To not understand couples who can't go anywhere without each other

[arabesque]

It's nice to see couples who are close and share lots of interest. But sometimes it can go a bit far. I have a friend and if you want to meet up with her you have to accept that her DP is going to come too; even if it's just 'the girls' meeting up for a chat.
Every Christmas in work there are arguments and sulks regarding whether or not partners can come to the office party with one girl refusing to attend if her husband can't come as well!

AIBU to just not get why some couples cannot have any kind of separate life, separate friends or separate interests?

this has cleared up one mystery for me, which is why clothes shops are crammed with bored blokes. I have never taken DH clothes shopping with me, nor do I pick his clothes. I sometimes wish the men would stay away, when it is sale time and there is almost no room in the shop as it is. But I guess they feel they ought to be there.

Dh always asks me to his work parties and I always say no...he's always happy with that! I don't want to sit with his workmates....I caused a "thing" the other night though when I said I wasn't attending a dinner and he told his workmates....and they all moaned that they didn't want their wives to come either but they'd already asked them....I think it's fun sometimes but other times, workmates want to celebrate together and to have their in-jokes and all that.

beast I know! I have seen those men...they lumber about and get in the way in the knicker dept!

I always tend to leave DH outside clothes shops.

Gosh I never realised it was odd to do the shopping together. We almost always do this. We need both of us to carry it all home!

I dont think other people ared odd, its just their men are in the way but I wouldnt do it myself as I want to dither and lie about how it cost

As they say

"How can I miss you if you wont fuck off"?!

God. I could not cope with all that " togetherness" if I am tired I go to bed, and vice versa, but I do know some that will only go to bed at the same time! Might sit up to be polite at the beginning of a relationship, but not now!!

Isn't it a bit like putting all your eggs in one basket?!

What if your OH sods off with someone else and because you haven't invested in friendships you're left high and dry?

I love being with DP, we spend as much time together as possible and love doing menial chores together (the weekly shop being a particular highlight ) but I also love time with my friends and family too. There's nothing better than glass of wine with the girls or a shopping trip with my DM.

Also re the work do's thing, I've made friends everywhere I've worked - afterall you can spend 40+ hours per week with these people so some friendships naturally occur (usually?!) - so I enjoy work nights out, and I'm far from sad ;)

shew do not be sad. I have loved exploring the world and all its wonder (and hope to still do ) with my DH I would not want to do it with anyone else. We just love being together and there are no deep rooted controlling I am not aware of...