He hasn't text :'(

[OctopusPete8]

So...the OH is away on his Stag do, over the weekend. Just to give some quick background, I planned my Hen do first, I deiced due to cost, having children ..etc a weekend is an awfully long time so I'll just have a night ..alrighty then, all planned.
Few weeks ago, Oh I'm off to *** for a weekend, I was a bit miffed and I admitted I was jealous that he got to go away and I felt like I had to decline a weekend, its being paid for in his defence.

And then.....'Oh were going ***' Thats MY HEN DO! wasn't deliberate, but its for the convenience of a friend/personal circumstances.
He's gone today etc, etc on good terms was not deliberate if a bit thoughtless, till monday.
So yes, I am having 2 kids all weekend by myself and have to get to my childcare myself, with no car going down 3 flights of stairs.

And......its nearly 10pm no text, no "how are the kids" "how are you?"

Has updated fb twice though....
I felt quite hurt and humilated ,
AIBU.

I see our whole little sideshow got deleted including mine sticking my oar in aswell. I didn't report it myself Pag because these little set to's between two posters usually fizzle out or get self policed by other posters or whatever.

AgentZigzag Mind your own business (see what I did there) when I'm poking my nose into others ! ! Lots of love Mindyourownbusiness

NB - This post is non arsey and I love you all , hence all the faces

Anyway what was this thread about and what's happening with OP - I cant remember now .

Eyesunderarock, I always enjoy reading your posts.
OctopusPete, I hope you are getting on alright.

@mindyourown

I should have been arsey just in the spirit of the thread really.

And I sincerely apologise to SM for bringing up past posts where she'd been kind and supportive. It was unforgivable of me and I'll never spread such a shameful rumour ever again.

Ever, ever, ever.

"it's not really appropriate for one person to insist that their way of conducting a relationship is right for the relationship of another." Precisely, which is why I am wondering why people are insisting on describing their relationships to the OP? It doesn't matter how you conduct your relationships, the OP isn't happy with how her partner is treating her.

Describing other relationships as needy and jealous is "sneery" whether you were directing it at the OP or not.

'Describing other relationships as needy and jealous is "sneery" whether you were directing it at the OP or not.'

It was a comment about how a theoretical relationship might be perceived by another individual, however inaccurate or not. So A might adore being texted by B several times a day, C might perceive that as controlling by B, or needy of A.
Not intended to be sneery, merely a dispassionate observation.
I still think that partnerships only work if everyone involved has similar expectations and is happy that they are being met.

Op had some very valid points. She didn't resent dp having a good time but understandably was upset that it impacted on her own special one night. I can't believe the hard time she got. Some of you should be ashamed of yourselves.

She probably hasn't got relationship issues. She needs to communicate that she thinks he was rather thoughtless in not contacting her earlier, but given it was a stag event, you can sort of understand why it evolved the way it did. Doesn't mean their relationship is in danger, just means a chat is in order.

Op yanbu

Bloody hell, just seen all the deleted posts, poor posters reading it for the first time you missed a juicy one

I'm feeling a bit left out that none of mine got zapped now

It is bad enough and I haven't read the deleted ones. Still on team op

I actually don't think this is about not receiving a text at all.

I think the OP is feeling quite pissed off that her DP is away for the weekend to live it up and she, well she does what she always does, with the stress of her Hen Night to prepare for on top.

We all get pissed off with our OH's and sometimes need to vent. Vent, not justify the entire basis of a relationship based on a very tiny snapshot of a fleeting emotional response to a situation.

OP - I get you. I'd chat to DP when he comes home about how you would like to have some quality 'you' time before the big day (or if impossible due to timing, after).

Why not discuss just how much money you both think you could afford and look at the voucher sites for offers. Then speak with one (or more) of your hens and find out if they could afford to go with you.

You often see 2 night deals with dinner or a spa day included for 2 people.

In the meantime, have fun at your Hen party.

Bloody hell! been some e-beefin' in my absence, the usual suspects.

I don't know if any of those messages were directed at me?

Thanks for the supportive messages, I had a really good night thanks.
Although still more tired than I would have liked to have been up from 6am - 4am must be a record lol.

I spoke to dp , apparently he had no signal and didn't have data roaming on as it costs a fortune. which I believe he didn't update fb more than the time I said all weekend.

I think on my part next time I need to dig my heels in a bit more, not roll over and agree to something that I know will inconvinience me greatly (NO LOOKING AFTER MY KIDS IS NO 'HARDSHIP', 3 STRAIGHT DAYS ON MINIMUM SLEEP NOT SO MUCH)....In fear of looking bad to him/his mates as a harridan. Either put and shut up as it were...

One of mine did Agent but I wasn't abusive at all you understand , I just wasn't living up to my name and instead of minding my own business weighed in to a poster who I thought was weighing in to another poster who they thought was weighing into the OP.

So we all got zapped.

HTHs

I know less than I did before...

Feegle. yes definitely plan some me time, I think some other posters mentioned that aswell.

Glad to provide a welcome distraction OP

Good stuff Octopus it's important.