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AIBU?

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to worry my daughter's becoming feral?

170 replies

fabergeegg · 09/06/2013 21:00

We have a golden retriever dog. She's perfectly trained (not a stealth boast as golden retrievers are very easy to work with).

I have a DD of 22 months and they're inseparable. Visitors think it's cute. But we don't get out much and I'm worried she's demonstrating dog behaviour without realising it's abnormal. She's not pretending to be a dog.

At the few mother and toddler groups we've attended, DD looks bewildered. If she's feeling brave, she tries two techniques, neither of which work with other kids very well. There's dominance - she'll slowly approach other children with an intense, unblinking stare, like a gang leader in a film. She doesn't smile or speak. Then there's teasing - I know she shouldn't. She offers something and whips it away, expecting the other child to make a lunge. (This is not what my dog is trained to do and she has never harmed DD. They know I don't allow it so they go off together and do it somewhere else). When DD's eating her biscuit, or feeling pally, she drops to her hunkers - this is usually where the dog's head would be. I can see her confusion when all she sees is other children's knees. Eventually she gives up and withdraws.

When she's trying to initiate play, she drops on her back and starts rolling around. She expects them to do the same. When we go out for a walk, she pants manically and runs around in circles. When she's eating, she'll often give the dog half, as a matter of course, even if it's chocolate. If she's forgotten to do this, she'll take a bit out of her mouth and hands it over then. Or she'll simply open her mouth and allow some food to fall onto the floor. She likes games when she has to retrieve things. Obviously I try to correct her on all this but it's not as if she's trying to play up.

Otherwise she's a normal kid. AIBU to be slightly worried?

OP posts:
pictish · 09/06/2013 22:30

Christ - she not yet two!!
She's fine! She's lovely - she and the dog get on well. There is nothing wrong with dog or girl.

She's a baby, and the dog wants food. It's all cool.

5madthings · 09/06/2013 22:30

Yes its very logical for the child to feed the dog and the picture is very sweet :)

Op as long as you are a responsible pet owner its lovely that your dd has such a good relationship with the dog, just don't leave them alone together.

SirBoobAlot · 09/06/2013 22:30

I just choked on my tea at "poorly trained Jack Russell with a hint of pitbull".

RandomMess · 09/06/2013 22:32

Your dog clearly has watched too much Peter Pan and sees himself as being Nana

pictish · 09/06/2013 22:33

And definitely don't leave your credit card lying about. Today cereal on the floor, tomorrow a £5000 bill from Pets At Home.

BriansBrain · 09/06/2013 22:34

Oh goodness that picture is beyond adorable!

My DD begs for a dog but we aren't here enough to care for it properly.

SpecialAgentTattooedQueen · 09/06/2013 22:36

Oh dear God I have multiple dogs and twins

Gulp

cardamomginger · 09/06/2013 22:36

OP - you don't bake a lot and your DH isn't a geography teacher by any chance?

5madthings · 09/06/2013 22:37

The madthings would love a dog, as would dp but I am allergic :(

The pic is simply adorable and makes me sad we can't have a dog :(

LEMisdisappointed · 09/06/2013 22:38

Love love love that picture though!!

ImagineJL · 09/06/2013 22:39

I want to see the photo. How do I view someone's profile?

fabergeegg · 09/06/2013 22:39

diplo: "poorly trained Jack Russell with a hint of pitbull". Classic!

Thanks for the opinions. I realise the whole thing is absurd but genuinely appreciate the advice. Not much hope of keeping the two of them apart, but I'll continue with the mums and tots. It's just occurred to me that DD is on the cusp of speech. That will separate them profoundly...poor dog...

OP posts:
Wholetthedogin · 09/06/2013 22:40

Great picture and sounds like they have a fantastic relationship.
Dogs can be such fantastic friends and companions. She is only little, in time she will make her own friends. Sounds adorable to me!

BriansBrain · 09/06/2013 22:41

Imagine, click on ops name on any of her posts and then click view picture.

I'm also sad I can't give my DC a dog even if there is a chance it would make them behave weirdly.

You can feel the bond in that picture, and their legs are both crossed...

girliefriend · 09/06/2013 22:42

I would be a bit concerned op, the picture is adorable though!

Reminds me of an experiment some family in America did with a monkey, they decided to raise a baby monkey along side their baby dd, treat it exactly the same and see how humanlike they could make the monkey.

What actually happened was the monkey stayed very monkey like but their dd started behaving in a very chimp like manner Shock Grin

As long as she is getting the chance to mix with other kids and humans am sure she will be fine!!

FarleyD · 09/06/2013 22:43

Dd used to make ds2 pretend to be a dog, which he loved. Until the day I heard him howling because dd had pretend taken him to the vet to be put down.

ExitPursuedByABear · 09/06/2013 22:45

Maybe you should ask for this thread to be moved to The Dog House.

AlexReidsLonelyBraincell · 09/06/2013 22:47

Do you live in a big house in London op? Is the dog's name Nana?

gallicgirl · 09/06/2013 22:47

Obviously you have to enter them for Britain's Got Talent.
Didn't a dog win last year?

Dawndonna · 09/06/2013 22:49

Is this thread in classics yet? It is the best in a while!

married We know who taught the dog parking, don't we!

SirBoobAlot · 09/06/2013 22:50

FarleyD Grin

Lioninthesun · 09/06/2013 22:53

OP my DD started to do the offer/snatch thing with other children after being around a friend's dog where they were doing just that for only a short time.
She doesn't do it so much now we haven't seen the dog for a few months, but I had to explain many times it was teasing and not fun.
I don't know what you could do, only take her out to socialise with children as much as possible. I doubt it will be damaging long term as long as you have a good amount of time around babies. Do you have play dates?

Dawndonna · 09/06/2013 22:54

absurd? Bloody barking!

ChasedByBees · 09/06/2013 23:00

My 17mo does the offer snatch too (along with a 'naaaahaa!' noise) but she's never had a dog or spent much time with them. So maybe that's a cheeky toddler thing. Other than that I can't really help!

I can imagine if she spends a lot of her time with the dog it makes sense that she would try and initiate play in the same way. I guess she'll grow out of it.

v amusing OP though

LegArmpits · 09/06/2013 23:06

I haven't read ANYTHING but the OP but I feel compelled to say that until my DD (second child) was 2.5, she only communicated through snorts. Like Peppa Pig....
(True story.)

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