about my Boyfriends birthday & his mum

[crazyhamsterdisguisedasahippo]

First AIBU but I really need to know if I am .

Its my Bfs birthday on Tuesday , he has just told me he is going for a meal with his mum & family Tuesday evening so will be busy from 4 - 8 .
I have not been invited despite us been together for 3 years (we don't live together) .
He is working Tuesday morning until 1pm & i have appointments Tuesday from 1-4 (several appointments) .
He says it is not fair that i can't see him on his birthday & expects me to palm my Ds off on my Dm on a school night so i can take him out I have told him i won't do this as Ds comes first & i told him to ask his mum to make it later or for the day after & he can't as she will be upset (huge case of pfb) .
I thought i was his family but apparently not as he does everything his mum says even if it means cancelling our plans

Am I been unreasonable to think that after 3 years he would see me as his family as well as his mum & sometimes put our relationship first or should I just suck it up

[crazyhamsterdisguisedasapanda]

what do you mean by post-mortem

[Numberlock]

So... not Do

[crazyhamsterdisguisedasapanda]

Eh

[Numberlock]

Do you've dumped him? Why the post-mortem?

[crazyhamsterdisguisedasapanda]

I don't like hot food in general tbh

He mentioned once that once he had moved in that his mum would be round every Sunday for Sunday Dinner & I very much doubt they would of been happy with a plate of sandwiches
He also goes to his mums for a Roast every Sunday as well

[QueenStromba]

How can you not like roast dinners? And why the hell would your ex insist on (you) cooking one for his mum every week when you don't like them?

[Numberlock]

Bogey Fair point, I read it as though you didn't encourage an early morning/last thing at night type cuddle in your bed.

[crazyhamsterdisguisedasahippo]

Sue we don't even like Roast Dinners so that would of been extra fun with controlling inlaws , very lucky escape me thinks

[sue52]

Imagine years of Sunday lunches with his mother. You have had a lucky escape. There are far better men around than your ex.

[pigletmania]

Yes I don't think he thought of that

[crazyhamsterdisguisedasahippo]

Piglet surely you had a sofa

[Bogeyface]

Numberlock because I have never encouraged sleeping outside of their own beds. Even when they are ill, they sleep in their beds and I sleep on their floors. I made the mistake of allowing DD1 into my bed when she was 3/4 ish and then it was hell on toast getting her to sleep on her own, I was ending up going to bed at 7pm!

[pigletmania]

Just to add baby was really crying and could not be soothed, I think dd had bad colic

[pigletmania]

It was 3 0 clock in the morning, baby ad been howling for some time, he needed to be able to concentrate t wrk and could not without getting some proper sleep. T incident has never been repeated again tank goodness

[MammaTJ]

Really, Bessie?

[Numberlock]

crawling into bed with mummy is something I dont encourage my 7 year old to do

Can I ask why not?

[crazyhamsterdisguisedasahippo]

What on earth possessed him to get in to bed with his mum

[pigletmania]

I need the bleach recalling dh jumping into bed with his mum

[crazyhamsterdisguisedasahippo]

Piglet Its all mine

[pigletmania]

I know pointless post Bessie, crazy is just replying to our questions

[crazyhamsterdisguisedasahippo]

Bessie what do you mean ?

[pigletmania]

I need brain bleach too

[Bessie123]

Drip drip drip

[pigletmania]

I know bogey I was and gave him a bollocking. I don't think mum had noticed she is quite a deep sleeper

[crazyhamsterdisguisedasahippo]

I'm actually scarred for life

I can see that happening