What was wrong with DD"s birthday food?

[TeapotsInJune]

My DD is two and I held a very small garden party/picnic. I am vegetarian and will not be buying meat for my daughter but I of course don't mind if other people eat meat! However, I personally won't buy it.

So for the food we had a couple of tables in the garden with egg and cheese sandwiches, salad, crisps, jelly, strawberries, raspberries and blueberries and apple juice and sparkling grape juice to drink, plus iced water. I also had ice cream to go with the jelly but that wasn't out!

I then had a text from one of the women who is more the friend of a friend saying "not being funny but u obviously make ur choices but u shouldn't expect em to b made by others luv kids where dead hungry when they got in."

I am pretty cheesed off actually! That was my daughters birthday - it isn't as if I marched around snatching burgers off the children! Was the food I provided okay? I thought it was ...

Yes, honestly!

My children loved berries when they were toddlers (and still do) but I used to have to stop them eating too many because they can be too much for little tummies in large quantities. It's quite common for two year olds not to like egg or salad in my experience (of which I have a a lot, being a nursery nurse) so personally, I do think it was quite limited.

I suppose it partly depends on the time of day you had the party. If it was mid afternoon when children would have been likely to have had lunch already, then it was enough. If it was over a generally accepted mealtime, then not so much.

What a very odd (and rude) woman. The food sounds yummy

I don't think I'd have even noticed the lack of meat if my DDs had been there. They love fruit and veg. They'd have stolen the cheese out of the sandwich (don't know why but they'd eat bread and butter and eat cheese, but not together) and I'd have been hovering making sure other children got a look in with everything else. We have meat-free days and I count eggs and cheese as protein when I plan a menu, what you served sounds perfect and something I might do.

I'd cater for a food allergy or intolerance, but not that mothers form of intolerance.

Your food sounds fine, I personally would think that was ok. If it was my party if also have some chicken drumsticks and sausage rolls too but I'm not a vegetarian.

You are right to be annoyed though. The texter may have received misinformation about what was served.

"Reply and say, 'Not being funny but I think there's something wrong with your phone. It appears to have sent me a possibly rude message in a foreign language."

Thanks - I was just conscious of not wanting a load of food left, and it was a small party (only eight or so children, some siblings.)

We didn't have cake because DD will have some at nursery on Monday :) to be honest it wasn't intended to be a massive party blow-out, just a little gathering! The woman just seemed to have an issue with no ham or sausage rolls or similar ...

2 of my children would have come home starving from your picnic. They were not raised on junk food by any means.

My youngest would have scoffed her way through the spread quite happily.

However, I would never have said nothing and simply fed any hungry child when they got home (which I've done often as they are usually too busy or excited to eat much). I never expect a party to fill my children up, the food is just refuelling. The woman was incredibly rude.

Lol. She was obviously expecting a lower standard of food- pizza, pastries, cheese and sausages on sticks and the works. I think what you served sounds lovely. I'm a vegan so I dread to think what she'd think of my party food . She's just unbelievably rude and if I were you i'd no longer consider her an invitee to future parties.

Sounds ok, but I'd probably have had some more fun stuff too, I like fun stuff:o

I'm not sure that came across quite how I meant it :)

How rude! I certainly have no plans to become vegetarian but would really enjoy that tea. It sounds lovely. I also hate it when people say 'not being funny' .

'You're right, you are NOT being funny, you are being extremely rude!'

She also doesn't have the guts to say it to your face and has to hide behind the security of a mobile phone.

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Elfy, DD does that! She also nibbles around KitKats

Ah well, the kids seemed to enjoy themselves. Lots of splashing in the paddling pool and playing so that's the main thing.

The food sounds lovely. Endless brown food at birthday parties is so depressing.

And if my kids got home and hadn't eaten enough, rather than being bloody rude about it, I'd make them a slice of toast and have done.

what a horror! I'd have to reply "well feed them, then "

There was a 'rudeness' comment there too. iPad munched it >_

She's being very rude.
My dd2 would have loved your party tea, berries and cheese sandwiches - she'd have been in heaven.

She may well have been expecting this OP.
she was obviously disappointed ! :)

Yanbu - food sounds nice but I've been to dozen if kids parties and its never occurred to me to pass judgement on the food - it's not as if I paid! If my kids were hungry when they got home I will deal with it!

There was jelly and ice cream and crisps, which for an afternoon toddler party seemed ok to me. Wondering now if everyone went home raising their eyebrows at my strange behaviour although if I'd made a cake they'd have probably gone home vomiting so its all good I suppose.

That woman is just rude.

However, all three of my dc would have come home starving from that and they eat pretty healthily imo. I think a lot of kids dont eat egg sandwiches (quite an unusual choice these days although I love them), and a significant number dont eat cheese so those two choices combined knocks quite a lot of kiddies out of the sandwich option. Also a lot of children don't eat berries as they are so expensive to buy- I know for a fact that a lot of children don't get exposed to them due to cost (we are one of those families who only eat blackberries in autumn when we can get them free but certainly cannot afford punnets of strawberries, blueberrys etc.!!!).

So for families like ours your choices were limited. But even so, I personally would never have said anything as it was nice of you to try!

How incredibly rude she was . Your party food sounds lovely. I don't like the idea that 'party food' has to mean processed crap. And not aware of the by-law that says some sort of meat product must be provided. I think I'd have to text back - once I'd thought of something suitably witty or cutting...

"Reply and say, 'Not being funny but I think there's something wrong with your phone. It appears to have sent me a possibly rude message in a foreign language."

DS is 2 next week and you've pretty much described the party food I've planned for him.

Kids usually leave half the food they pick up on their plates anyway. There was plenty of choice there, if they're that fussy then tough.