To take them with me?

[Geckos48]

So my husband is away at the moment, he 'doesn't know' if he will be back tonight.
I've had to mess work around already this week and I dont think they could cope with me missing my shift tonight :(

My calls are in an incredibly rural location and its really safe round here.
WIBU to take the children? Make a little 'nest' in the back of the car and give them their bottles and put them down to bed in the large boot of our people carrier?

I could dress them up warm and I would only be out for around 2hours with them, checking back regularly and driving inbetween calls every half an hour or so?

I dont know what else to do!

So good I said it twice!

Sunshine read the thread, she didn't do it!

15 mins is never enough and leaves the service user choosing between being helped to the bathroom or asking for a drink etc.

I think that is one of the saddest things I have ever read on MN .

Guitargirl it's very sad but true, however many caring carers run over there times & do all they can for service users, it's not very often carers can run on time because there calls can be back to back with no time to travel.

However if carers report there is not enough time a care package can be reviewed but it can be extremely hard to get the extra time from social services

Obviously private paying service users can increase or decrease there care packages, it's so expensive as well it's shocking.

"Again, I had a moment of madness yesterday".

op, when this happens it is best to stop digging.
You are trying to sort it out, but only manage to dig yourself deeper, and also you are contradicting yourself.

Being on this forum is not helping you to avoid your moments of madness.

I expect you have heard of the expression, when you are in a hole, stop digging.

Admitting that you got something wrong is not half as bad as trying to backtrack, justify things etc.

You dont need to do it on here.

You can name change and start again on mumsnet if you want to.
And perhaps, if you post something you regret again, start again.

Tea - I just had no idea it was such little time, I thought it was more like an hour or something. Does it depend on the local authority maybe or is that standard? Anyway, not the point of the thread and going off on a tangent really but that comment really struck me.

My guess is that you want to remain as Geckos48 because you want people to remember your name.

As you realise, and as you posted on a thread yesterday, you dont agree with a lot of people.
On here, you will still get what you want. As your posts will stick out. So you can still get some attention and then name change if and when you want to.

btw, myself and several others are on a thread, for people who feel invisible on mumsnet. You are welcome to join. Everyone is welcome to join. You will not feel invisible on there, as we are all careful to make sure than no one feels invisible [I know you have said it wasnt for you elsewhere, but you are still very welcome].

They asses a service user on there needs but social service do try there best to keep it to exactly what a service user needs & don't give an inch, they are always trying to get costs down in my experience.

Calls can be 15 minutes, 30 minutes, 45 mins, an hour & + depending on what the call is for, it is definitely a very hard job to do, obviously it's very hard to keep on time at times due to calls running over or emergencies.

People think being a carer is easy, it's not, peoples lives are in your hands, it can be very testing but also very rewarding.

I can also assure you that if someone was paying for 15 minutes or social services had put 15 min calls in you wouldn't be running in & out with shopping within 5 minutes, they would expect you to stay for your allocated time, after all you are being paid for it.
Also you find a lot of people weather elderly or disabled who have a carer like to talk, they don't see many people in a day most of the time they see no one, so stopping & having a small chat is always lovely for them

Thank you for explaining, it's very emotive isn't it, just trying to get the image out of my head of a vulnerable person trying to decide how to best to use the limited help they have

Lordy there are some personal attacks on this thread! Are MNHQ all down the pub or something? What's the mantra - ignore and report?

To be fair Shockola, I think the OP is rather enjoying it all.

Shockola, read the thread and get the gist of thought from those of us who reply to geckos on her titles

Social work degree courses really need to tighten up their admissions processes. Although, with all the changes in SW education, there is a chance that OP would be weeded out before she gets on the course.

OMG ...... just

Social work degree courses really need to tighten up their admissions processes. Although, with all the changes in SW education, there is a chance that OP would be weeded out before she gets on the course

You're not wrong there with your initial statement, but not the last sadly.

Someone I 'know' who is less than desirable has been on a social work degree course for a few months now. She was able to get in with previous NVQ qualifications.

I haven't read the whole thread but will do. Why are you taking your children in a car and leaving them while you are on calls when they have diarrhea? They need to be near a toilet surely? Really not trying to be rude at all and understand what a difficult situation you've been in but it just seemed an odd comment to me.

Ah, read the whole thread now. Never mind.