Would you wash mouth out with soap of 12 year old Son

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He KEEPS using the C word .. Out of all swear words I hate that the most .. Would you wash his mouth out with soap ? I am aware he may swear outside (which Im not pleased with) but in front of me disgusts me . .

Had my mum tried to wash my mouth out with soap for saying cunt when I was 12, I'd have probably kicked her in the cunt, it's not cricket, OP.

Cunt

No way, it is a nasty thing to do to anyone and in no way fits the crime.

Obviously he shouldn't be swearing in front of you as you don't like it but it really is just words. Rude words but words all the same.

It wasn't you, Anne :)

i know of some (christians!) who did it to an 8 year old

we were all when she mentioned it. I think she was that we were

I feel that the way you are behaving could be construed as cunty.

Oh please, "the dark side of Mumsnet"? Plenty of people who start AIBU threads continue to get new arrivals telling them they are being unreasonable long after they've agreed they are and mostly they manage not to respond with screechy capital letter personal attacks.

NO!
I remember another thread on here where people thought it was OK as 'part of a loving relationship'.
You would be horrified if anyone else did it to him, therefore it can't be right for you to do it.

I'm disgusted by the OP-baiting going on in this thread. Shame MN isn't always as supportive to others as most posters would like it to be to them if they had a problem.

Treat others as you would wish to be treated, surely?

Ooh what did she say?

This thread will get deleted anyway so someone may as well tell me

If you look at the timing of every post, this charming OP turned into a snarling ball of fury within moments

Not cool

Anyway, how do you actually wash a child's mouth out? (Actually, don't answer that!)

wow that was fast work. never have I seen a comment disappear so fast.

This is so flippin funny.

A lot of swearing and name calling, Gav

Rather hung herself there.

Well it's a pity she's ignoring some of the actually quite good advice.

No I wouldn't, it's abusive.

Yes, the dark side of MN where a stressed mother clearly at a loss (she clearly is to be asking about a punishment like this) is treated in such a contemptible manner even after she has admitted she was wrong. I bet most of you have actually RTFT, just wanted to get in on the action like some sort of online happy-slapping gang. Lovely.

I once washed my mouth out with soap because my mum told me to- I was about 6 I think and said "bugger". She was mortified - it was just a turn of phrase.

I had this done to me as a child, can't remember the details of what exactly I said, it's not one of my happier memories in a very messed up childhood. in that sense it's not even that great a punishment since I don't even remember what word was so bad.
I casually told DH about it and his response was the same as most of the posters here. it is abuse, regardless of age or what your ds is saying.also I imagine, since he's 12 there would be quite a bit of physical restraint involved too.

how can he associate the act of his parents physically abusing him with the message of 'swearing is bad'? you're just sending him the message that physical abuse/violent behaviour is appropriate when someone does something you don't like. imo.

Hay, look at the timing of the posts

Lynette - I just shoved some Lux or Imperial Leather or whatever it was in my gob.

I wonder where he learnt to swear?