What was wrong with DD"s birthday food?

[TeapotsInJune]

My DD is two and I held a very small garden party/picnic. I am vegetarian and will not be buying meat for my daughter but I of course don't mind if other people eat meat! However, I personally won't buy it.

So for the food we had a couple of tables in the garden with egg and cheese sandwiches, salad, crisps, jelly, strawberries, raspberries and blueberries and apple juice and sparkling grape juice to drink, plus iced water. I also had ice cream to go with the jelly but that wasn't out!

I then had a text from one of the women who is more the friend of a friend saying "not being funny but u obviously make ur choices but u shouldn't expect em to b made by others luv kids where dead hungry when they got in."

I am pretty cheesed off actually! That was my daughters birthday - it isn't as if I marched around snatching burgers off the children! Was the food I provided okay? I thought it was ...

I would respond to anyone who used dreadful text language like that.

Your food sounds fine.

Thanks! Bit mean of me to be at the text, but I am so cross!!

Dd and I would eat everything you listed. What an ungrateful cow!

She was rude, but it is low on carbohydrates for children. I'm veggie too.
Did all the food get eaten?

No, the sandwiches,salad and fruit had some left. Crisps and jellies all vanished!

Food sounds lovely, and absolutely fine for a birthday. This woman, on the other hand, sounds like a downright rude pain in the arse.

I have always served exactly what my children want at their parties and expect others to do the same. If they come home hungry then I just feed them.

Your meal,sounds lovely

Blardy hell, that 'friend of a friend' has some brass neck.

You provided what you wanted (FWIW sounds perfectly nice to me). I think she should stick her unasked for opinion up her backside.

But best course of action, though hard, is ignore, ignore, ignore.

don't worry! I remember with dds 3rd birthday I put out olives - they were her favourite food. One of the mums snatched them away from her dd with a face exclaiming - she might think they are grapes!

Your food sounds fine. My kids probably wouldn't eat that much but I would put that down to them being fussy rather than criticising your hospitality.

This woman sounds ghastly. "I'm not being funny but..." usually prefaces a statement that deserves a punch in the face (joke), IME.

Low on carbs? No...it really isn't.

What a rude, ungrateful woman.

I love it when people start texts saying 'Not being funny...'

When they are about to be absolutely rude.

She was very unpleasant, it's not your fault if her children like junk.
I tend to make mini pizzas (scone sized) cherry scones, cheese stars, that sort of stuff to fill up children at family gatherings.

Rude, rude, rude.
Even if you'd served bread and butter it's just crap behaviour to send a horrible patronising text like that. (Patronising texts always seem to lose their gravitas when sent in hideous txtspk anyway.)

Your 'friend of a friend' is very rude. There is absolutely nothing wrong with what you served and I don't think I would have even noticed it was specifically veggie. It just seems like things most kids would eat to me!

Thank you, I did try to provide 'safe' food as we know what toddlers are like!

The source of the problem is her ds doesn't like egg or cheese apparently.

Im a meat lover but food sounds brilliant! Lots of variety and lots of fruit.

This is me being very judgemental but if her kids were starving after that maybe they have been brought up on junk and turned their nose up at all the healthy options.

Like i say i love meat but all that fruit sounds lovely. Maybe they just werent used to healthier options.

I think my response would be; "my house, my rules and for what its worth I wouldn't dream of telling you what to do in your home".

My DS, and plenty of his friends, always come home hungry from a party. Either too busy playing or just don't fancy the perfectly acceptable food on offer.
She honestly sounds like an idiot.

Your friend was rude. However, I think if you are going to have guests, then it's also rude not to cater for them.

Your food sounds lovely, but limited, especially for toddlers who are known for going through fussy phases. I would have offered fruit other than just berries.

The food sounds lovely, I didn't mean to sound critical at all and I think you should forget her text.

Its not "the" problem op, it's her problem.

I take back my earlier 'ignore' advice and go with Mutt's splendid text reply 'You're very welcome '.