To not buy off THE list, and tell list Bitch to piss off.

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Last year DD was invited to the party, and with the invite came an Amazon gift list of all the things the girl wanted. I though I found the exact thing on the list cheaper elsewhere, so I got it elsewhere.

About a week later, the Mum comes up to me in the playground and asks if I have the receipt because the item wasn't correct and she didn't think I had got it off the precious list.

Yesterday DD had an invited from the same girl and a list. On the list in red crayon is written 'Please buy Jane any of these things but only these, thank you, LB'.

After last years rudeness I want to buy something else and then 'lose' my receipt so she cant return it.

AIBU?

I reckon everyone should get together and agree to ALL buy the £5.99 thing - she'll get ten or whatever of the same - that'll learn her!

Unbelievable cheek!!

I second moonsand - or a recorder!!

Get your DD to choose something that she thinks Jane would like, and when DD hands it over make a real show of pointing out how DD put her heart and soul into choosing something she thought her dear friend would love but try to direct her towards the moonsand .

Glittery homemade card is a genius idea!

I would definitely get something that is not on the list and say it was from your gift stash, hence no recite/bought aons ago etc. mwaah!

This is awful. I would ignore the list and buy something you and dd think the child will like. If mum says anything I would point out to her that this is a child's party and her child got a present as a gift. You are not a mail order service.

Id hand the gift (non list), to DDs SM and the next time you see List Bitch, say "Oh I gave your DDs gift to her dad as we will be really busy the day of the party so was worried id forget it then, hope she likes it!"

Are you abroad? I have never heard of a gift list for a party either!

I can't get over the idea someone would actually provide a list, let alone insist you only bought gifts from it.

YANBU OP. I would buy something completely off the list.

I usually get something from JL as I know I can get a gift receipt which I put in to the card in case the child receives duplicate gifts. However, I would never expect to receive a list of expected presents with an invitation. Tbh I'm surprised anyone is still going to this child's parties if they know the mother is so rude and grabby.

Buy a small basket from hobbycraft, line it with nice tissue paper and fill it with about 10 bottles of glitter, a bag of feathers, glue, scissors, some coloured paper, a whistle, small bottles of lip gloss, a glitter bath bomb, the cheapest body spray you can find, something like Charlie and some body tattoo stickers. Place confetti inside the card and pop it in the envelope and seal tight.

Voila.

momb 's suggestion is the best I think. Book token, card, and momb's stance.

Am probably not adding anything new, but WTF,!?!?!? YANBU. That's just shamefaced and money-grabbing. I'm sure the child is lovely, but for how long if her mother set this sort of example?

Do her a socially aware favour and buy her something from the Oxfam Charity Gifts list, so that vile mother is forced to explain.

If I didn't care what the mother thought of me, that's def what I'd be tempted to do. After all, Jane sounds like she's going to get lots of material happiness anyway...

STOP THIS MADNESS!

yanbu. This is incredibly rude behaviour on the mother's part.

Where is the fun in opening presents when the child knows what it is , and no fun for dd not to get to chose.

There is nothing wrong with suggesting a gift, if asked, but a list is grabby.

If they don't want loads of 'stuff' then maybe they should say no need for a gift, your company is what we want.

I would not buy off the list. I think I would begrudge anything as I would know it wouldn't be appreciated.

Crazy behaviour! LB can only be the sister of Gluezilla. Does your DD have a particularly tacky toy that Jane loves to play with when she visits? Could you buy her one of her own to keep at home? Something messy or noisy would be ideal.

Gift list nonsense aside, I don't understand why it hasto be from Amazon either? If the exact same item is bought from argos what's the problem? Is it because you dared to go off piste last year

Tell her you choose which retailers you buy from, Mumzilla can't dictate

My family asked for a list for DD's birthday recently & It just felt far to rude to give them one, never mind classmates!

X-post on the 'zilla'

You could send a reply with a list specifying what your dd would like in her party bag.

Have you asked any of the other parents what they think about it? I can imagine that you are all quietly seething, and probably just waiting for someone to say something.

That is just so rude. I would pop £5 or 10 whatever your budget allows in a card, and tell her to put it towards something. If She is one of te girls best friends than she should go to the party, it's not her fault her mums a bitch

GLITTER **

YANBU.

We had one the other day which had 'get me:' written on it, followed by a very exact list of what the child wanted, including years and additions and the strict instruction to text her mum before buying, just to check that no one else had got the same. I shit you not. I was

I reckon it has to be from Amazon so once a gift is bought it disappears from the list, perhaps?

It is incredibly grabby. DS went to at least 25 parties last year. If we had spent £5.99 or more every time, that would be....a lot of money.

That is shockingly rude! I've never heard of gift lists for children's parties. Out of principle I always avoid a gift list, as I prefer to give someone a gift I've taken time over choosing specifically for them.
I have to say, I'd be screwed if DS came home with an invitation containing a gift list - unless it was for Home Bargains!

Love Mynameismina 's idea, and definitely think something should have tons of glitter that will flutter everywhere when she opens it!

I'm guessing why it has to be from amazon is that the Mother returns it all and gets a credit to her own account.

That's what I think Patos.

Where do you live OP