to want to strangle DD (16). She insisted she did not want to go to her school Prom until today - the day of the prom!

[Lionessy]

As her circle of friends had decided they did not want to go, she decided she did not want to either. Was not cool apparently and they did not have a dates (probably because all the boys are scared of them!).

I went ahead a bought her ticket anyway as I hoped she would come to her senses. What teenage girl would'nt want to dress up in a beautiful dress, glam up and go out to a country mansion for a posh dinner and disco with all their school friends huh?

This morning, after leavers assembly at 10.15am, she finally caves in and wants to go . Cue me rushing around all morning like a blue arsed fly getting a spray tan organised, nails, buying the ruddy dress (luckily we hit the jackpot and found a gorgeous one), underwear, jewellery etc.

I am now knackered and want to go back to bed. Luckily DH has the day off (told him to book it off in case she changed her mind) so he can drive her to the venue an hour away. Everyone else of course, is going in a limo. DD will have to arrive in our old jalopy as she told the girls booking transport she was not going! She has just had a tantrum as to why we can't find her a limo at a few hours notice .

AIBU to want to strangle her?

One of her friends, who also was not going, has also now decided to go so her mum has had to get onto to the school as she was in tears about it, begging them to get her a ticket! Another friend (the ring leader, who decided not to go) was also upset about not when we just bumped into her in town as she now sees that she's made a mistake.

The perils of teenagers. Give me a toddler with 3am wakings anyday.

Quite the adventure for you all, then! Friend seems to have missed the significance of the 'after' in 'after-party'

madaki, try this: www.sunspatanning.co.uk/ They have a salon finder. I've also seen salons offering Fake Bake spray.

I've already got ageing skin so, unless the sun manages to put in an extended appearance before my one big event in August, I'm going for sunbeds. UV lifts my mood.

Lion, as I said before I would have done the same as you even with the after party.

It closes one chapter in their lives and opens the next one.

Hope you manage to get some rest today.

I like to say I would not have run around like a blue-arsed fly pandering to the fickle last minute whims of an ungrateful teenager, but I'd be lying.

Personally I would have said 'sorry but its far too late for spray tan/fake nails/comedy eyebrows' but then I am of the opinion that lovely young women look far prettier and much, much cooler --and less like a drag
queen-- without them.

The rest I would have done, but I may have sworn and shouted a lot over the limo thing.

"A definite once in a lifetime experience for DD"

That rather devalues her 18th, 21st, end of 6th form celebration, graduation ball etc. Enough with the ludicrous superlatives!

She has done her GCSEs and remains, like everyone else in the country now, in education for at least another two years. This is not a celebration of the end of one phase of her life.

This is a wind up, isn't it?

Lionessy. If it is anything like round here, there will be a prom next year, and the year after.
fwiw, mine paid for virtually everything at the 17th, everything being much lower key. Bit higher again for 18th, and I think we just paid for a low key dress/donation to suit.
And then they have end of year ball if uni. Again they were on their own.
As larrygrylls says!
All fun

Was no one else an arse as a teen? I was, I suspect, an utter dick and I think I'm kinder now because my Mum was kind to me and took pains to be interested in my irrelevant dramas.

Fair play to the OP.

No, I wasn't an arse because my parents wouldn't tolerate it and neither will I.

I expect my DCs to object at times and be a bit of a pain, because they are only human. I'm no saint myself. However, I am their source of financial support, their wheels, their counsellor, their food provider etc etc. I do not think that just because they are a "teen" they have some kind of dispensation to treat me badly, be rude to me or be some kind of diva. If they do that, I withdraw services.

I'm also a big believer in choices having consequences, so in my view Lionessy's daughter has learnt that she can mess her parents around and treat them like slaves in this particular instance. I can't see how that is a good thing.

Of course we should support our DCs and encourage them to be their best, do their best & get the most out of life. I'm just not sure that allowing them to treat their parents like unpaid servants achieves that.

Good post post

My dd's prom is tonight.

She is going on the bus with a few mates. Her dress cost £15.

