He hasn't text :'(

[OctopusPete8]

So...the OH is away on his Stag do, over the weekend. Just to give some quick background, I planned my Hen do first, I deiced due to cost, having children ..etc a weekend is an awfully long time so I'll just have a night ..alrighty then, all planned.
Few weeks ago, Oh I'm off to *** for a weekend, I was a bit miffed and I admitted I was jealous that he got to go away and I felt like I had to decline a weekend, its being paid for in his defence.

And then.....'Oh were going ***' Thats MY HEN DO! wasn't deliberate, but its for the convenience of a friend/personal circumstances.
He's gone today etc, etc on good terms was not deliberate if a bit thoughtless, till monday.
So yes, I am having 2 kids all weekend by myself and have to get to my childcare myself, with no car going down 3 flights of stairs.

And......its nearly 10pm no text, no "how are the kids" "how are you?"

Has updated fb twice though....
I felt quite hurt and humilated ,
AIBU.

No,it's not about me
If others use this as vehicle to recall posts I written they dislike,or have general moan.thats their issue
Plenty other posts on thread that op has disputed,I'm not wholly against grain at all

Funny how your posts are suddenly so coherent isn't it?

You are under no compulsion to accept what I say on a thread
And I'm under no compulsion to disavow you of your opinion of my posts,actions
It's words on a screen you have no way of seeking corroboration. Nor will you get it

I don't know how you manage to follow threads if you don't take any notice of posters MN names SM.

How can you follow the smaller threads of conversation with other posts in between? Or juicy arguments?

I love the names people choose,some of them are really subtle and funny, you're missing out

Hope the OPs having a bloody good knees up..

I don't know how you manage to follow threads if you don't take any notice of posters MN names SM.

How can you follow the smaller threads of conversation with other posts in between? Or juicy arguments?

I love the names people choose,some of them are really subtle and funny, you're missing out

Hope the OPs having a bloody good knees up..

Read thread,respond to posts on thread,same as everyone.its not hard
I don't commit names to memory,I don't hold onto so and so said this,that
Not bothered about people rapport or spats,I dont carry mn grudges or gripes

It's the same irony as SM getting worked up about the OP being worked up mindyourownbusiness (a MN name adaptable to every situation as ironic or part of the MN mantra )

You're all as bad as each other (I don't include myself in the grubby public scrum, naturally )

Mindyourwnbusiness

If you think it's a personal attack report it.

I was joking saying I didn't include myself SM.

And you can never have too many faces.

Take the faces out and it looks like I'm being arsey to mindyourown, and if I was, there wouldn't be any faces and I'd be more than OK getting across what I think.

They're visual clues to inject a bit of emotion into 2d text. Even though I've got more security than fort knox on my emotions, I go along with the idea that other people have them and appreciate a bit of consideration.

'Take the faces out and it looks like I'm being arsey to mindyourown, and if I was, there wouldn't be any faces'

Because I haven't used any emoticons in that last post it looks like I'm being arsey now

Hello

Please try to play the ball and not the woman. (In other words, no personal attacks.)

We hope you had a good night in the end, OctopusPete8

I still don't think she should marry him, imagine spending the next 20 years this angry and neglected and miserable. Month after month, year after year.
My relationship is like SM's, to my mind we enjoy the level of independence and lack of neediness and jealousy from both partners, but it doesn't work for others. Some people have much more intense and entwined relationships that would drive me insane but that suit them.
You need to find a man who will enable you to have the sort of relationship you need OP, and your OH doesn't seem to be that.

Wanting consideration isn't "needy" or jealousy. It's pretty fundamental to any relationship.

Scallops, I'm not criticising the OP at all, but for one couple what is seen as consideration and caring and supportive, to another couple is cloying and needy and annoying. That's why when you marry, or choose a life partner, you need to find someone that suits you and what you see as the fundamental elements of a good relationship.
For example, I didn't need a snuggly cuddly man, or a good-looking one. But I needed a level of intelligence and shared knowledge and interests to avoid being bored stiff.

Eyesunderarock spot on. I personally get a bit tired of seeing people who are happy enough with relaxed relationships sneered at as 'cool wives'
but OTOH people whose relationships are more entwined have different needs and expectations. It's when those levels aren't met and communication is poor that problems arise. Everyone's needs, expectations and boundaries are different and it's not really appropriate for one person to insist that their way of conducting a relationship is right for the relationship of another.

I'm in my 50s and we've just celebrated our 27th anniversary. I can cope with being cool and trendy. Bring it on!