about my Boyfriends birthday & his mum

[crazyhamsterdisguisedasahippo]

First AIBU but I really need to know if I am .

Its my Bfs birthday on Tuesday , he has just told me he is going for a meal with his mum & family Tuesday evening so will be busy from 4 - 8 .
I have not been invited despite us been together for 3 years (we don't live together) .
He is working Tuesday morning until 1pm & i have appointments Tuesday from 1-4 (several appointments) .
He says it is not fair that i can't see him on his birthday & expects me to palm my Ds off on my Dm on a school night so i can take him out I have told him i won't do this as Ds comes first & i told him to ask his mum to make it later or for the day after & he can't as she will be upset (huge case of pfb) .
I thought i was his family but apparently not as he does everything his mum says even if it means cancelling our plans

Am I been unreasonable to think that after 3 years he would see me as his family as well as his mum & sometimes put our relationship first or should I just suck it up

Ah, but does it ring any bells?! :o

Piglet it would take a lot more than moving abroad to cut my exes umbilical cord

I'm actually scarred for life

I can see that happening

I know bogey I was and gave him a bollocking. I don't think mum had noticed she is quite a deep sleeper

Drip drip drip

I need brain bleach too

Bessie what do you mean ?

I know pointless post Bessie, crazy is just replying to our questions

Piglet Its all mine

I need the bleach recalling dh jumping into bed with his mum

What on earth possessed him to get in to bed with his mum

crawling into bed with mummy is something I dont encourage my 7 year old to do

Can I ask why not?

Really, Bessie?

It was 3 0 clock in the morning, baby ad been howling for some time, he needed to be able to concentrate t wrk and could not without getting some proper sleep. T incident has never been repeated again tank goodness

Just to add baby was really crying and could not be soothed, I think dd had bad colic

Numberlock because I have never encouraged sleeping outside of their own beds. Even when they are ill, they sleep in their beds and I sleep on their floors. I made the mistake of allowing DD1 into my bed when she was 3/4 ish and then it was hell on toast getting her to sleep on her own, I was ending up going to bed at 7pm!

Piglet surely you had a sofa

Yes I don't think he thought of that

Imagine years of Sunday lunches with his mother. You have had a lucky escape. There are far better men around than your ex.

Sue we don't even like Roast Dinners so that would of been extra fun with controlling inlaws , very lucky escape me thinks

Bogey Fair point, I read it as though you didn't encourage an early morning/last thing at night type cuddle in your bed.

How can you not like roast dinners? And why the hell would your ex insist on (you) cooking one for his mum every week when you don't like them?

I don't like hot food in general tbh

He mentioned once that once he had moved in that his mum would be round every Sunday for Sunday Dinner & I very much doubt they would of been happy with a plate of sandwiches
He also goes to his mums for a Roast every Sunday as well

Do you've dumped him? Why the post-mortem?

Eh