To think you should cater, or not invite?

[DSM]

I have dietary requirements.

I realise it's annoying, I have to live with it. But it is a medical condition, not a choice.

So, AIBU to think that if you invite me to your house for food, you should actually cater yo my needs and not just make me eat what's suitable, thus leaving me with basic rations whilst watching everyone else eat a delicious meal?!

Or is catering to dietary needs such a hassle that I should expect to have to be left out?

But if you know you won't be catered for, why do you go?

Erm, I didn't know they wouldn't cater for me...

Corn tortilla wraps aren't normally gluten free (Discovery and Old El Paso's both have wheat flour in them). Tacos and tortilla chips usually are GF though. It would have been dead easy to do tacos instead of enchiladas.

We had a wee girl who is GI coming to my sons birthday party, it was no trouble to make the entire party buffet GF so she could enjoy everything without worry. YADNBU!

Poor you, you are definitely NBU. At various gatherings we have hosted, I there have been people who between them are dairy free, soy free, coeliac, vegetarian, halal and allergic to shellfish and mushrooms.

It isn't that hard if you just give it a bit of thought. Wherever possible (when only some of the above allergen sufferers / dietary requirement people are attending) I cook the same thing for everyone. If it is everyone then I do either the tapas style someone suggested above, or have a few different options that cover everyone and are all a bit similar iyswim. Not someone having a rubbish option whilst everyone else digs into something nice. Friends and family have commented on how lovely it is to feel like a normal guest. I just see it as the way a host should do things but their comments make me feel bad for them that they don't get catered for like that everywhere they go. Just makes me more determined to give them a great experience when they are at our house. As you say, you have to live with this day on day out whereas it is just one meal for me to cater.

Hope your DP can gently set them straight for next time. He does need to clear the air if any if this relates to the separation you mentioned.