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absentmindeddooooodles · 11/12/2013 16:55

My ds is 2.9. He goes to the nursery down the road one day a week. ( cannot afford for him to go any more regularly) just to get socialised and to try and work on seperation anxiety. velcro child syndrome

Went to pick him up today and was met by three of the nursery workers "wanting to have a talk".

This got me really worried as they looked very....strict. like I was being bloody told off.

To cut a long story short....they told me that as my son is still in nappies I would have to think about taking him out of nursery until the problem is sorted!! ( problem him not being potty trained)

They talked for a good ten mins about how its an inconvenience to them having such a big boy needing constant monitoring incase hes done a poo.

I didnt want to get into an argument and never would infront of all the kids, but did put across a couple of points:
. He is in "the baby room" as they call it. Babies from birth to 3 years. There are fewer older toddlers than babies....so I imagine they should be all set up forpchanging nappies.
.theybe never said anything to me before about him being in nappies being an issue. I have even had discussions with his keyworker about the favt that I had tried potty training him but he got a v bad bout of chicken pox right in the middle of it so we have gone back to square one.
. I dont personally think he's too old to be in nappies. He's not 3 until april and as long as he isn't rocking up to his first day of school in pampers Its fine.
. He is currently undergoing a diagnnosis for adhd and possibly as. It's bloody hard enough to get through the day without making him do something hes not ready to.

Their response to all the above was that he is more than old enough to be using a toilet and by him not doing this its taking time away from the babies who actually need looking after!!!!!

Out of the three of them who spoke to me....the youngest one ( about 16 on placement) told me it was disgusting to have to clean up a fully grown childs poo!

Im reeling and actually v embarassed as there were quite a few other parents round while this was going on.

Now I know ianbu to not be impressed with the way this was dealt with......but aibu to not have potty trained him by now?

Should he be totally out of nappies by this age? This is my first dc and moat friends dc are younger thn mine. A family member had their dd totally dry through the night by 2.5....but all kids are different.....surely its down to the individual?

Im sorry this has been so epically long...but am at a loss!
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Lomaamina · 09/01/2014 22:19

Poor you OP. This is horrendous, although the good support from the tutor must be some small consolation. Don't hesitate about speaking to the police. They will judge better than the tutor whether they can use the txt spk emails. I'd be quite confident this isn't the first time such a 'language' has needed to be translated in court.

DoubleLifeIsALifeOfSorts · 10/01/2014 09:40

Oh dear, what an IDIOT your ndn sounds - how could she sit there and openly spout her lies and fucked up attitude? It's so weird and stupid of her.

Yes to reporting this to police - they don't seem to have picked up the wider issues through you calling them about the obstruction, so it's time to take it up a notch.

Ugh. She makes me shudder. Why would anyone waste their time in doing this stuff? Chocolate in your garden? Ffs.

PrivateBenjamin · 10/01/2014 15:27

Have you reported your NDN to the housing association/ council yet OP? She is the one causing trouble so she should be the one who is moved, not you. Also, has the school been notified (the school that the nursery is on the grounds of)? They might start to pull their weight if they know that the staff from the nursery have been suspended from their course due to these lies and false accusations, yet the nursery is happy to still have NDN and Work Experience girl looking after vulnerable children.

I really hope you can take some action against them, they sound completely horrendous. Their accusations about you are completely far fetched and idiotic. Surely nobody would believe them.

Sending you lots of support Flowers

InPursuitOfOblivion · 14/01/2014 08:42

Of course poorly written, grammatically incorrect, text speak can be used by the police.
I worked as a paralegal for a while and it seems most of the general public can barely speak English properly let alone write eloquently!
What does this chap think was used to prosecute the Mark Duggan rioters with their BBM?
You do also need to report the chocolate incidents as well. I know it might seem a bit ridiculous but she is deliberately trying to harm an animal which is an offence in itself.

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