TidyDancer's bridezilla thread part 2

[TidyDancer]

New thread. :)

'Let me know when you come to your sences. Love x'

Balloon - you are probably so right

"Her inbox will be full of hurt and mystified messages from other people." I wonder if there will come a point, some months down the line, when she looks back at those 'hurt and mystified messages' when the penny will finally drop?

I said upthread that she wouldn't understand, even if it was spelled out to her.

There's no point in trying to educate her.

BalloonSlayer may be right, though. She may well appreciate the rudeness of it once the wedding of the century is over. And hopefully, she will feel mortified.

Balloonslayer excellent post. You have really nailed the Bridezilla character there. Was LMAO at the Yorkshire rose scenario as my groom and best man are from either side of 'the war of the roses' as are our families. Ended up making them all wear vivid orange to stop any arguing

I was not a Bridezilla was I ?

Well I'm amazed somebody hasn't said anything to her tbh.

If she's moaned to someone about "Tidy won't decorate".

So Iwonder if anyone else does know how she's treated OP?

Surely her fiance would have stopped her sending out more save the date cards than the numbers of invitations they were planning on sending?

Or maybe they are a match made in heaven??

Tidy There is no excuse for that behaviour, and to treat people like shit. If she has any ounce of intelligence she should know that! She obviously does not value you as a friend and is only interested in what you can give her. Is she that stupid, you spelled it out to her and she still acts this way and makes no effort to salvage the friendship, shows how little she thinks of you. I would reply simply 'I don't think so, hope you have a wonderful day' best wishes tidy, then just walk away

Tidy, what was the deal with her hen party? Did she have one? Did she invite you? If she did have one and didn't invite you it was sort of a harbinger of things to come. If she did invite you and you went, did she give you any inclination of being gluezilla?

I think she sounds a bit embarrassed by what she has done but doesn't really know how to apologise/is too pig headed to apologise so has sent you a short but sweet reply so she can absolve herself of any guilt. It's very easy to explain away rude behaviour by saying there has been a "misunderstanding". Just move on now and don't reply but obviously use this thread/MN to vent if you feel angry/upset which is understandable.

A misunderstanding? Not that big of a deal?!

What planet is this woman on?

I'm in the don't reply camp too.

Although I half wish you'd send her a link to this thread.

'Delurks to say she's got more front than Blackpool.'
And Southport and Lytham and in fact the whole coast line of Britain!!!!

I am struggling to get my head around just how utterly obtuse this woman is!

I agree, I wouldn't reply. I would be very tempted to forward the entire email chain to the other 19 friends who got a save the date card and no invite....

Surely offending a friend by sending a save the date card and then not inviting her to the wedding but assuming she'll be happy to find childcare to come and decorate your venue for you, for the benefit of those guests who were special enough to be invited IS the sort of minor misunderstanding that could happen to anyone!!

Balloonslayer, will you marry me?

Too right balloon you have hit the nail on the head. I got married and never in a million years would I been tat rude. I hope that imactually thought of others, and was not obsessed with the wedding 24/7. She sounds thoughtless and rude. Even if you were notas close to her, if I had asked a friend(s) to,help decorate my wedding hall, I would most certainly ask tem to come to the evening bit at least

She's a loon or a bitch on wheels or both.

I'm torn between not dignifying it with a response and sending the text suggested:"Sounds like you have it all sorted on your end, so I won't worry about it. Have a lovely wedding."

I disagree. I think she has no inkling that she's been rude. She thinks you're being petty and she couldn't give a toss if you're offended or not. In which case the best response is to not respond.

Another in the "Don't reply" camp here.

Yes, GoodtoBetter, that's exactly it; "she thinks you're being petty and couldn't give a toss."

No loss.

Tidy, have you spoken to any other ditched invitees?

The awful thing is she'll probably make comments along the line of "I asked Tidy to help decorate the venue and she refused!" < hurt face >

When people say that it is a bit off for a guest to decline to help she'll add "Oh she's not coming now," accompanied by a roll of the eyes or other facial expression suggesting that Tidy is not coming because she has refused to attend having taken umbrage at being asked to help.

People will almost certainly end up thinking Tiny is in the wrong.

I agree with Balloonslayer (on everything - but mostly that Gluezilla will successfully bitch about Tidy)

Hi Tidy

I'd go for a bright breezy reply to match her tone.

'Dear F

I agree, let's not make a big deal of it. I've explained why I don't want to help with your decorations and why I think you were a bit rude to ask me to. I'm definitely not going to change my mind so let's leave it at that.

Tidy'

I'd reply,

'Yes a HUGE misunderstanding never mind, I'm glad we sorted it out.'

and leave it at that.

Oh yes I like that!

I'm in the no reply camp as well and I think Balloon's scenario is spot on.

If I wasn't in the no reply camp I'd be tempted by

"Don't worry - I got the message" and just leave it at that.

I'm just about catching up, but "let me know if you change your mind" reminded me of a line from a song. Somebody who knows more about jazz/blues might be able to identify it (which song/singer), but it simply says:

"when your phone don't ring, it'll be me".

"It's nice that you can admit that you misunderstood the size and connotations of your request for free labour. I was worried that you had turned into a massive cock!
Have a wonderful day!
TidyDancer"