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AIBU?

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to worry my daughter's becoming feral?

170 replies

fabergeegg · 09/06/2013 21:00

We have a golden retriever dog. She's perfectly trained (not a stealth boast as golden retrievers are very easy to work with).

I have a DD of 22 months and they're inseparable. Visitors think it's cute. But we don't get out much and I'm worried she's demonstrating dog behaviour without realising it's abnormal. She's not pretending to be a dog.

At the few mother and toddler groups we've attended, DD looks bewildered. If she's feeling brave, she tries two techniques, neither of which work with other kids very well. There's dominance - she'll slowly approach other children with an intense, unblinking stare, like a gang leader in a film. She doesn't smile or speak. Then there's teasing - I know she shouldn't. She offers something and whips it away, expecting the other child to make a lunge. (This is not what my dog is trained to do and she has never harmed DD. They know I don't allow it so they go off together and do it somewhere else). When DD's eating her biscuit, or feeling pally, she drops to her hunkers - this is usually where the dog's head would be. I can see her confusion when all she sees is other children's knees. Eventually she gives up and withdraws.

When she's trying to initiate play, she drops on her back and starts rolling around. She expects them to do the same. When we go out for a walk, she pants manically and runs around in circles. When she's eating, she'll often give the dog half, as a matter of course, even if it's chocolate. If she's forgotten to do this, she'll take a bit out of her mouth and hands it over then. Or she'll simply open her mouth and allow some food to fall onto the floor. She likes games when she has to retrieve things. Obviously I try to correct her on all this but it's not as if she's trying to play up.

Otherwise she's a normal kid. AIBU to be slightly worried?

OP posts:
LoSiento · 09/06/2013 21:04

I would be. But if she spend the majority of her time with a dog, its not surprising those are the behaviours she's learned.

shewhowines · 09/06/2013 21:05

I can't work out if this is serious or not.

mezza123 · 09/06/2013 21:06

You're joking right? If not, enrol her at.nursery asap!

SpooMoo · 09/06/2013 21:07

Does she spend more time with the dog than you?

Salmotrutta · 09/06/2013 21:07

Sounds like you need to stop her spending so much time with the dog, frankly.

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 09/06/2013 21:08

This is not what my dog is trained to do and she has never harmed DD. They know I don't allow it so they go off together and do it somewhere else)

WTF?? You let them go off together to play whip the biscuit away are you MAD???

EleanorHandbasket · 09/06/2013 21:09

Okay then.

LEMisdisappointed · 09/06/2013 21:09

you nearly had me there - nearly, but not quite Grin

Salmotrutta · 09/06/2013 21:09

Isn't chocolate bad for dogs?

SirBoobAlot · 09/06/2013 21:10

Impressive. Been a while since we had a decent fake thread.

SPsCliffingAllOverMN · 09/06/2013 21:10

Sorry but I laughed.

I think its utter bollocks

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 09/06/2013 21:11

I thought that SirBoob but OP has a few other "real" ish threads..not many though.

Floggingmolly · 09/06/2013 21:11

But we don't get out much. You don't say Hmm. You need to get out a whole lot more.

Salmotrutta · 09/06/2013 21:12

Does she play "fetch"?

fabergeegg · 09/06/2013 21:12

I know it's funny but I'm not joking, no!

She has lots of time with people. But somehow seems to identify more with the dog. The dog uses this situation to her own advantage and urges her to do things she wouldn't otherwise do, e.g., emptying boxes of cereal on the floor.

Having spoken to two nursery workers at our local nurseries, both of whom said they would not send their children there, I don't want to go down that road. (Though will definitely do playschool next year).

OP posts:
RandomMess · 09/06/2013 21:12

yeah chocolate is poisonous to dogs

CockyFox · 09/06/2013 21:12

Very funny. Actually uf it is true it still raises a giggle and you neex to get her a friend or a sibling whichever is easier for you.

Salmotrutta · 09/06/2013 21:13

The dog urges her to pull cereal boxes over?

Now that's what I call clever...

SirBoobAlot · 09/06/2013 21:13

Do you leave your DD alone with your dog for long periods of time?

And seriously, "urges her to do things she wouldn't otherwise do"? Hmm It's a dog.

tedmundo · 09/06/2013 21:14

The dog is the mastermind behind the mischief eh?

LOL

LeaveTheBastid · 09/06/2013 21:14

Biscuit have a dog biscuit

Salmotrutta · 09/06/2013 21:15

Maybe you should get a monkey instead.

EmmaGellerGreen · 09/06/2013 21:15

Oh dear. Not sure what to say really. Getting out more and mixing with people? Weird

Waferthinmint · 09/06/2013 21:16

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BriansBrain · 09/06/2013 21:17

You had me until "she pants and runs in circles"

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