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To take them with me?

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Geckos48 · 20/11/2013 10:29

So my husband is away at the moment, he 'doesn't know' if he will be back tonight.
I've had to mess work around already this week and I dont think they could cope with me missing my shift tonight :(

My calls are in an incredibly rural location and its really safe round here.
WIBU to take the children? Make a little 'nest' in the back of the car and give them their bottles and put them down to bed in the large boot of our people carrier?

I could dress them up warm and I would only be out for around 2hours with them, checking back regularly and driving inbetween calls every half an hour or so?

I dont know what else to do!

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LaQueenOfTheDamned · 21/11/2013 15:05

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Sirzy · 21/11/2013 15:06

You believe people deserve tolerance yet you are willing to post about how you hate someone based on the awful things they have been through. How does that work?

HopAlongOnItsOnlyChristmas · 21/11/2013 15:06

I was thinking similar double although the tasks she is describing sound more like home help than care work. I guess that's a small blessing! I wouldn't be happy paying for a care service, knowing that my carer had left her children in her car outside while she did what I needed her to. Doesn't exactly fill me confidence that she is there to support my needs and treat me with dignity and respect.

IamInvisible · 21/11/2013 15:16

See I believe people deserve tolerance regardless of what they may or may not have done.

What rot! The posts you have written about the members of the Armed Forces show you don't believe that.

You, have, also been on more than 2 threads a our the McCanns. Some of us remember your old name, and some of us remember how bloody nasty you, and others were, on threads about them when the CW programme was going to be shown that the threads had to be deleted!

LtEveDallas · 21/11/2013 15:22

No, Geckos, you post offensive, nasty posts about people. You judge people based on their job and call them names and accuse them of things based on that job. You make assumptions about people and post them on here

I would agree with that and add: "You make nasty, rude personal attacks on much loved and much respected MNers and when pulled up for it, refuse to apologise, instead (to coin a phrase) you choose to Obfuscate, Inveigle & Deny"

I don't like the way this thread has turned, and wouldn't choose to be a part of it, but unfortunately find it very hard to find any sympathy or understanding for the OP after her previous behaviour. It really is a classic "You reap what you sow" scenario.

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Geckos48 · 21/11/2013 15:28

I frequently spend long than necessary at people's homes because often the care package doesn't give enough time, fortunately I work for a company that refuse to let social services dictate how little time a person needs which is good.

I work with lots of people who have been in the armed forces, I treat them no differently to how I would treat anyone else. That doesn't affect my anti-army views, it just means I know the difference between a professional opinion and a personal one.

Anyway, I have had lots to do today and am going to go and sit with my kids for an hour.

Enjoy your mud slinging everyone.

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HopAlongOnItsOnlyChristmas · 21/11/2013 15:34

If this is evidence of your capacity to reflect on and analyse your work and your decisions, a degree in social work is going to be a barrel of laughs.

IamInvisible · 21/11/2013 15:45

This thread is no different to the others you start Geckos. You just make it up as you go along.

thebody · 21/11/2013 15:51

just read the whole thread and am still not sure what job you do or what qualifications you have op.still not my business.

but your comment on posters mud slinging is a tad funny. you sling with the best of them.

Heartbrokenmum73 · 21/11/2013 16:03

See I believe people deserve tolerance regardless of what they may or may not have done

And yet you continue to make disgusting comments wrt the McCanns? How hypocritical can you get?

I believe they made a monumental error of judgement - and they have paid for that with the loss of their child. Everything else is incidental. How anyone can feel anything but utter sympathy for them is beyond me.

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 21/11/2013 16:06

if there was a brownie badge in being a goady fucker the op would have earned hers long ago.

Boetunesgirl · 21/11/2013 16:10

I frequently spend long than necessary at people's homes because often the care package doesn't give enough time, fortunately I work for a company that refuse to let social services dictate how little time a person needs which is good.

Mmm, so doesn't that mean that you are taking longer and your kids are sat outside in the car waiting for you longer than 5 minutes? Hmm

LaQueenOfTheDamned · 21/11/2013 16:12

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hobnobsaremyfavourite · 21/11/2013 16:20

:) laqueen

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Geckos48 · 21/11/2013 16:23

Surely it is the posters who are... well, GOADING who are goady fuckers?

Surely this irony isn't lost on Everyone else?

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Sirzy · 21/11/2013 16:26

People aren't goading, they are responding to what you have said there is a difference.

You keep making strange points, people then reply to these with sensible posts. You don't like that.

TeaAndSconesTwice · 21/11/2013 16:27

No gecko it's people who start goady threads like you do and keep rambling utter crap throughout the thread to get a reaction, your not just goady your an attention seeker, you know it and you thrive on it.

LaQueenOfTheDamned · 21/11/2013 16:28

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Boetunesgirl · 21/11/2013 16:29

And now comes the: but they're all picking on mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmeeeeeeeeeee card. Bingo!

DoubleLifeIsALifeOfSorts · 21/11/2013 16:36

Quite Boe, a situation in which either the children or the service users get short changed and neglected ...

And yes Hop agree entirely.

All sounds a bit unusual that the tasks aren't actual caring, the times aren't the ones ss provide funding for and yet it's all experience leading towards a sw profession. I can see how that situation arises, but it's not the norm at all.

Anyway, I've reached my limit on this thread, the only direction to go in isnt helpful to anyone, so am bowing out.

Wannabestepfordwife · 21/11/2013 16:37

Op I'm very glad that you decided not to leave your children it wasn't the best solution.

I personally don't think leaving young dc unattended is worth the risk but I don't think I would be able to change your mind on it.

I maybe over stepping the line here but your posts are becoming more and more erratic and you seem to have a lot of drama in rl I think it might be worth taking a break from mn to focus on your rl.

I've found posters on mn to be unfailingly kind but I think you are at real risk of alienating people who could offer you help and support when you need it.

You've also made yourself very identifiable in rl and I fear your inflammatory posts could have an impact on your rl

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 21/11/2013 16:37

((grabs dabber pen))

ihatethecold · 21/11/2013 16:46

Laqueen.
You really do make me chuckle.

LaQueenOfTheDamned · 21/11/2013 16:50

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ihatethecold · 21/11/2013 17:18

Laqueen.
You really do make me chuckle.