What was wrong with DD"s birthday food?

[TeapotsInJune]

My DD is two and I held a very small garden party/picnic. I am vegetarian and will not be buying meat for my daughter but I of course don't mind if other people eat meat! However, I personally won't buy it.

So for the food we had a couple of tables in the garden with egg and cheese sandwiches, salad, crisps, jelly, strawberries, raspberries and blueberries and apple juice and sparkling grape juice to drink, plus iced water. I also had ice cream to go with the jelly but that wasn't out!

I then had a text from one of the women who is more the friend of a friend saying "not being funny but u obviously make ur choices but u shouldn't expect em to b made by others luv kids where dead hungry when they got in."

I am pretty cheesed off actually! That was my daughters birthday - it isn't as if I marched around snatching burgers off the children! Was the food I provided okay? I thought it was ...

Oh blah, blah, far fingers etc. my post trailed off into iPhone gibberish. You get the point though!

Your food was fine. Party food is never a proper lunch or tea for children as even if they like everything on offer, they never have time to eat it - they'd rather be playing.

That woman was incredibly rude. Don't bother to reply and avoid in the future.

It sounds like very nice party food to me. I'm not sure what else she was expecting? Most 2 year olds I know are more funny about meat than they are cheese or egg - my meat-eating two year old would have been very happy with your menu. But the woman is obviously an idiot anyway, so just shrug it off and move on.

What a lovely idea for your daughter's second birthday party. Your food sounds ideal and really nice. Silly woman; very rude. Yes something along the lines of 'your welcome' and cross her off your Christmas card list.

I read your menu to DH, and he said if I hadn't mentioned you are a vegetarian, he wouldn't even have realised.

She's just being uneccessarily bitchy IMO.

"You're very welcome" is a perfect response.

I can't believe anyone would text that, it's just sooooooo rude.

Whatever the food, at a party, you say nowt, nowt to the host anyway.

Easily solved, you won't inflict your food on her children again obviously. I wouldn't reply to the text personally.

And, if your child is so fussy they won't eat sandwiches (egg, cheese), crisps, fruit, jelly, ice-cream or salady bits, then you need to take food with you when you go places, those are all standard picnic foods in our house and if my children whinged about it, I would give them the stare and tell them to eat the crisps til we got home.

Rude, rude rude!!! We're vegetarian and I've never done any meat things for my DSs parties. My boys often come back starving from parties because they're too busy charging around and having fun to eat that much - whatever is provided! The food at your DDs party sounds lovely. Children's parties are about the children having fun. Not a three course meal. Love the "you're welcome" idea of a reply. I'd be tempted to add "now F off you silly mare" but then I'm probably stroppier than you!

Thanks :) lljkk - no worries, the thing is, we all DO know what toddlers are like, if someone had said 'awfully sorry but ds isn't so keen in egg or cheese, any chance he could have some bread and b utter?" I'd have happily sorted that!

It is oranges here, I dread someone offering DD an orange as she starts howling for some reason!

Incredibly rude. Nothing wrong with that party food selection, and my DC would not even have noticed the absence of meat. If her DC don't eat any of that lot then she is the one with the problem, not you.

On, not in, sorry. Why do iPads do that!

Some people have no class do they? That was v rude of her.

"Reply and say, 'Not being funny but I think there's something wrong with your phone. It appears to have sent me a possibly rude message in a foreign language."

Do this, please!!

Your food was fine. Really, don't worry about it. She was a rude cow.

Your food sounds fine. Hardly unusual choices for a child's party. If someone can't get through a couple of hours without a cocktail sausage, well...

I've been to kids' parties with really restricted, bizarre options, but it has never crossed my mind to moan about it to the host. I just hope my child doesn't pull a 'What's this crap?' face when the other parents are looking and then fill them up with something they like when we get home.

Text back "Whatev" pleeeeeeeeeese do it for me!

That text is so rude.

Your spread sounds lovely, she sounds extremely horrid and wouldn't be invited to my house again.

My DS is extremely fussy but he would eat the cheese sandwiches, the crisps, and ice cream. I also never view kid's party food as a meal, I just play it by ear and it depends how much DS eats at the party whether he has a meal after or not.

I am sure the food was absolutely fine (I don't like either egg or cheese sandwiches but I reckon I am in the minority) and you can't go far wrong with fruit and crisps for most children.

However, it doesn't really matter what you served up, how good or bad it was, you just don't text somebody like that and complain - she didn't pay for the food, she had no right to quibble. If her children were hungry she should feed them. Who on earth expects party food to be anything more than a snack for most children? It is good if they do eat properly and you don't have to feed them but I wouldn't expect it. The woman is very rude. I think the old MN favourite 'Did you mean to be so rude?' would suffice as a reply.

I'm astounded that someone could be so ill-mannered.

But as an aside, we've been to a kids party today. The host made up snack boxes and a choice of ham, cheese, tuna or egg sandwich was offered in the invitation. The mum told me today that all 20 kids asked for ham
Also on the table to share were carrot sticks, pepper sticks, cucumber pieces and white grapes. All were devoured.

I'd say; How rude.

The woman who wrote the text is thick. Don't trouble yourself any further over her ignorant and morose opinions.

Sorry haven't read the whole thread. This isn't about her ds coming home hungry - toddlers are funny about food and he's probably refused to eat at plenty of parties before yours. She has ishoos with you being veggie. The text was to let you know that she disapproved of your bizarre lifestyle choices and the foisting your ludicrous food facism onto her child. So consider yourself told.

Ignore the ignorant. Saves time.

Who the fuck goes to a 2 yr olds party and expects to come home full up?! It sounds like a perfectly reasonable and yummy spread to me and she sounds like a rude, dragged up bitch. I would have been pissed off if I had spent more and had leftovers which there always are anyway.

Your party. Your money. Your rules.

Guest was rude

However....given how fussy many children are I would have provided marmite, nutella and jam sandwiches too - with a mix of white and wholemeal bread. I probably would have thrown in some frubes and babybels too since bizarrely children seem to like them,and some margherita pizza ....and where were your cakes and biscuits? (it was a party?)

I don't think you offered a great deal of choice tbh

Omg I am a Hardened carnivore but that food sounds lovely, ds would love that food. He has a vegetarian lunch full of those foods and they are enough to fill him up, and he is like a mini Vax. Ds is 16 months btw. Tat woman is rude and ungrateful an severely lacking in manners. It's not your fault her ds did not eat much and sh would hav kept that to herself. Stupid woman. I would text her to say did she mean to b so rude

I don't expect a party to provide my children's meals. Sometimes they do and sometimes they don't. Pathetic.