about my Boyfriends birthday & his mum

[crazyhamsterdisguisedasahippo]

First AIBU but I really need to know if I am .

Its my Bfs birthday on Tuesday , he has just told me he is going for a meal with his mum & family Tuesday evening so will be busy from 4 - 8 .
I have not been invited despite us been together for 3 years (we don't live together) .
He is working Tuesday morning until 1pm & i have appointments Tuesday from 1-4 (several appointments) .
He says it is not fair that i can't see him on his birthday & expects me to palm my Ds off on my Dm on a school night so i can take him out I have told him i won't do this as Ds comes first & i told him to ask his mum to make it later or for the day after & he can't as she will be upset (huge case of pfb) .
I thought i was his family but apparently not as he does everything his mum says even if it means cancelling our plans

Am I been unreasonable to think that after 3 years he would see me as his family as well as his mum & sometimes put our relationship first or should I just suck it up

Go back to the library.

Your well rid crazy, no job and sponging from mummy, of course you would not wan someone like that move in with you.

Why were you with him for so long!

No he reckons to have started a 'buisness' building vivariums but in the past 8 months he has only built one so not exactly the best buisness .

Piglet I have a date with a rather nice Librarian who is definitely a man

I have known said Librarian a few years but im always in a relationship when he asks me out , so im not just going for the first guy to show a bit of interest just thought id say before I get accused of been something

If you had let him move in with you, mummy probably have moved in too.

I think I just got stuck in a rut , I was really low when I met him & it kinda stayed that way for a long time

Good on you crazy, Just enjoy yourself and have fun

Ah, the lack of a job, or at least a lot of effort in to getting one would have been a deal breaker for me too.

I'm sure tat mummy is making it all better for him on the sofa, lots of 'special' cuddles

Its about time I had some fun

Thanks Piglet

Good on you. He sounds like a real catch eh your ex.

It was best when I tried to arrange plans & he would abandon me as he had to be home for tea at 5pm

I told him he needs to reassess his life & maybe see a psychiatrist.

PLEASE tell me you said that to your ex, because it could read that you said it to the librarian!

"He asked me out and I said he needed to reassess his life and see a psychiatrist" :o:o:o

Anyone else thinking "Bitty"? :o

Good god op, an overgrown Chid, even mummy loving dh is not as bad as your ex. Dd was a newborn baby and was crying one night, his mother was styling over, he got so fed up he hopped into bed with his mother . I was livid, and told him what I thought. Good thing MIL lives in Itals so just see her once a year. When mil comes over he is not like your ex at all

Bogey I definitely said it to my Ex what's Bitty

I feel a bit sick thinking about that bed hopping mind, but it only happened once years ago

I looked all over the house for him, looked in mil room and there he was . Dh could have ended up like your ex but he moved to the uk at 18 to go to uni and than job and house and broke the umbilical cord

The sound isnt good, but

But to his credit I was always up there with his mum, and was included in everything. That birthday incident would not have happened, he would never drop plans for his mum, nr would she expect it!

Ignore me, the sound is fine, it is my headphones!

But still Piglet, crawling into bed with mummy is something I dont encourage my 7 year old to do, I would never dream of letting my 23 year old do it!

In fact, he would get a flea in his ear about leaving his wife to it with the baby and told in no uncertain terms to get back and help her out!

Bogey That is so wrong I need brain bleach