Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

To be so angry and upset by this?

178 replies

babyperks · 10/07/2013 23:21

One of my college friends was talking about booking her wedding for either next August/September. I was really happy and excited for her, and looking forward to her big day.

Then tonight I find out she's booked it for the same date as mine and OH's anniversary, when she knows full well that it's our day. Angry

I am so angry and upset about it, but don't know if I'm overreacting?

So, AIBU?

OP posts:
softlysoftly · 11/07/2013 00:07

I totes get your pain! My friend got married on our anniversary the bitch :(

Now every year when she posts her "so much on lurrvvee on our anniversary" Facebook updates I go "oh fuck we forgot our anniversary again" and feel a bit bad for a nanosecond day.

That's what you meant right?

ladymariner · 11/07/2013 00:08

I thought that too piffy

AntlersInAllOfMyDecorating · 11/07/2013 00:09

This reply has been deleted

Message deleted by MNHQ. Here's a link to our Talk Guidelines.

OhTiger · 11/07/2013 00:09

Go in your wedding dress.

DaemonPantalaemon · 11/07/2013 00:13

OP, I feel your pain. My sister had the nerve to give birth ON MY BIRTHDAY! She could have chosen any day, but she chose MY BIRTHDAY!

And then I found out that my new neighbours actually got married on my son's birthday. Okay, he hadn't yet been born, he was born ten years after their wedding but the nerve of it! But think about it, my son's birthday is their wedding anniversary!!!

But this is the final straw: my sister had another child ... on my husband's birthday.

The nerve of some people. I am totally with you. Not.

Balaboosta · 11/07/2013 00:14

Amazing. A unanimous YABU! Is this some kind of MN record or is there still time for a dissenting voice?

littleblackno · 11/07/2013 00:33

Look orward to the AIBU thread about a couple who came to a wedding and he gave a speach uinvited as it was their day!!!

littleblackno · 11/07/2013 00:34

*forward

FannyFifer · 11/07/2013 00:37

Really?! I couldn't even tell you when my friends weddings were.

Yabvvvvvvu

LemonPeculiarJones · 11/07/2013 00:40

Whoa......!

YA sooooooo BU!

If this makes you angry and upset, what the hell do you do when have real problems?!

Astonishing.

Turniptwirl · 11/07/2013 00:43

Yabvvvvu!

Especially may-September when everyone seems to have weddings (no idea if its statistically true but it seems like it !)

Don't bother going if you're gonna be a bitch about it. Stay home with your beloved and gaze adoringly at each other for 24 hours and not a minute more or less because it is YOUR DAY

Devora · 11/07/2013 00:44

There are no words to express my bemusement.

I started reading the thread thinking, what kind of social revolution is going on that means people now are expected to know and care about their friends' anniversaries?

I am relieved to see from the rest of the thread that I didn't miss that memo Grin

WafflyVersatile · 11/07/2013 01:01

A friend of mine had a 1st anniversary party. I didn't deliberately forget, my crap memory was entirely genuine but I do suspect my opinion that it was utterly ridiculous to expect people to mark a whole year of someone else's marriage subconsciously contributed to my forgetfulness.

BreadNameBread · 11/07/2013 01:10

Sorry but here is another YABU. You really are.

Onesleeptillwembley · 11/07/2013 01:16

Awe ffs get a grip. It's your poxy anniversary, which means nothing to anybody else. You really expect the world to respect one day because of you? Grow up. Actually, are you sure you're old enough up be married?

Onesleeptillwembley · 11/07/2013 01:18

If I really wanted to be honest I'd call you a thick, spoiled bint. As I'm not, I'll try not to think it.

PeriodMath · 11/07/2013 01:19

"Doesn't mean I can't be upset about it."

I'm afraid it does. How on earth will you cope with the ups and downs of life, relationships, friendships etc if this is all it takes to upset you?

It is NOT your day. It's a date on the calendar shared by us all. Your wedding has been and gone. Marking your anniversary is for you and your DH and no-one else. You are being outrageously precious and immature.

And this is coming from somebody who can be a tad sensitive and over-reacty herself at times Wink

KobayashiMaru · 11/07/2013 01:37

god, really? Well that takes the bloody Biscuit

Just when you think you've seen every type of self-involved, bizarre behaviour, there's always more on mn.

libertine73 · 11/07/2013 01:46

Turn up in your wedding dress Grin

yup, unreasonable as fuck.

Sunnysummer · 11/07/2013 02:17

Yabvvvvvu.

FirstStopCafe · 11/07/2013 02:24

YABU

ChasedByBees · 11/07/2013 02:28

Huge huge HUGE overreaction. Even to be a little miffed is an over reaction. And to say she was a close friend? Weird.

She won't have given this a second thought. And that's normal.

When/how do you think it will be a problem? If you and your DH decide to throw a party to celebrate 10/15/25 years or whatever, it's v unlikely to be one of those landmark ones for them too.

JeanPaget · 11/07/2013 02:30

You sound insane.

Burmobasher · 11/07/2013 02:42

Ha ha, really? I didn't realise you could own a date. In that case you should go and shout "I OBJECT" at the lawful impediment bit.

MusicalEndorphins · 11/07/2013 03:10

May I ask what is it that upsets you?

I would find it somewhat romantic to attend a wedding on our wedding anniversary. When they say their vows to each other, your dh may reach over and hold your hand, perhaps mouth the vows while gazing into your eyes.

Are you concerned about future anniversary parties being on the same day?