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What was wrong with DD"s birthday food?

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TeapotsInJune · 01/06/2013 18:18

My DD is two and I held a very small garden party/picnic. I am vegetarian and will not be buying meat for my daughter but I of course don't mind if other people eat meat! However, I personally won't buy it.

So for the food we had a couple of tables in the garden with egg and cheese sandwiches, salad, crisps, jelly, strawberries, raspberries and blueberries and apple juice and sparkling grape juice to drink, plus iced water. I also had ice cream to go with the jelly but that wasn't out!

I then had a text from one of the women who is more the friend of a friend saying "not being funny but u obviously make ur choices but u shouldn't expect em to b made by others luv kids where dead hungry when they got in."

I am pretty cheesed off actually! That was my daughters birthday - it isn't as if I marched around snatching burgers off the children! Was the food I provided okay? I thought it was ...

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formicadinosaur · 04/06/2013 19:26

I like the 'your welcome' comment.

MinesADecaff · 04/06/2013 19:28

Teapots, after you texted back that you were offended did you get a response?

flippinada · 04/06/2013 19:34

chocoluvva I made the mistake once of leaving DS at a party where away from my influence he devoured four pieces of birthday cake. The ensuing sugar-related meltdown haunts me to this day. I have never made the same mistake again!

Cloverer · 04/06/2013 19:35

The woman was incredibly rude - I have a fussy eater and if he chooses not to eat and is hungry then he just has to wait til later.

However, I do think the food was a bit limited - I'd have added pizza, breadsticks/veg sticks and dips, probably cakes and biscuits too. Few people like egg sandwiches, especially children, so maybe a bit more sandwich variety is better.

lljkk · 04/06/2013 19:56

Egg Sandwichgate rumbles on.
What was that recent MN variant on sandwiches, the spelling, lady who was highly offended about ham sarnie on offer, only she made up some odd word like humwich...? It's driving me crazy, that had a vegetarian parent at heart of it, too.

Cheesymonster · 04/06/2013 19:58

Hamwidge?

flippinada · 04/06/2013 20:01

Eggwidgegate!

amazingmumof6 · 04/06/2013 20:03

yay, the widge is back!Grin

your food was lovely, she was rude.

next time invite me please, I'll be graciously scoffing it all down!Smile
did you have a great time?then forget about her nastiness and never ever invite her back.

happy birthday to your little one!Flowers

amazingmumof6 · 04/06/2013 20:04

and as previously said on another thread
that woman needs to eat a FUNwidge*!

(*patent pending)

ShadowStorm · 04/06/2013 20:08

Few people like egg sandwiches

Apparently egg is the third most used sandwich filling for commercial sandwiches, according to Facts about sandwiches from the British Sandwich Association

It's only beaten by chicken fillings and cheese fillings. So I guess plenty of people must like egg sandwiches.

CremeEggThief · 04/06/2013 20:28

Gosh, I thought nearly everyone liked egg sambos. Unless you're vegan or allergic to eggs, what's not to like? Confused

lljkk · 04/06/2013 20:40

Eggwidgegate! That's it! (Love you Flippinada)

Cloverer · 04/06/2013 20:46

Maybe I just don't know anyone who likes egg sandwiches Grin Warm egg sandwiches at a picnic would be my last choice I think, and can't imagine many kids going for them.

Pandemoniaa · 04/06/2013 20:59

Well eggwidges were always the favourite option in our house. Dgd seems to have inherited the fondness too because she'd have your hand off for one. Similarly for cheesewidges.

Personally, your food sounds fine OP, given how young the guests although it might be an idea, at future parties, to do home-made veggie pizzas/breadsticks and dips perhaps just to provide more variety on the savoury front.

To be honest, I never assumed that going to a party meant that I'd not have to feed my dcs again that day and especially when they were as young as 2. Because sometimes they ate their own bodyweight in party food and sometimes they didn't. I could always tell which sort of party ds2 had attended by the way he bounced off the walls when he got home. But if they came home a bit peckish then they just had their tea. I didn't see it as a mortal offence to report to the host.

I've never heard of anyone complaining about the food to the host either although my dcs went to a couple of parties where the food was quietly discussed later amongst friends. Like the one where ds1 (then aged 6) was offered, amongst other similar questionable delights, steamed broccoli topped with dairy-free cheese. This was the same party where the cake was made from carob, iced with low-fat cream cheese topping and only water was available to drink.

flippinada · 04/06/2013 21:09

Thank you lljkk. It's nice to be loved!

Pandemoniaa steamed broccolli at a children's party?! That's just sadistic.

ShadowStorm · 04/06/2013 21:09

To be honest, Cloverer, I don't like egg sandwiches either. The smell of them turns my stomach, has for as long as I can remember. Same with quiche.

No egg allergies though, so I'd probably eat one if I was hungry enough. But it'd definitely take more than one missed lunch for me to willingly eat an egg sandwich.

But I suspect I'm in a minority re eggs. And I certainly wouldn't complain if I, or DCs, went to a party that only served eggy things.

ChippingInWiredOnCoffee · 04/06/2013 21:26
Wine

The woman is rude & utterly barking. Unless you had served meat she wouldn't have been happy

How on earth can someone that rude be a central part of the community and the less said about her god awful text messaging the better Grin

Really, don't let it occupy your thoughts for one minute more. It sounds like a lovely afternoon tea & a lovely afternoon in the garden.

chocoluvva · 04/06/2013 21:52

OP, OP! Come back and fess up. Those uneaten widges; they were made with stilton cheese on pumpernickel bread weren't they?

And the eggwiches were made with seagull eggs on pumpernickel bread.

(97th and 98th on the British Sandwich Association list. WHAT were you thinking?)

nooka · 04/06/2013 22:22

mmmm Stilton Grin

No one ever really gets party food right though do they? You either go over board and make beautiful stuff that doesn't get eaten, or you put out the junkiest of junk and get judgy faces (I acknowledge that there is some middle ground here!)

I'm so glad my children arrange their own parties now!

Boosiehs · 04/06/2013 22:32

I bloody love an eggwich. In fact, I fancy one now. (preggo cravings)

amazingmumof6 · 05/06/2013 00:26

please, can you remember it's widge!
eggwidge, hamwidge, pomwidge etc.

I thank you Smile

amazingmumof6 · 05/06/2013 00:32

nooka your post reminded me of a film I saw about parents trying to outdo each other.

one couple recalled a kid's birthday party where the hosts focused so much on impressing the adults with adult snacks of sushi and caviar and even champagne, they forgot to cater for the children! Shock Grin

chocoluvva · 05/06/2013 08:54

Grin at pomwidge.

Especially as I misread it as 'porrwidge'. Porridge sandwich darling? DH, why is nobody eating the party food?

maddy68 · 05/06/2013 17:20

You serve whatever YOU want at YOUR child's party. What you served was fine.
I maybe would have done a couple if different types of sandwich. Ie cheese for those who don't like egg
But you have done nothing wrong!