TidyDancer's bridezilla thread part 2

[TidyDancer]

New thread. :)

Tidy, i've known my best friend for 25 years, if she wasnt at my wedding, i'd cancel, thats how much i value her friendship, shes my DD's godmother and there 2 hours after DD was born.

If you love your friends, you show them, you dont exclude them, try and use them and being rude because you said no.

im afraid i agree with those saying, they feel sorry for the bridezilla. She will probably be gutted she has lost a good friend. It would ruin my wedding for me

If she is otherwise/normally a good bird...Id not let this be the end of a friendship. Id tell her in no uncertain terms that she has been a wanker like, and she can stick her decorations up her arse..but if i loved her, Id get over it

If she was that much of a friend, Tidy would have been invited in the first place and none of this malarky would have been necessary though.

I like Nipers's analogy.

actually....im wrong ...what ezio said. i cant actually imagine my friends uninviting me!!

Of course you're bothered about the friendship or you wouldn't have been offended or hurt.

You may get an apology down the road, after she's come to her senses (probably after the wedding is over!), since I think you said she never seemed especially entitled or selfish before. I would have been really offended too, and I would have refused to decorate. And it would absolutely change the friendship for me. But if she comes back later with a real what-was-I-thinking apology, then ten years from now it may have just become a long-ago moment when your friend acted like a twat. Here's hoping

Classy response, Tidy.

Please don't anyone worry about bridezilla losing my friendship. This will not gut her, she is not that type. It will certainly not ruin the wedding.

If you cared sufficiently that it would ruin your wedding for you if a certain friend was lost boomba, then might it have been an idea to invite her in the first place? Or should that be second place?

Well worded, Tidy.
You deserve a and and probably a large now

I will point out as well, that I haven't disengaged the friendship, I have actually left it very open ended and if she does one day realise and accept just how rude she has been, I would certainly listen if she wanted to talk about it with me.

Excellent response!

Definitely not posting to see if there is another reply from Gluezilla, oh no....

Thank you all. :)

I think we all deserve wine, especially you lot for sticking with me all week!

I can see what you are saying, Boomba - but it seems pretty baffling to me that she didn't realise how cheeky and entitled her request was, even after TidyDancer refused her request the first time. If she had realised how far she had overstepped the friendship mark and apologised, then maybe the friendship could have been salvaged (because TidyDancer is clearly a lovely and kind person who doesn't hold grudges), but she didn't.

Cross posted with the lovely and forgiving TidyDancer.

Well done Tidy-that email was awesome as DS would say! :o

thank you SDTG. :)

If you end up deciding that you're feeling generous enough to send her a wedding present, you could put together a book of all the poems on these threads: her own personalised volume of poetry!

Fab email Tidy

I think it is a great reply, clear, not nasty and grown up.

I have just looked at that confetti link. The people on there seem to have no concept of gracious hospitality and have forgotten they are hosts at a wedding and people they invite are guests not an audience.

I particularly liked the smug but ill mannered bride who said that there were going to be a lot of very disappointed people when their invites went out as lots of people who thought they were coming hadn't made the final list.

Brilliant response.

On another note I only just avoided asking someone on the phone at work today if they were on glue. Thanks to this thread for putting THAT in my brain.

Oooh... the suspense!

Please can I hav a link to the confetti thread?!

I never fail to be astounded by the gall of some people - how self important they are!

Tidy fab response. I totally agree with you re the friendship as well. It's not worth being friends with a drain, but drains can be unblocked and if she has her brain bleached decides to realise the errors of her way then there may be hope to re build what you had.

Well done Tidy - that was the perfect response. xxx