What was wrong with DD"s birthday food?

[TeapotsInJune]

My DD is two and I held a very small garden party/picnic. I am vegetarian and will not be buying meat for my daughter but I of course don't mind if other people eat meat! However, I personally won't buy it.

So for the food we had a couple of tables in the garden with egg and cheese sandwiches, salad, crisps, jelly, strawberries, raspberries and blueberries and apple juice and sparkling grape juice to drink, plus iced water. I also had ice cream to go with the jelly but that wasn't out!

I then had a text from one of the women who is more the friend of a friend saying "not being funny but u obviously make ur choices but u shouldn't expect em to b made by others luv kids where dead hungry when they got in."

I am pretty cheesed off actually! That was my daughters birthday - it isn't as if I marched around snatching burgers off the children! Was the food I provided okay? I thought it was ...

Tequila, that crossed my mind to be honest; I think that the salad and fruit and juice wasn't his usual diet. In fairness we aren't health freaks, or anything like that, but I thought a few sandwiches, crisps and fruit was standard for an early summer picnic!

The woman sounds like an utter arse. She'd never be coming to my house again.

Food sounds absolutely fine. I'm veggie and it's similar to what I produced for my dc's parties. (Until they went to school, discovered meat and turned into committed carnivores.)

Clouds, honestly? We did have a full fruit bowl if anyone was desperate, but I suppose I served the berries as they are easy for toddlers and babies to pick up and munch on and most children seem to really enjoy them? My DD is scared of oranges, no idea why!

Horrible woman. Sounds like a lovely spread to me!

Sounds lovely. She is very rude.
Don't let her spoil your day.

I have fussy kids and would never dream of complaining that people served proper food instead of the beige crap mine eat! I'd be too ashamed!

You could text back "I'm sorry, I couldn't make out a lot of your message because of peculiar words. Have you got autocorrect stuck on or something? - as it came over as hilariously rude. We've all been pissing ourselves at it."

Sounds yummy... But no birthday cake?!!!

Your food sounds lovely and your friend is jaw-droppingly rude.

I personally would send a remorseful text in order to claim the moral high ground, but advice on here is usually to ignore.

The woman is vv rude. That's unacceptable. However, two of my children wouldn't have eaten either egg or cheese sandwiches at that age, nor salad or jelly. Refusing those items isn't particularly uncommon either. So that would have left them with a pile of fruit and some crisps. I wouldn't have complained, and would have had snack food in my bag I wold have fed them.

Things you could consider for future toddler parties:
Raisins
Bread sticks
Hummus
Pizza
Cake
Biscuits

Hope your dd had fun

Pmsl obviously expecting Gregg's sausage rolls and party rings

I can't believe anyone would consider that an unacceptable amount or type of food, never mind send you a text about it! And if it's your party you get to choose what to cook/make. There was nothing there unusual or extraordinary. Your guests were well catered for.

She was just unbelievably rude.

I'd go with Bobyan's reply, with the addition of "not being funny my house, my rules and for what its worth I wouldn't dream of telling you what to do in your home".

When DD was little, I counted birthday party food, as just added snack during the day. If there was enough for her to eat, then fine, if not, I'd feed her when I got home. Hosts have enough to do, without pandering to every dietary need!

How fucking rude In fact, that is what I would reply to her text. How dare she? The food you offered was perfectly adequate and sounds lovely.

We've all been to adult parties where there wasn't enough food and we've had to get a kebab on the way home but can you imagine texting the host and complaining??

If there was food left, it was the kids pickiness not your catering which was at fault!

My two would have devoured all of that.
They might have likes some biscuits or cake, but wouldn't have needed it!

Hope your daughter had a lovely party.

Could you text back and say:

"No. Sorry. Not a word"

Ignore her - she is illiterate and ignorant. Your food sounds lovely. If somebody's children really wouldn't even eat a cheese sarnie and some crisps etc, then it would be impossible to get it 'right' for them. Don't invite her again.

Reply and say, 'Not being funny but I think there's something wrong with your phone. It appears to have sent me a possibly rude message in a foreign language.'

IME, it doesn't matter what you serve at a child's party. They eat v little comparatively as it detracts from the Running Around and Shrieking. DD eats well at parties but still comes home starving because of the aforementioned tomfoolery.

Don't let this woman's lack of manners bother you.

Vv rude of her. I never assumed party food will take the place of a proper meal but your spread sounds like a good balance between party but not junk.
I have also never had meat at parties- why should my veggie dd's have to face something they find disgusting at their own parties?
I guess the question is whether you spread the word about her ungrateful (and illiterate) text...

What a rude women!!

Sounds fine. She's rude. As someone else said, your reply should be " You're welcome. My DD enjoyed her birthday party very much."

It sounds fine.

Surprisingly some people are still weird about vegetarianism.

'Not being funny but it'll be a cold day in hell before you or your offspring set foot in my home again. 'Luv.' '

Gawd help us what a ghastly woman. Everyone well not her obviously knows that party food is a token jesture of hospitality, not a full blown dinner. She is arsey because she probably thought she wouldn't have to cook any tea that day. I usually do still give my dc their dinner after a party. Party food is a little extra treat and yours sounded delicious.