AIBU regarding my teens relationship .

[kelziemumof3]

My daughter is 15 and has a long term boyfriend , they have been friends since primary and started dating at 12 ( childish stuff ) any way I know him very well and his parents and y daughter is very open with me about their relationship. I now let him stay over at out house and have taken her to the drs regarding the pill and we have very open conversations. anyway sunday morning I had my friend around and my daughters boyfriend came down in his pjs and she v clearly stated her opinions and made me feel like the worse mother in the world .. AIBU to let him stay at ours and vice versa.

totally MrsJay.. very old fashioned and strange attitude.

Just because I dont agree with the OP letting them stay together doesn't mean i thnk any less of them I know I dont know them but you know what i mean ,

Why did you post op

You are not going to be able to stop them now are you?

your friend was wrong to comment, but maybe she sees something concerning?

You were very young when you had your DD, it has probably (unintentionally) skewered your judgement.

But, you don't sound at all like a bad Mum. You sound like the rest of us...just trying to do the right thing! :)

I dont actually think any less of DD's peers who are sexually active.

I actually feel sorry for them. They're kids, but they've been acting like they were adults since they were 11. All with their parents consent/encouragement.

They're definitely in the minority and sort of out on a limb.

I think the Op posted because her friend put doubts in her mind about it and tbh the friend sounds like they were quite nasty about it

I was young when I had my dd I didn't let her boyfriend stay or her stay at his at 15/16 infact they were 18 before i was comfy with it

I think it is to much to young wordfactory there is the let kids be kids thing but when it comes to teenagers some are treated like mini adults

it's not easy parenting teens.

think all can agree on that one!!

think all can agree on that one!!*

give me a gaggle of toddlers anyday

oh god yes. the tea,bath,story,kiss and 7 o'clock bed!!!!

oh god yes. the tea,bath,story,kiss and 7 o'clock bed!!

seemed such a long time ago sigh

did that article also say he wasn't sexually active lol assuming again haha .. he could be the schoosl biggest player and still ski :/

Yanbu - you know your daughter and what is best for her and your family.

Ignore the comments - may not seem right to her or her daughter - hey ho

Trust your own instincts - you sound like a great mum

I think we can only do whats right for our individual teenagers, some develop in different ways quicker.

my daughter is not a trouble maker and is v academic and so is her boyfriend. they actually focus on their studies and know what they want for their futures.

oh god no! give me teenagers over toddlers any day of the week.

kelzie as i said PAGES ago you know your dd best and you are doing your best for her I am just like others on here it isn't something we would let happen

mrs jay that wasn't aimed at you lol it was aimed at the omg your a teen mum no wonder y and no aspiration brigade lol

that is ok I didnt take it personally was just saying

'and 14/15 is now considered an acceptable age generally to be active'

I for one do not find the above to be considered acceptable and genuinely feel sad for those that do.

Likewise.

Hear Hear Namechangeno1

I would draw the line at having him sleep over, TBH.

OP, what would you have done if say the same scenario you've posted about but dd was 13? just interested to know how you would have handled it.

It's really a situation that only you can assess. The thing is if they want to have sex they will, whether at the house or not, so I don't think your actions change that really.

Regarding the pill...far too easy to skip/forget especially at 15, please get your dd the implant if at all possible, a much safer contraception, protecting you from early grandchildren :)

I'm a bit on the fence here simply because I am Scandinavian. When I grew up the age of consent was 15 there, it still is 15, quite a few of my friends were in sexual relationships by that age, and the same applies to the generation of my nephews and nieces. And tbh I can't see that it has stopped them from studying and enjoying their childhood and all the rest of it.

Naturally I respect the law of the country I am in and that is what I teach my dc. But I find it hard to be so categorical about 16 being the only possible figure for an age of consent.