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AIBU?

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To be so angry and upset by this?

178 replies

babyperks · 10/07/2013 23:21

One of my college friends was talking about booking her wedding for either next August/September. I was really happy and excited for her, and looking forward to her big day.

Then tonight I find out she's booked it for the same date as mine and OH's anniversary, when she knows full well that it's our day. Angry

I am so angry and upset about it, but don't know if I'm overreacting?

So, AIBU?

OP posts:
MrsBungle · 11/07/2013 09:57

How extremely self-absorbed! Honestly, she probably can't remember not give a shit when your anniversary is.

You're not only over-reacting, you need to grow up.

PatriciaHolm · 11/07/2013 10:04

I had the audacity to give birth to my DS on my 3rd wedding anniversary. What a bitch I am !

HoldMeCloserTonyDanza · 11/07/2013 10:07

This is a reverse AIBU, right?

goldenlula · 11/07/2013 10:08

You know what, my cousin decided to have her wedding on dd's first birthday and my friend had her dd's Christening on her second birthday. How dare they use my dd's special day Wink Dd got to attend big parties on her birthdays with no cost to us! Next year I think I might have to arrange my own get together for her! YABU op.

LaRegina · 11/07/2013 10:12

Of course you're being U Grin. How can you not know that? Confused

Some friends of ours got married on the same day as us when we'd been married just a few years. Didn't bother us at all - in fact it was quite handy to have a free party to celebrate at Smile

Thingiebob · 11/07/2013 10:13

This is so bizarre. The idea that you OWN that date! I know a family member on my DH's side who threw a fit when a cousin of hers got married on her wedding .anniversary. Refused to attend wedding and didn't speak to her cousin for ages. It divided the family's and started a terrible rift. The really stupid thing was the relative had been divorced for some years!

Gubbins · 11/07/2013 10:14

Is it the bank holiday weekend? In which case fuck right off, that's my anniversary weekend, and I've owned it since 2000.

pictish · 11/07/2013 10:15

Yabu - and hilariously so! It's almost quite endearing, it's that disproportionate! Grin

Anniversary schmanniversary! You don't own that date....so stop being silly.

Blu · 11/07/2013 10:17

"But I get it, I'm overreacting. Still doesn't mean I can't be upset about it though."

You can be upset about it, yes, but it will make you look like a loon.

Badvoc · 11/07/2013 10:17

Yabu and ridiculous.

pjmama · 11/07/2013 10:19

My sister got married on my birthday - means I never forget her anniversary! No biggie.

pictish · 11/07/2013 10:20

Oh and please know this - when she booked her wedding, your anniversary didn't occur to her for one second.
I don't know the anniversaries of a single one of my friends. Not even the ones I see a lot.
In fact, one of them had a baby on my wedding anniversary - the thunder stealing bitch. Grin

lydiajones · 11/07/2013 10:20

YABU - you can't expect someone to arrange their wedding date around you. The venue probably only had certain dates free.

SignoraStronza · 11/07/2013 10:21

YABU. Think it would be a lovely way to celebrate your anniversary. Book a hotel room, enjoy your meal, congratulate the couple on having such excellent/lucky choice in dates, have a dance and then get a few anniversary shags in afterwards. Grin

My DH proposed to me on what he later realised was his previous marriage's anniversary. I found it quite amusing actually - and very reassuring that he'd forgotten!

pictish · 11/07/2013 10:21

Blu Grin

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Purple2012 · 11/07/2013 10:23

Yabvvvu. Why would she know your anniversary. You don't have the monopoly on that day.

FruminousBandersnatch · 11/07/2013 10:24

YANBU. My best friend had the utter gall to have a baby on my anniversary. We have never spoken again.

FruminousBandersnatch · 11/07/2013 10:25

pictish snap. People are so bloody selfish. My special date has been ruined forever.

Sunnymeg · 11/07/2013 10:30

Friends of ours booked their wedding not realising that it was the anniversary for two of their friends.

At the reception, they announced that it was their anniversary and they gave them a small gift as well.

You cannot be sure how your friend will handle it if she find's out it is a special day for both of you.

maja00 · 11/07/2013 10:30

I think you should definitely wear your wedding dress to their wedding. And cry loudly through the vows.

TheOnlyPink · 11/07/2013 10:37

You are most definitely being unreasonable. But I also want to know if its a wedding anniversary, as you use "oh" and not "dh". If its just the day you and him got together you are even more unreasonable.

my mil got annoyed with me because I married her son the day before her sisters birthday!

WafflyVersatile · 11/07/2013 10:45

onlypink, you are a MONSTER!

TheOnlyPink · 11/07/2013 10:48

Blush I'm so inconsiderate. Only think of myself.

in fairness to mil, it was a milestone birthday for her sister and I think they were planning a weekend away.

CrapBag · 11/07/2013 10:49

Oh ffs. Get over it. Its not YOUR day. Its a date in the calendar to most people. Plus most people get married in August or September.