to think there's a lot of patronizing snobbery here with regards the netmums site.

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it's as posters on mumsnet are somehow superior to anyone who posts on netmums...

I mean, whats that all about?

Easy answer. People like to feel superior. But that doesnt apply to about half the mumsnet members who are on both sites!

The one thing that really upset me on NM, was that my identity on there had been found by someone undesirable and they were using the information for their own purposes.

I asked NM to delete my posts/account on safety related issues and they declined to do so. The mods are arseholes.

I actually don't like that you can't delete posts on either site. Much prefer facebook for this.

coldwinter MNHQ have in the past deleted posts because a poster was "outed". Plus NM encourage use of real names in a way that MN doesn't.

Cat. That is indeed bad behaviour.
coldwinter. What do you mean? That you want to be able to delete your own stuff on here, after you have posted it?

I name change frequently now. But I was outed via here. I didnt know MNHQ would delete posts. And I did post stuff when I was having a hard time that I wanted to stay confidential.

I've found Netmums to be infuriating, so i had to leave. The majority of the posters on there really did annoy me. In fact, it was only after being on Mumsnet for a few weeks that i realised just how much the Netmums site gave me the rage.

You get FEW fantastic, intelligent, interesting posters on there. but the majority of posts want to make me rip out my eyes.

I hate all the text speak.

I hate that the majority of posters talk to each other or talk about problems I would associate with young teenagers. "OMG, my friendz totally pissed me off coz she wont text back."

People with genuine problems hardly ever get answered, whereas on here the advice is amazing.

Netmums repeat the same old crap again and again. If it's not something related to breastfeeding or benefits, it's unlikely to get more than 9 replies.

The majority of the posters are rather sexist e.g. not wanting their son to play with a doll. THEY ALSO VICTIM BLAME TO THE MAXIMUM

Disabilism isn't treated as equally as racism over there by mods. In fact i can remember a poster pulling up the netmums team on why the R word was allowed to be used, and why a vile poster was allowed to insult various netmums' kids and call them soft in the head etc. That poster who confronted the mods was consequently banned, but i recognise her on here from various threads and have huge admiration for her.

The netmums staff are idiots IME and seem like robots and police threads rather stupidly.

IMO, yes, Mumsnet and its staff and members are far more appealing to me than Netmums - and a million times better. Netmums LOL too much at stupid stuff and are too casually sexist/racist/disbilist (a million other -ists) for my liking.

All this^ with a few extras thrown in.

Tried net mums didn't like it, it seemed like a lot younger crowd for me, I've been here on mums net for about a year now but I very frequently name change. I used to be a bounty debates reg for about 6 years but the site died a death, although I loved bounty and there was lots of laughs I prefer here lots more, was very much a herd mentality on bounty and bullying was common sadly

At least netmums loads...

I was on both. I met some wonderful people (especially on certain boards about bereavement and mental health) but I didn't like the fairly childish layout. I look on Local though, as it's incredibly useful. However, it's awash with text speak, which says nothing about the users, but I struggle with (I am a fairly bad English reader, it's not my first language and I only started learning about three years ago, please be kind!) it, and found MN easier. Also think the majority of opinions are opposite to mine, and that's fine as it's their opinion, and it can have good (and bad) debates, but generally I like MN more.

I tried it years ago, hate the tickers and text speak as they make it seem like a site for teens.

I think there used to be a huge gap between the demographic on both sites but MN seems far less MC nowadays and its probably equal now.

Didnt mind the no swearing rule as personally dont like swearing but mods did seem overkeen.

I think this is a superior site.

It's like, I don't know, comparing setting at school

MN = top set
NM = bottom set.

Lots of naive posting seems to happen on NM. Conversations on here seem generally more considered and thought provoking, with some seriously intelligent posters contributing.

I don't think this is a superior site.

It's just a different site.

Hmmm, she's noticed some of my very erudite contributions [smug]

I have no opinions on Nethuns. I went on once & the sparkly tickers hurt my eyes so I left.

Bounty Debates was my forum home. That was amazing back in the day. I know ScarletLady02 (on facebook too! ) but who is needaholidaynow ? Any more Bountyers?

p.s. Did you know that I Still Computer has its own facebook page?

I think Net Mums is the Sun and i think Mums Net is the Guardian/Times.

I think that sums up the difference between the two sites however NM is much more real life in that it is much more representative of most people in the uk. Mums Net only represents a small percentage of views from a very narrow, usually university educated slightly left wing bias and probably middle class backgrounds.

Mums Net views are out of kilter with the vast majority of people who have not been blessed with higher education or superior educations.

There is no question though that Muns net is far superior than Net Mums.

I love sparkle, I love glitter, and heels and fake tans, and lunching with my equally dolly chums.

I love them, we "get" each other, but they are too luffly to worry about giving a true opinion, for fear of offending, or for not having the "pack" opinion.

MN is a place I found fairly recently, where I get told to "fuck off" I get told "well boo fucking hoo you rich bitch"..."that's fucking hilarious, that happened to me"..."Yes, YABU, get a grip"...ALL of which are things I need to hear and don't hear from my friends, who are very much a Netmums crowd.

I tried Netmums first, I had massive, massive bonding issues with DS, I tried posting about it on there. I got so many "hugz" a lot of "omg babes" gasps, and shit all advice. The thread I have about it on here, where I literally just typed and typed, changed my life, and so many others have contacted me since to say that they have read it and feel that they aren't freaks suffering in silence for feeling the same. I've had what you might call a superior education, certainly a privileged life, and so have a lot of the posters on here, or at least that mindset and thought process. What they did for me on that thread, is something beyond incredible, that Netmums doesn't have the capacity to even start.

For that, and a breadth of other things, MN is superior. And anyone who doesn't like that needs to start running before I fling buns from my high horse.

Well said sugar exactly

I have just been on Netmums for the first time and was shocked! They have really weird names like Helen1 and Susannah4.

Feel so much more at home on here with anyfucker, therealfellacio and stinkyminkymoo

I haven't had a superior education or a privileged life.

I ain't going no where though, sorry about that.

So shove your buns.

I was a nethun . I vacillated between sites for a while, but recently posted on a sensitive subject, on NM and got hundreds of 'views' but no response. Fucking voyeurs.

I like on MN we are 'allowed' to swear.