TidyDancer's bridezilla thread part 2

[TidyDancer]

New thread. :)

Thanks for that.

Spells it out clearly-well, to me-maybe not Bridezilla, though

Although I also like Dame Fanny's concise reply

SarahAndFuck's response is indeed direct and dignified.

But I think Gluezilla has been spending too much time on wedding forums, where the accepted wisdom is that people like to be "part of the wedding". That means giving everyone possible a job to do, so they feel involved. Somewhere there will be a thread saying "Argh, we can't afford to invite everyone we sent STD cards to - what do I do?!" and someone replied "maybe you could ask some of them to help you decorate your venue the night before? Get plenty of nice wine and nibbles in and muck in together". Gluezilla is in that weird bridal headspace where everyone is honoured to be involved in whatever small way, but hopes she can get away with a 2L bottle of Lambrini and a bag of Doritos.

Whatever you do please refer to her as a gluezilla in your reply - she will be completely nonplussed. It's a bit like calling someone a Wendy.

Ooh yes - she will immediately Google "gluezilla" and be directed here...

Ah yes- the consolation (booby?) prize!

""I am sorry if I wasn't clear before. I was hoping that you might realise just how rude you are being, without me having to spell it out to you.

You simply cannot expect to send someone a save the date card, fail to invite them to your wedding, and then request them to arrange childcare and put in time and effort to do you a wedding related favour!!

I understand that this is your wedding, and you have every right to invite whoever you wish to attend. However, I am frankly astonished that you cannot appreciate just how rude you have been, in asking me to help you decorate the hall for a wedding you chose not to invite me to, for the benefit of those who you DO regard well enough to invite!

It is embarrassing for both of us, so you'll have to accept a firm no.

Tidy

A few tweaks there.

Another vote for SarahAndFuck's suggestion. Although if it were me I'd change "I am shocked" and "I am saddened" to more neutral language. I think it'll make a more effective point if it's stripped of all emotion.

In general, I'm not convinced that opening up a debate about the correct use of Save The Date cards would help. The bridezilla has already rationalised in her head that her misuse was unfortunate but justifiable and so there's no point trying to "win" this argument.

Or in other words, the changes made by pictish.

I get the impression Gluezilla knows now that she's caused offence, not only to OP but to others as well. I'd say she is now surrounded by burning bridges hence the desperation and begging in the latest request.

She's hoping to gloss over the whole debacle and hoping that OP will take pity on her.

If she had only acknowledged the balls up with the std cards and apologised properly then there might have been some hope for saving the friendship.

But by failing to do that and continuing to pressure OP for the decoration favour she is saying; I know I've offended and hurt you but I don't care, the friendship is now fucked anyway so I have nothing to lose by continuing to ask and you might be mug enough to comply

Part of me wishes you would agree to decorate it, just to shut her up. Flaccid balloons and a big banner saying "UP YOUR ARSE, GLUE SNIFFING BITCH".

Perhaps gluezilla is on nethuns or Confetti or somesuch, with her thread on ungrateful friends who are ruining her wedding

I shall check Confetti :)

Morning all

Hmmm, although now the tone of the thread seems to be to post offensive comments about the bridezilla.

If you're going to post that kind of thing, it needs to be funny. Otherwise it just comes across as plain nasty.

I'm sorry, I tried but I can't do Confetti. Not after this response from a bride:

No kids. I'm even putting it on my invites. They are annoying, make parents have to leave early, cry when they're grumpy and in my purely selfish opinion, I feel they take a lot of the guests attention for looking cute. The attention should be on the bride and groom, not some distant relative's kid in a pink dress. Although I will have a 9 and 6 year old attending (totally contradicting my beliefs) because I have been regularly involved with them since they were born and are friends of mine, not just my friend's kids.

getting on this thread and voting for KoalaFace's response

Dear Bitchzilla

I'm really sorry, I thought we'd talked about this...

I can't help out everyone who sends me save the dates so I'm sorry that i wont be able to help you and [DP's name].

I'd still really appreciate an invitation to the wedding. Is there any chance you can do it?

Please? :) :) :)

Tidy

Shamelessly marking place as can't wait to see Tidy's response later!:o

so many good possible responces... im glad i dont have to choose on!

i also like sarahandfucks reply. you need something that is straight to the point so she actually 'gets' how very rude she is being

The response must NOT be about Tidy's feelings, but ENTIRELY about the bride's bad form.

Love dontlaugh's limerick!

TalkativeJim's serious response is worth considering though!

I actually had to check Tidy's profile to see if I'm attending this wedding because something about it sounds awfully familiar. Fortunately she's younger than me so cannot be an old school friend of my personal bridezilla.

WeAreEternal

pictish is right! No talk about feelings or the clueless butch will turn it back on you!

Come on elinor spill the beans!

I think Horry could be spot on about the wedding forums. I'd put money on it.

And another delurker for sarahandfuck's note.

I think you should just reply with

Yeah, no...

Yeah agreeing to the lack of invitation. No to helping decorate.