Would you wash mouth out with soap of 12 year old Son

[SilverStreak7]

He KEEPS using the C word .. Out of all swear words I hate that the most .. Would you wash his mouth out with soap ? I am aware he may swear outside (which Im not pleased with) but in front of me disgusts me . .

Are you always this angry?

Change your internet password and tell him he can have it when he learns to behave and show respect.

Silver, this is the sort of conversation I'd often have with parents whose ethnic origins were non-Western. They loved their children, but came from a background where a lot of disciplinary methods were unacceptable in England.
I have no idea if this is the case with you, but you need to develop a range of other sanctions that don't involve physical damage or humiliation of your son.

Hmm, so grounding/taking DS away doesn't work? Maybe he could earn it back- when he swears, he loses DS. Each day he goes without swearing, he 'earns' it back- a week/however long you think should apply without swearing means he gets the DS back. If he goes five days, then swears, he is still on five days so needs a further two days to earn it back etc; I do that with my DC for a few things- eldest with IPad, younger ones with computer time etc;

You don't mind a bit of swearing then?

Yeah, swearing really does disgust you OP

Oh my god. I wonder where he gets his attitude from.

I wonder where your son might be picking up his aggression from ?

Cor, no wonder he flings the word 'cunt' about in your presence, OP.

Bit touchy, ain't ya ;)

And if you talk to your son the way you write on here, then I wonder where he gets it from? You may need to look at yourself before you start disciplining him...

Hang on a minute. So you've got a massive problem with the word cunt yet you sprinkle fuck liberally?

Cocking felchers!

poor kid

Perhaps he swears because he's learned foul language from you?

From the way you've behaved on this thread, it seems like a good first step would be watching your language in front of him, children learn these things from somewhere...

Get a swear jar, 10p for every swear word. That goes for the whole family.

My parents had this and the money always went into the electric meter.

If you had no pocket money left IOU went into the jar and taken from the next pocket money date.

What sort of an example is that? No wonder your son swears. People are "going on the attack" because you should know that washing a child's mouth out with soap is disgraceful behaviour. You shouldn't have to ask.

Fucking disgusting.

I'm laughing at the irony of the language from the poster disgusted at her son's use of swear words... Oh dear.

No ,don't be such a cunt.

OP, if you spoke to me in RL like your post of Mon 16-Sep-13 17:46:47, I'd probably call you a cunt, rather than just use the word cunt in front of you.

This is about teaching your DS respect, and behaving in such a way that he does respect you. When raising children, we are playing the long game.

Oi what did I say that was so objectionable?

I said um no don't assault, here try some sanctions, suggestions followed.

Crikey.

Anne, awesome name.

Tbh, I don't blame the OP for getting angry - she asked for opinions on something which used to be a common sanction (ok, it's considered abusive now but she seems at the end of her tether about it), got told that, admitted that she was being unreasonable and continued to get abused by posters who seemed to be getting their kicks by winding her up. It takes a lot to admit that you are being unreasonable, especially on AIBU - this is truly the dark side of mumsnet.

Disgusting.

OP I hope you are ok. Does he know how much it upsets you to hear it? Does he know what the word actually means? Fines sound like a good solution....

Oooh thats odd

Two Uulmelmahays, confusing!

This is fucking hilarious.