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Some f**king old bag

246 replies

Mummasmurf · 15/12/2013 17:31

Is it me?

We moved towns in July and started going to the local church. I joined the choir in November (half of which can't sing). A few weeks ago one of the old bags shouted loudly that she wished my DD would stop running round. I glared at her. The "running round" was that she went to the back of the church and came back to tell the choir master it sounded "beautiful".

Tonight we were at a Christingle service (a kids service basically) and she loudly had a go again cos the DD stood up to have a look at the goings on.

I'm really pissed off at her and now I don't know whether I should bother going back. The other women said she was out of order and don't let it get to me. It's just that when it's your kids someone's having a go at it's worse than if she was having a go at me.

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BrianTheMole · 16/12/2013 00:54

The OP is 40. I'm wondering how old some of the self confessed "old bags" on this thread are. Probably younger than that!

Oh, ermm, well I'm a bit older than that. But not much. Aren't you a bit of a fucking old bag yourself then op? Grin

JollySantersSelectionBox · 16/12/2013 01:03

Misogyny is rife in the bible. In the nativity everyone knows about the 3 Kings and copious visiting shepherds.

Not one mention of the old bag who brought a packet of Peak Freen Fig Rolls and came to tell the parents to stop that baby making an awful racket.

KittensoftPuppydog · 16/12/2013 08:43

Garlic. My ad is for expensive handbags. I feel very bad about it. Very bad.

Beastofburden · 16/12/2013 08:48

The life of Brian had it right. Mary as old bag was fabulous.

"Er, thanks for the gold and stuff. But next time, don't bother with the Myrrh, all right?"

Is it wrong to say that my two must-watch Christmas films are the Life of Brian and the Muppets Christmas Carol?

Beastofburden · 16/12/2013 08:49

I've got the National Trust.

Why? Why? I am just as susceptible to expensive handbags. And now I am an old bag successful career woman I can even afford them.

ilovesmurfs · 16/12/2013 08:52

some people are funny about kids in churches and what they think.is acceptable behaviour.

not ok.to call her an.old bag, havent read the whole thread but i assume you have got a slating for that? tho maybe not on another thread 11yr old girls were refered to as bitches and vile gits and that seemed to be ok...

clarinetV2 · 16/12/2013 09:05

Garlicbaubles Grin Grin

Beastofburden your Christmas films and mine are identical. Though I sometimes alternate Life of Brian with Meaning of Life. When my DC were little they used to love singing along with Every Sperm is Sacred. Makes me feel proper Christmassy just thinking about it! A number for the OP's choir to add to their repertoire maybe.

Beastofburden · 16/12/2013 09:42

LOL at massed choirs of old bags singing every sperm is sacred.

A MN meet- up, perhaps? Grin

Meant to say I loooooved garlicbaubles post.

alemci · 16/12/2013 09:56

I think you have to take no notice. There are always 'old bags' in every walk of life. Perhaps she wants to yield a bit of power.

DC should be at church and it needs young people to come in. Is your dd the only dc there at the choir practice?

drudgetrudy · 16/12/2013 10:37

Well I'm a proper 60+ old bag. What pissed me off is that you dismissed all the older women as "old bags" writing them all off. It wouldn't have been quite as bad if it was only the miserable one you were referring to - although still not particularly Christian and forgiving.

lilac26 · 16/12/2013 12:17

...now I don't know whether I should bother going back

no, I don't think you should. Attending Church clearly isn't making you into much of a sunbeam is it?

Maybe you should give up Church and Religion completely - I do neither and am far nicer than you!

LEMoncehadacatcalledSANTA · 16/12/2013 12:20

You don't sound very christian - are people to have auditions a la x factor now before they are allowed to sing in the choir?

JodieGarberJacob · 16/12/2013 16:22

Wow! Peak Freens, a blast from the past! I haven't heard of them since the sixties. Are they still around?

LineRunner · 16/12/2013 17:38

Wilkinson have £1 Christmas tubes of Parma violets.

You read it here first.

Thisisaghostlyeuphemism · 16/12/2013 17:42

Wtf is this old bag business?

AdmiralData · 16/12/2013 17:53

OP, you and the lady mentioned are both being tactless. Just do the kiss of peace and make up already ;)

Salmotrutta · 16/12/2013 18:01

Having thought this through I've decided that I prefer Pan Drops to Werthers.

Salmotrutta · 16/12/2013 18:04

Save Our Pan Drops!!

A Worthy Campaign

thebody · 16/12/2013 18:05

garlicbaubles and lilac26 made me spit out my tea. Grin

complexnumber · 16/12/2013 18:15

I confess that I have not read every post on here.

But I am amused at the extent some posters are getting outraged by the use of a rather harmless expression 'old bag' and yet they are quite happy to accept (even celebrate) other expressions such as wankbadger or cunt.

I remember calling my mum an old bag when I was about 8, my dad fell about laughing and my mum had to pretend to be super outraged.

SunshinemMum · 16/12/2013 18:20

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Salmotrutta · 16/12/2013 18:20

I think if I'd call my mum an old bag my dad would have gone absolutely ballistic.

It's a dismissive and casually nasty expression.

And I never use the two other examples of terminology you gave either complex.

GodRestTEEMerryGenTEEmen · 16/12/2013 18:30

Whereas my mother gets much more insulted by being called an old dear.

Isn't great how we're all so different?

Heartbrokenmum73 · 16/12/2013 18:34

The reason 'old bag' is so offensive is because it's a derogatory, mysoginistic term, aimed solely at women, whereas wankbadger (and my favourite, cockwomble) are just silly insults and aren't really intended to be offensive - they get bandied about on here in general daftness, I've found.

How someone can be unable to see the difference between 'old bag' (which was clearly used maliciously by the OP) and 'wankbadger' is beyond me Confused

I shan't comment on cunt Grin

Heartbrokenmum73 · 16/12/2013 18:34

And I can actually spell misogynistic (with the help of spell check)

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