To not buy off THE list, and tell list Bitch to piss off.

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Last year DD was invited to the party, and with the invite came an Amazon gift list of all the things the girl wanted. I though I found the exact thing on the list cheaper elsewhere, so I got it elsewhere.

About a week later, the Mum comes up to me in the playground and asks if I have the receipt because the item wasn't correct and she didn't think I had got it off the precious list.

Yesterday DD had an invited from the same girl and a list. On the list in red crayon is written 'Please buy Jane any of these things but only these, thank you, LB'.

After last years rudeness I want to buy something else and then 'lose' my receipt so she cant return it.

AIBU?

YANBU at all to buy her something else. But please, please buy her moonsand

Buy some stuff from the pound shop.

I wouldn't let my child go to a party hosted by someone so rude in the first place.

Gift lists for children's birthday parties now?

just

Moonsand, glitter, and glue. Plus a plastic harmonica from the pound shop. How rude!

Fuck me, that's so cheeky! A gift list for a child's birthday? Heard it all now.

Wow, I'm gobsmacked that someone would do this.

That's some seriously entitled behaviour. Is Jane a lovely child despite her awful mother (and father?), because unless she is I'm not sure I'd want my DD to associate with her and be exposed to that kind of entitled snobbery.

wow. Please tell us what the things on the list are though... how grabby?

People do gift lists for children's parties?
How old is birthday girl? What do the other mothers of invitees make of it?

Tell your daughter it time to learn not to accept invitations from rude people, she shouldn't lower herself to mixing with people like that as it may rub off on her.

I wouldn't go to the party at all.

I would just give a card and nothing else!! How rude!

Are you sure she's not reselling the stuff on eBay? I think childrens birthday parties are a bit of a madness anyway but gift lists

Jane is lovely. She is one of DD's best friends and I think she spends half the time with her Mum, half with her Dad because we have taken her back to different places when she has come to play after school. I don't really speak to her Mum, but have spoken to her SM in the playground a few times.

The fact she is one of DD's best friends (and they are only 5) is why we are going. Otherwise I would just forget the party and not go at all.

Flabbergasted at a list in the first place!

Dear god how grabby can you get!!

What do the other mums think about it? Is she the only child in the class that has a gift list for her parties?

Please tell me this not normal, OTT birthday parties and presents for the teachers, quite frankly I'm dreading my little one getting to school age!

how close is your dd to the birthday child?

i think my dd would be otherwise engaged. I could NOT BE ARSED with bothering at all.

At best I would second the fiver in a card.

I have never heard of a child being encouraged allowed to send out a birthday list with an invitation. It sounds horrible and guaranteed to turn her into as much of spoilt brat as her mother! If you don't want to buy off this list, don't. Or maybe your child is 'busy' on the day of the party? The birthday girl and mother sound like they are seriously lacking in imagination or in thought for other people.

Gift lists are actually quite common round here, but its never compulsory, more like an idea of what the child likes/doesnt already have etc.

fair enough, anyway fiver in card.

please tell us what's on the list!!

Sorry - just saw your post about the little girl being lovely. Strike that then - just the mother who is seriously unpleasant!

YANBU. Buy something you want to buy. I normally put in a gift receipt but in this case I wouldn't.

WTAF! This is possibly one of the rudest things I've ever heard on here, and that's saying something.

DO NOT buy off the list!

What do the other mums think? Is this normal at your DD's school?