in thinking nrp should dedicate their weekend to their children?

[LittleLisa78]

Have posted (ranted) about exH before. He sees our 5 year old every other weekend from Fri at 6 until 2 on Sunday. He has no midweek or holiday contact which is his choice. He has a new hobby which he needs to travel 1.5 hours away to do on a Saturday morning. DD can't take part but he says she'll 'really enjoy going along to watch.' It takes 2 hours then another 1.5 hours home so that's most of Saturday spent on DD watching/travelling to something he enjoys while she is bored stiff. AIBU in thinking that with the little time he has DD he could dedicate it to doing things with/for her? It's entirely possible to do the hobby whenever he likes, he has chosen sat mornings.

Really hope it goes well for you today, OP.

Only read the first page, but how astonishingly selfish he is

Wondered how it went with your ex, hope you ok.

Lisa,

Have you done anything at all that you have been advised to do on any of your previous threads?

Documenting things at the time.
Sticking to written communications
Taking advice from as many respected child related org's as possible?

Counteracting his manipulating with reassurance to your dd?

Or re you just going to bottle out next contact time and pretend she really was ill and not mention it again?

Havnt read all posts butas a compromise would he consider leaving her with someone like his mum (dd granny) she could have some granny time if he is too tight to pay for ski lessons and happy leaves her alone. You could then perhaps suggesting to the granny you could take them both tonthe hobby dd wants to do.

Sock I've done all those things. Children's Services advised suspending contact unless he can assure it won't happen. Then if dd says it still does to stop contact and consult a solicitor.

No word yet... Am sure he'll probably allow himself to miss it by refusing to contact me via email then accuse me of blocking fathers day contact so dd can spend it with dp instead - he's very predictable!

Then let him is it does not matter if he ignores you your suspending contact any way.

LittleLisa, the answer to all his shite is "Your choice"

He could be a decent dad, he doesn't want to be.

You don't allow your DD to be placed in situations of risk, or that will harm her emotionally and/or physically.

Try to remain absolutely ice cool calm. Think Ice Cold Fury if it helps. When you get your head there, it enables your thinking to be clinically clear and instinctual.

This will give you the power you need to reclaim.

You have right on your side, he is shockingly awful. Don't let him do this anymore.

Your DD doesn't need this kind of contact.

Remember, HIS CHOICE. Shrug it off.

He WANTS you wound up like this. He's punishing your DD to get to you.

Were we married to the same man, OP? Your prediction of his next move is identical to what mine would be fir mine!

Stick to your guns. Do not back down re communication being written - his refusal to be reasonable is, as another poster put it, HIS CHOICE.

He really has done a number on you...don't let his games continue. You are setting healthy boundaries...and don't worry about court...his actions and clustering WILL be seen through by a judge so long as you remain reasonable, act in DD's best interests, stick to facts only and ignore any attempts to reel you into an argument. Ignore any accusations from him about your character/actions. Stay focused on the one thing: your DD's welfare.

I would put everything in writing (signed for) to him - offer him the same about of hours but from late Saturday til Sunday night. That way you are not blocking contact, just ensuring contact meets your DD's safety needs.

he sounds like a complete cunt OP

sorry!