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To take them with me?

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Geckos48 · 20/11/2013 10:29

So my husband is away at the moment, he 'doesn't know' if he will be back tonight.
I've had to mess work around already this week and I dont think they could cope with me missing my shift tonight :(

My calls are in an incredibly rural location and its really safe round here.
WIBU to take the children? Make a little 'nest' in the back of the car and give them their bottles and put them down to bed in the large boot of our people carrier?

I could dress them up warm and I would only be out for around 2hours with them, checking back regularly and driving inbetween calls every half an hour or so?

I dont know what else to do!

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noblegiraffe · 20/11/2013 10:32

How can you put them to bed in the boot, and drive around between calls? You would need to keep putting them in their car seat.
Personally, I would not leave my children asleep unattended in a car while I went and did something else requiring my full attention.

Can you get someone to babysit? Hire a babysitter from an agency?

RevengeWiggle · 20/11/2013 10:33

How old are they? I don't think I'd be comfortable with it if they're only babies.

CaptainSweatPants · 20/11/2013 10:35

Er no you can't do that

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Geckos48 · 20/11/2013 10:36

They are 1 and 3.

I would be okay driving them round the very rural location not strapped in because its not very far inbetween places and they are mostly on the same private estate/rural area.

I have and do leave them in the car when they are asleep, I see nothing wrong with that but at night is a new one for me :(

I have asked all my friends and one 'might' be able to help out later but doesnt know what time and another can only babysit til six, well I dont need to leave til 6.30 so thats pointless.

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RevengeWiggle · 20/11/2013 10:38

Sorry I really wouldn't do it, difficult when you have no other option. No family who could help? A neighbour?

Shinyshoes1 · 20/11/2013 10:38

There's no-one that could sit with them ??!

AngelsLieToKeepControl · 20/11/2013 10:38

No way, everywhere is 'really safe', until the day that something happens.

LilyAmaryllis · 20/11/2013 10:38

Unfortunately I don't think you can do this. You're not allowed to leave them asleep in your house while you pop nextdoor to the neighbours for something, for example.

I think you are going to have to find a babysitter, even if that seems like a hard task, you'll have to ask someone.

LilyAmaryllis · 20/11/2013 10:40

NOT STRAPPED IN! No way.

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Geckos48 · 20/11/2013 10:41

They would be strapped in when driving on any actual roads that are not private roads.

There is nobody, I have checked all avenues today. I had someone lined up but shes let me down. I dont know what to do :(

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RevengeWiggle · 20/11/2013 10:41

Definitely don't drive them around in the boot!

sandfrog · 20/11/2013 10:41

Agree with noblegiraffe that you could find a babysitter from an agency such as www.sitters.co.uk/

RevengeWiggle · 20/11/2013 10:42

What about Homestart? O know they can send someone to sit with you for an hour or two but I don't know about babysitting, worth asking?

PurpleRayne · 20/11/2013 10:42

It would probably be fine. But. If it went wrong, it would go wrong big-time. Not worth the risk to your babies. You need to make other arrangements and give your DH hell for not sorting this out properly.

RevengeWiggle · 20/11/2013 10:42

Do they usually go to nursery? My friend is a nursery nurse and babysits the babies occasionally

wannabedomesticgoddess · 20/11/2013 10:43

Leaving them to sleep in their carseats is one thing, but to have them in the boot?

WTAF?

No. You can't do this. Find a babysitter or take the night off.

birdybear · 20/11/2013 10:43

apart from the fact that it is completely illegal and you could be charged with neglect! if i was walking the dog and saw two babies asleep or crying in the boot of a car i would call the police in a shot!

Sirzy · 20/11/2013 10:43

You want to drive them around in the boot and leave them in the car while you work? YABVU

MortifiedAnyFuckerAdams · 20/11/2013 10:43

You are being totally unreasonable, feckless and neglectful driving them on any road not strapped in.

What are you travelling around to do?

I cannot beleive you are seriously considrring this.

ebwy · 20/11/2013 10:44

You know where I would have callad a "reqlly safe" place until comparatively recently? Machynlleth. Poor little April was testament to the fact it isn't. No-where is safe enough. And no journey is short enough either.

ebwy · 20/11/2013 10:45

Sorry my phone loves typos

CaptainSweatPants · 20/11/2013 10:45

Just pay for childcare
Like the rest of us Hmm

Helpyourself · 20/11/2013 10:45

You absolutely cannot do this.
Does your DH understand that you can't work if he's not back

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Geckos48 · 20/11/2013 10:46

If the only issue is the boot thing then I can leave them asleep in their car seats.

I really really fucking wish I wasn't having to deal with this stress.

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drinkyourmilk · 20/11/2013 10:46

Where are you Gecko?