Dh hurt dd

[Hotcoffeeburn]

I have namechanged.

I am so upset. Got in tonight and dd who is 12 asked could she make a hot drink for herself. She is 12 and we have a tassimo hot drink maker, she has used it before to make hot choc and is very careful.

She decided to try and make a coffee first for me without saying and used a too small cup and it overflowed a little bit but not too much then she started making her drink. For some reason dh had a go at her for using the wrong cup, they were both standing by the sink, he picked up another cup and not seeing it was dirty started to pour the coffee into it-I said to him "oh no that's a dirty cup!" And he promptly threw it into the sink splashing dd with really hot coffee. She screamed and burst into tears and he shouted again that it wasn't that hot.

I have changed her top and put cold water on her tummy, she is very tearful but ok now. Dh is being really, really grumpy, doesn't think he did anything wrong and I am really upset.

Feel like telling him to just go actually. Really can't stand the sight of him

Aibu?

OP hopefully you are feeling better today. Do remember to look after yourself, won't you? I'm now tring to understand thread direction. Your DH is ill...? But whatever it is, you may not be able to be counsellor, enabler, facilitator etc without suffering burnout eventually. I'm glad you're all trying; within that I hope your DH is also included in this trying, by actively seeking help now for whatever issues he has.

Still at your DH making your DD feel like rubbish + shouting and calling you a selfish bitch. Not nice to live with. You can't all tiptoe around him to make him feel better - that probably won't work anyway and besides, you & DCs need to feel better too, its not just about your DH, and putting up with this because he's feeling under the weather.