TidyDancer's bridezilla thread part 2

[TidyDancer]

New thread. :)

pressed the wrong button on my phone! Should have added

and makes the OP look bright, breezy and reasonable so the BZ cant say that the OP "stopped speaking to me, selfish cow etc"

Silence will say more than words will in this case.

Please, for your own sanity, don't reply.

Don't be surprised if she does start with nasty messages when you don't turn up after the wedding though. People like this follow a pattern I've noticed.

Befriend
take the piss
get angry when doesn't go their way
act innocent
turn the blame
play martyr to everyone else
bad mouth real victim in all of this
send victim shit loads of nasty messages
send victim crap apology which isn't an apology after all - still blaming victim
message of friendship over understood.
Still try to re friend victim
try to refriend victim through other friends
give up
play martyr
find another victim

Note, you would have stopped playing this game somewhere near the begining of the list.

I was going to suggest "okey doke - will do!" and then never reply again but bogeyface got there first!

Wow, for someone who has (according to you) had work published in journals, she sounds very very very thick/ignorant. Either that or she is just really arrogant/full of herself but surely you would have seen that personality trait in her before since you have known her for so long?

sorry, now I'm giggling over "I don't kink so..." Have I missed something as well?

Just to add - I am another one in the "don't reply" camp. Keep your dignity, move on. She sounds like she is either on drugs or just a very self-centred, strange individual who obviously has reality "issues".

Just ignore, no point engaging with her she is a prize cow.

But I bet if you do she contacts you again soon to see if you have changed your mind.

Don't feed the ego.

The dignified thing to do is just to ignore and don't reply.

I would however be tempted to just simply send her links to this thread and the first one.

It's some strong glue she's on.

That bit's for sure!

I'm sure this was said on the first thread, but honestly, the only response I think that would be humorous whilst pointing out her epic failure of basic manners would be to send her a copy of Debretts as a wedding present, possibly with a post it notebon the page that explains wedding etiquette.

I agree that, tragically, silence is probably best even though I actually want you to send a link to the threads Farewell, threads, you have been spectacular :(

HOWEVER I would like to take a moment to defend Confetti. I was a regular poster on there when I was planning my wedding and then ttc/pregnant. Yes, it was a bit crazy (but entertaining), with a lot of our special day/princess for the day guff (I personally take the view that the B&G are hosts and should treat their guests accordingly ) but it was a good place to let out the craziness without pissing anyone off (not that I was particularly nuts I don't think but I didn't really have any friends who were particularly interested). And you know what, MN? I'm still in touch with people I met on there six years later, but I've been posting on MN for the same length of time and haven't made any MNy friends. So um screw you or something

I like quickquicksloe's response:

How about

*"You're right, you did misunderstand! Sorry to have had to to be the one to point it out to you, but hopefully I have saved you from further embarrassment.

Have a lovely day

Xxxx*

I've had a chat with my DM about this tonight, and she said some interesting things about F that she recalls from when we were teenagers. She said she always took F to be one of those people who are reasonably intelligent, extremely ambitious, but terribly lacking in common sense. Looking at it from that perspective, I can sort of see how this wedding has taken her over. That certainly doesn't excuse her btw.

Coco, it is correct that she has been published in medical journals, and afaik she is respected at work. Neither thick or arrogant totally fits her, but naïveté would perhaps apply. Or something like that (can't think of the correct word!).

Trying to down play how much of a piss taking 'friend' she is?!!

That's bridezilla not your dm Tiny.

Me? No, definitely not Cookie! Really honestly just trying to understand or perhaps find the point of sanity in this!

Cookie, I'm confused by what you mean!

I have had a couple of friends like that Tidy. Academically very bright, but not very socially adept. They seem to miss the unwritten rules that other people get.

Than her ego as totally overtaken her. Ignore and consign this friedship to the bin

Sorry lack of sleep has rendered me a incoherent idiot tonight.
I thought bridezilla was trying to play down how wrong she has behaved.
Sorry, Tiny.

Oh I'm with you now Cookie! Get some sleep! :)

I've been watching this thread and have followed it since the first post but I had nothing clever or witty or even comforting to add, and in fact still don't. But I do just need to say at this conjecture...

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You're cornered because its the 'happiest' day of her life yadda yadda so you can't appear to be nasty and 'just' sore that you didn't have an invitation (is what she'll say). (That's my take anyway)

Forget the silliness now, the poems etc (although I appreciate how it has lightened up the gravity of the situ and made you laugh).

Have you still got the save the date card? Just reply and say 'sorry I'm busy, I'm seeing a friend that day'. Dignity all the way.

That is putting it very mildly for me

*wrongly not wrong. Gah. I give up. I'm not posting any more tonight.