to think there's a lot of patronizing snobbery here with regards the netmums site.

[ssd]

it's as posters on mumsnet are somehow superior to anyone who posts on netmums...

I mean, whats that all about?

to be fair it's a general superiority not just in regards to netmums.

I get the feeling that there, people will give the advice they think that you want.

Here they give the advice that you need - even if you didn't want to hear it.

I think that is true dahville

The thing with netmums I hate is the obsession in calling other people chavs and the thought process that you can say anything you want "coz thats my opinion and im intitled to it" even if what they are saying is bollocks.

The amount of text speak is "discusting"

Also netmums is more passive aggressive where mumsnet is more aggressive agressive

Netmums save their aggressive aggressive for pms

On MN I feel included even though i'm a single, childless woman.

I would not feel the same sense of inclusion on NetMums I suspect.

I've just been over to have a look for the first time. Be careful or you will drive some of us away

I've read some of it and wasn't impressed. I didnt like the huns and text speak. The answers weren't as well thought out. You lot are much more deep thinkers.

I don't like the use of the c word or f word on here. See i cant even bring myself to type them Think they're a bit strong but glad people can use other words to express their strong feelings.

MN has opened my eyes as to how weird people are. I think I generally see things from quite a few angles have frequent splinters up my nether regions . I see lots of things in shades of grey. I still find it amazing that so many people only see things either in black or white.

Very true Grennie. I've been on the receiving end of a fair few nasty pms, normally accusing me of being benefit scum. I'm not even on benefits but hate the lynch mob mentality when a poster on there says they are.

Yes!!! It was Chelle

Netmums is very anti-breastfeeding, that's the main reason why I stopped using., I just couldn't take the sheer ignorance wrt to infant feeding/behaviour!! It also doesn't 'get' feminism like MN does & I much prefer the MN layout. The type of poster is also an issue to be perfectly frank. I'm by no means a snob but a lot of the posters on NMs seem a bit dodge.

Oh & I love MNs because you can fucking swear on it!

I have one rule in life - if it is written in comic sans it is probably crap and/or written by a 12 year old.

both apply on nethuns so I figure i'm well away.

Well I am banned from netmums. I think 3 times in total so I guess that's a permanent ban.
I cannot bear the amount of racist, disabilist, DV apologist behaviour over there.
The thing is, there are people trying to point this out in a reasonable way. But they are shouted down and then deleted, whilst the horrible posts stay up.

I don't think people who post here are better than people that post there. I just think that here, if you are being a twat, or a racist, or if you are having a serious problem and need some straight talking, people will tell it like it is, without trying to wrap it in glitter IYSWIM

Honestly, reading some of the posts where it is clear the OP is in an abusive relationship and needs some help, and then reading 20 posts saying "well he's a man isn't he, what can you do, mine is the same" is sickening. And it drowns out the few people that are saying, no that's not ok and trying to help.

I was surprised on netmums to find other radical feminists. I don't know if they are there just to say - leave the bastard! :) But if you want to spread feminism ideas ( I can't be bothered), then netmums is probably a good place to do it.

Also you can discuss transgender theory critiques more openly there than on mumsnet.

I've just read this whole thread (also banned from NM for being "inflammatory" when I was in full scale PND meltdown!) and one thing stands out for me :

You can get cervical mucus tickers ?????? MrsDV mentions them.

I don't even want to think about my own mucus (have ceased reproducing). I can't imagine any situation in which I'd like to know about someone else's.

I was fairly shocked with the number of posters who believe that when a women is pregnant then their body autonomy flies out the window.

I do think though that I am not witty enough for mumsnet and I don't fit into the majority of netmums. I need somewhere in between. Somewhere that allows swearing and doesn't have a ridiculous moderation policy.

Cunty fuckbollocks. Hun.

Netmums is very very bitchy, it's disguised under low levels of PA and hunning. On here, if you're a cunt, they call you a cunt but explain why, over there its all 'oh its ok hun, it ain't ur falt'.

The mods are power hungry monsters, MNHQ otoh are great, they have a good mix of control and fun.

I once had tickers, mainly because I was always forgetting how old the DC were and it was handy

I probably fit in more there than here but MN is more inclusive.

I never saw a LTB in 6 years of NMing.

see, I think mumsnet can be very bitchy too

I can understand people not liking loads of daft tickers and sparkly shite, but its the overall superiority complex here that annoys me towards netmums .

I mean my god my life is sad and boring but the day I join in with the hun jokes is the day I shoot myself.

My experience is exactly as Mrs D said

Sorry posted too soon...
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I came across MN because of a thread on NM saying MN was an intimidating place so had a look and found it was so much better
I did get some good advice from one of there HV though and found it useful.

ssd - I agree. Both sites have their pros and cons. It does seem as if the women on mumsnet are generally better off financially, and also better educated.

But I do think netmums is more tolerant of a diversity of opinions than here. Which yes, does mean IMO that some of the opinionsare very uninformed.