to be upset that they googled the price of the bottle of wine I bought to the Mum's social?

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DS has just started primary school. As I work full-time, I've never had much opportunity to meet other local mums, though I know some of them to nod to. Last Friday, one of the mothers organised a social (bring a bottle) at her house and invited all the P1 mums.

It wasn't the best evening for me - I only had 5 minutes to change as I was late back from work, and felt a bit of a mess. Everyone seemed to know each other and made no effort to include me, and one woman had this pointed conversation about how easy one child was - I don't find it easy :( I bought a bottle with me (obviously) - just grabbed quickly from the rack at home. I was given a glass of something I didn't like much - but obviously I didn't say that!! I was driving, so I only had the 1 glass.

Anyway, one of the mums I know slightly through work told me that after I had left a few of the mums there were pretty smashed and googled how much my wine cost. Apparently they have been posting silly comments about it on facebook all week - and it is "the" in-joke of the moment.

Is this normal behaviour? Am I being silly to feel so upset about this? DS seems to have settled well into school, but I can't help think that maybe it was a mistake to send him there if this is how the MOTHERS behave!

It's a shame if you were hoping to make some friends at your Ds' school' but best to know they are not your kind of people now rather than later when you've wasted time and effort.
Unbelievable it would even enter another adults head to even do this tbh

Personally (disclaimer - I can be a bolshy cow), I would just walk up to them in the school playground when there is a load of people in hearing distance and just say "any particular reason why you felt the need to google the wine I bought to xxx house? Anything you would like to tell me about it, or, should I just go check Facebook to find out what you are so concerned about?"

What strange behaviour! Nasty.

Hope that you have some nice, fun normal friends to socialise with.

Thank you for all the lovely replies.

I think it really happened, as they mentioned the name of the wine I bought. My husband really likes it and I have another couple of bottles in the rack :(

It is reasonably expensive I suppose - apparently it is £29.99 in Waitrose, though we won't have bought it there. My husband buys most of our wine by the case, not in the supermarket, so I really don't know how much it costs, and didn't give it a second thought.

I had to push my husband quite hard to get him to agree to allow DS to attend the local school. I just hope it is a joke that went too far. I was quite looking forward to being involved but at the moment I don't want to see these women ever again - I'm just glad that I don't have to do pick ups and drop offs :(

Sounds like SOME of the mums are bitches, stay well clear, don't let them put you off.

Next time bring lambrini

Whilst we are talking about wine have you tried 'naked wines' club?

It's a brilliant site and the wine is lovely!! I think I may even have a discount voucher somewhere

I can't imagine the mums I know caring how much the wine cost tbh! It's wine, what not to love. Hic.

next time take a bottle of lambrella op. Dont waste good wine. It says a lot about their social lives if inconsequential bitching is the glue holding it together.

Dont worry about it. go and get you twatdar looked at too. it's not working very well is it!

What did you try from naked wines? Never had a bottle I've not enjoyed. The refund anything you aren't happy with

They sound horrific. Be glad you don't even have to pretend to like them.

Oh gosh I've always chosen bottles not had a selection box. Supposed it depends on what you like. I am partial to a nice Marlborough Sauvignon!

Now I'm wondering if this is a wind up - you must know that's more than 'reasonably' expensive for most people!

I know a bit about wine and wd have noticed you'd bought a nice bottle to a 'bog standard' kind of event. Id never have commented on it publicly tho - for a start I'd have been delighted and too busy drinking it!

Well I'm sure all the mums aren't the same. Avoid these like the plague and find others to say hello to.

This isn't a reflection of the type of school, it's a reflection on those particular women. I loathe people like that. Petty minded grimness ugh (shudders)

That's horrible I agree but look on the positive side: you've just been saved from wasting your time getting to know them.

If i'd been there and realised it was expensive wine like that i'd have been quietly drinking it not bitching about it. ;)

OK, they thought you were showing off, then.

You weren't. but they couldn't know that, and people get very twitchy about these things.

You could try saying to your 'friend' that you weren't sure what the fuss was about till you googled it yourself and 'realised' you'd just taken your dh's super posh pressie from granny (or whatever!) instead of the one you'd bought, arrghh, arrgh, d'you think he'd notice if I fill the bottle up with Tesco claret??

I'm waiting for my voucher for naked wines from Lakeland. Thanks for heads up, will try selecting. £30 is a lot to me for 1 bottle. You can usually get half price wine in yes I, £5/6 and its niceat least after first sip

kittie has a point. Not sure I'd try back peddling though. stubborn