Mil sharing private family news.

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Dc3 was recently admitted to hospital with a chest infection. He is only little, so they kept him in for 36 hours to keep an eye on him and give him some oxygen.
My mil helped out by popping in and taking the dd and ds to school, which was a help so that dh could be with me at the hospital.
We didn't tell dc1 and 2 that dc3 was in hospital as we didn't want to worry them and we were unsure about what was happening
However, when taking dc to school mil has told people and the teaching staff that dc3 was in hospital. There was absolutely no need for mil to tell anyone, dc3 had only just been admitted, we hadn't told the other dc and it is our private family business. It's not that I don't necessarily want people to know, I just feel it is not her place to tell people at school who she barely knows. It is for me and dh to choose when and if to tell people.
I think mil revels in drama and particular medical stuff, which is fine if it is her or fil business, but not if it's mind.
Subsequently upon return we have had numerous teachers and people at school asking about it.
I'm obviously a little sensitive at the moment . I just don't think it's mil place to tell the tiger moms and teachers at school.
Aibu?

Yes, if you were friends mother, but not if you didn't know them.

And if you are friends they would have told you anyway?

Of course you wouldn't talk about a miscarriage, or the intimate details of somebody's gynaecological operation! But that's not what this thread is about. It's about a child being briefly in hospital for a chest infection.

Er...actually probably even if I only knew them a bit. If, say, they were one of the many perfectly nice people I say hello to quite frequently. "I hope you're OK, I heard X was in hospital?" I might, daringly, enquire.

Oh, i don't know. looks like all the years of trying to do the right thing I have got it all wrong? Too late now.

You have such a lot to learn before you become a MIL, motherinferior. But don't bother, it will be the wrong stuff you learn......

You seem to ascribe really negative motives to people sparkling. I had PND after dd was born and mentioned it whenever it happened to come up, both to people I know and new people at the playgroup I run. Lots of them kindly asked how I was doing now and again. It was lovely and resulted in a couple of friendships becoming much closer and stronger. People generally are kind in my experience. If they want to talk about me so what?

you sound like you and your dh are private people who don't want or need others to know your day to day goings on. theres nothing wrong with that at all. but its not the way the average person is and maybe your mil is more chatty with people about family news than your average person is. so you're poles apart!

I can understand your upset if you feel your boundaries have been crossed. maybe you need to find a middle ground with mil.

She honestly sounds like a nice person who had the best of intentions.

If you don't ever talk to people you don't know. .. How do you get to know them?