 15/12/2013 18:34

Tartan rugs? I have a hand crochet shawl and a rocking chair, so there!

Elsiequadrille · 15/12/2013 18:34

I think the woman in question was really quite intolerant, especially to speak out so. Don't let her put you off attending.

However, agree thread title was ill judged.

Lemonraisin · 15/12/2013 18:35

I opened this up hoping this was about an actual bag and find out what it had done so wrong. Disappointed.

Elsiequadrille · 15/12/2013 18:37

The other women agreed she was out of order, too. I think you should take their advice and try not to let it get to you.

LadyBeagleEyes · 15/12/2013 18:38

You'll find OP that there's a lot of older MNers on here that object to ageist comments, I think you need to start a young bag clique.

formerbabe · 15/12/2013 18:39

It was a children oriented service and the child wanted to stand up to see what was going on...I don't think that warrants unpleasantness.

Whistleblower0 · 15/12/2013 18:39

Ah OP, you're of those indulgent mothers who cannot possibly see that what you interpret as your child being spirited or some such shite, others prabably see as plain bad behaviour!
I think the 'old bags' might just be hoping that you dont come back[ smile]
Perhaps you could channel your talents elsewhere. Am dram might be the way to go for you, - you being such a drama lamaWink

ZenNudist · 15/12/2013 18:40

If my dc didn't sit quietly in their seats in church I'd be mortified. It's not a place for wandering about, especially when a choir is singing.

As for christingle I know its children's service but they still need to be told to sit down. Perhaps she thinks your parenting is lax.

From your title I was expecting rough geriatric stole your shopping. I wasn't expecting choir masters & church.

LifeIsBetterInFlipFlops · 15/12/2013 18:40

To be honest, nothing warrants the unpleasantness - but it's there in both parties.

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