He hasn't text :'(

[OctopusPete8]

So...the OH is away on his Stag do, over the weekend. Just to give some quick background, I planned my Hen do first, I deiced due to cost, having children ..etc a weekend is an awfully long time so I'll just have a night ..alrighty then, all planned.
Few weeks ago, Oh I'm off to *** for a weekend, I was a bit miffed and I admitted I was jealous that he got to go away and I felt like I had to decline a weekend, its being paid for in his defence.

And then.....'Oh were going ***' Thats MY HEN DO! wasn't deliberate, but its for the convenience of a friend/personal circumstances.
He's gone today etc, etc on good terms was not deliberate if a bit thoughtless, till monday.
So yes, I am having 2 kids all weekend by myself and have to get to my childcare myself, with no car going down 3 flights of stairs.

And......its nearly 10pm no text, no "how are the kids" "how are you?"

Has updated fb twice though....
I felt quite hurt and humilated ,
AIBU.

OP big hug from me. YWNBU and I hope you feel better.

Quite frankly I found the spite from some posters on here sickening. Lets hope they are never in a position where they need a bit of empathy or sympathy.

We cannot be rational, mature and stoical every second of our lives you know!!

Spite?would that be contrary opinion?i see no spite.i see discussions
Op may not hear opinion she like,she may hear opinion she like.its interesting life
The gamble on aibu,is the response

scottishmummy You don't. Others do. A lot of early posts weren't just disagreements, they were having a real go at the OP.

I said so at the time, so I don't intend to trawl back and find them.

I agree with the posters who said you've got so much on your plate at the min OP, it's no wonder you're getting jittery and focusing on things you'd maybe not think that much of under normal circumstances.

It's what came across to me reading the thread anyway, that the level of feeling you have for it is disproportionate (to everyday life) to what he's done.

'Stop whining.
poor widdle you doesn't get a paid party
Get over it'

Isn't just discussion/opinion SM, I can just hear the sneering voice that'd be used if someone said it out loud.

If you think that's putting across an objective view in a discussion, as you seem to, then you've totally underestimated how crushing talking like that to a person can be.

It's not a weakness to dislike being talked to like shit on someone's shoe (just imagining all the 'if you can't stomach it don't go on the net', 'I can say what I like, don't post on AIBU if you don't like it' etc etc rubbish)

You cancelling the wedding then? Just a thought?

I think he is inconsiderate tbh. I'd have second thoughts.

Hope you have a great time tonight OP. , , and more !

Hope you have fun tonight op

Hope your night isn't ruined. I suggest vodka

Do you plan to cut and paste other responses not liked?or just mine
I was not the lone dissenting voice
But hey ho I presume it suits to grumble I'm a bad un

I guess it's because several people have noticed you make rather a habit of it, SM

Scottishmummy your tone came very close to bullying.

A poster said they couldn't understand the spite on the thread SM, and you posted defending what you'd said earlier on.

Nobody mentioned you by name.

I was answering that post saying it's difficult when someone won't acknowledging or can't understanding the effect their words can have on another person.

Just because you can't see the other person doesn't mean you can minimize their feelings to that of a dead fish.

'when someone won't acknowledging or can't understanding'

Changed the sentence half way through but lost interest

Scottishmummy there were others who shared your viewpoint of the OP but your early posts stand out as being particularly aggressive, bordering on personal attack territory. You're long enough in the tooth in MN terms to know the score on here and you do owe the OP an apology for your behaviour on this thread.

There's been some good advice for the OP on here. I hope she's feeling a bit better tonight, has a good hen night but does have a good Think about some of the constructive things that have been said going forward into her marriage.

Well said Wynken

Never mind that scottishmummy . What I would like to know is how you always manage to write your posts in that odd dismembered staccato style, are you posting on a typewriter ?

it's typing in scottish accent stylee, CIMO

can't you see my Manchester accent coming through ?

I always understand SM perfectly. You've either got it, or you don't

If my real life pal were in pieces about man away for weekend,I'd be saying get a grip
If one has a steady relationship,it can survive a boozy do with no text received
And if a man posted his gf away with the lassies but no text received he'd be told not be controlling

All the more reason to wonder why she's so upset about such a minor-ish thing then SM.

Not everyone who's upset is an attention seeking drama llama.

Yes it was a v minor thing