No way in this world would I have run around and pandered to an ungrateful teen. And no way would I tolerate my teen throwing a hissy fit over anything.

I also wasn't an arse as a teen because I would have got short shrift.

I think you did a good thing by buying the ticket in case. I also would've run around last minute like you did (and also would've insisted she arrive in jalopy! Not limo) well done OP you've done well!

I'm sure she does appreciate it (in a selfish, teenagerly kind of way).

I was a teenage arse

When I was 17 my parents paid for a school trip to Rome. I asked and I got and thought nothing of it.

Time was getting tight and I still hadn't had my passport photo done, because like most teenagers, I was extremely self-conscious.

Eventually my dad dragged me to a photographer. The reason he didn't take the cheaper option of a photo-booth is because I'd have probably ruined the picture. At least the photographer told me what kind of sulky face was acceptable to the passport office.

Dad phoned the passport office and explained and they promised to look out for my application. They got it back in double-quick time and even included a note telling me a was a very lucky girl who didn't deserve such a lovely dad.

What an entitled little madam I was. Or just your average teenage girl, who's grown into a reasonable adult.

In Rome I wore Tanfastic on my legs but forgot to do my arms and face. Still, I thought I looked great.

OP you sound as good as my dad.

that's made me larf, limited

larrygrylls "A definite once in a lifetime experience for DD" Enough with the ludicrous superlatives!

I actually meant me running around for her and staying up all night to almost 4am to drive her around! Never, ever again, if it's past 11pm she sorts her own transport.

Lionessy- I would do what you did. She knows you have her back and you might be able to use the 'remember when you said you didn't want to go to the prom but I bought a ticket anyway...' as a bargaining tool or life lesson later.

Most teenagers do something weird/spoilt/foolhardy along the way.

See Lionessy there are huge differences in parenting aren't there. As I said I personally wouldn't have done what you did for your DD's prom on the very last day but I have told my DC they can always,always call me if they need transporting home from somewhere. I would not want any of them to find themselves in a situation where they are too worried to call home for a lift and they find themselves using unsuitable transport or God forbid try and hitch hike home.
I have made it clear that no matter what the time is,and no matter how grumpy I would sound having to get up/out or whatever do not ever be afraid to call home and we will pick you up. I would rather lose a few hours sleep than a child.On the other hand I know they wouldn't abuse that as they are on the whole pretty good at organising that sort of thing beforehand.But stuff happens/changes sometimes so that's when I think it is important to know you have your parents as a back up.

And if I remember correctly limited, you are now a journalist.
Hardly, the entitled so and sos that some posters on here think Lionessys DD will turn into.

I think also, that posters are forgetting, that her DD herself was having a very stressful day.[yes, I know it was mainly the DDs own making]
Are no allowances to be made though?
You are the DD. You suddenly realise what an idiot you have been. It is 10.30am and you want to go to the prom. No dress,no hair ideas, no nothing, except a ticket. And a school day to finish first.

Ironically I am a strict parent. But there are times and places for that, and yesterday was not one of them.

Kizzit. Agreed.
And even now, DH and I have a telephone always on in the bedroom, so they can ring at night time if necessary.
All my children now work miles from home, one in another country.
But they know that, day or night, we can be contacted.
And twice, we have been, in the night.
Once was because one of my kids could hear domestic violence, and didnt know what to do. And once, because they were ill, and we advised him to go straight to a&e.

I am yammy. But most people would say we tie with MPs and Premiership footballers for the title of most entitled people on earth.

Wish I was as rich as them

Kizzit, I think any parent would do the same for their child if they were stuck.

Why not yamsarey? A young girl makes a mistake - that is fine, understandable & as a parent you want to help her to make the best of it.

Why is it then ok for the person who has made the mistake and will need huge amounts of your help, time and money, to fulfil even the most basic requirements of attending the prom, to behave badly and start making, in my view, unreasonable demands?

It's the attitude that would piss me off more than the last minute dashing about tbh.

Post.
I view it as a one off on a stressful day.

Perhaps she thorws hissy fits daily,but that is not how I read the thread.