What was wrong with DD"s birthday food?

[TeapotsInJune]

My DD is two and I held a very small garden party/picnic. I am vegetarian and will not be buying meat for my daughter but I of course don't mind if other people eat meat! However, I personally won't buy it.

So for the food we had a couple of tables in the garden with egg and cheese sandwiches, salad, crisps, jelly, strawberries, raspberries and blueberries and apple juice and sparkling grape juice to drink, plus iced water. I also had ice cream to go with the jelly but that wasn't out!

I then had a text from one of the women who is more the friend of a friend saying "not being funny but u obviously make ur choices but u shouldn't expect em to b made by others luv kids where dead hungry when they got in."

I am pretty cheesed off actually! That was my daughters birthday - it isn't as if I marched around snatching burgers off the children! Was the food I provided okay? I thought it was ...

Hmc that party s for a 2 year old, not an adult or older child!

Oh, and as an aside?
Make lots of tasty food, but put it out in installments.
That way you can eat what's left without random dribble. bite marks and grime spoiling your enjoyment.

"You're right, you're not funny. Did you mean to be so rude you illiterate
twat"

It's a bit rude to criticize party food, whether kids party or adult one. Having said that, a lot of toddlers don't like egg or cheese in a sandwich.

My friend is a veggie. She finds that veggie pizza and veggie 'sausages' are quite popular with young kids.

Rude, me and DD would be happy with that lot, my DD would liberate you of all the fruit.

What a rude bitch, obviously her children just like junk food.

She was massively, unbelievably rude.

I do think the party food sounds a bit unpartyish, and my dcs wouldn't have eaten any of it, but that's still no reason to be ungracious.

No more invitations for her.

Sounds like a lovely party tea. I'm not sure I would have even noticed there wasn't any meat. I don't understand the need to eat meat every day / with every meal. If there are things your toddler won't eat you have to assume they might be what is offered and come with a snack you know they like. Even if you hadn't served adequate food, it would be rude to comment on it!

Oh hang on, they'd have scoffed the crisps

YAVvvvvvvvU not to have cake!

My initial thought on reading your menu was that it was snacky rather than a meal, even in quantity, so if your party fell over a meal time (eg 12-2) the guests would not have been unreasonable to feel unfed. Some 2yos can eat a lot. More along the stodge line eg pizza or cut up baguette fills up children and adults.

On the other hand, it is the height of bad manners to comment on the catering at any party unless you paid for it. That woman wouldn't get another invitation from me, ever.

I would be deeply, deeply offended in your position. What a cow.

Yes op could have offered bit more variety p, but there is no need forthat rude text, especially from someone who hardly knows the op!

I had to read it twice because I couldn't understand it! It sounds like you put alot of thought into the food.

neither of mine would have eaten the sandwiches with egg or cheese or the salad or the raspberries/blueberries (dont like the seeds) so would have been limited to the crisps and jelly.

Jam or nutella would be alternatives that would have been eaten (in the absence of ham) plus maybe some rice crispie/cornflake cakes, biscuits and maybe other fruits like grapes, banana, etc.

I wouldnt have been so rude as to text but it does seem like quite a limited selection if you are catering for children.

Blueberries don't have seeds in do they?

However....given how fussy many children are I would have provided marmite, nutella and jam sandwiches too - with a mix of white and wholemeal bread. I probably would have thrown in some frubes and babybels too since bizarrely children seem to like them,and some margherita pizza ....and where were your cakes and biscuits? (it was a party?)I don't think you offered a great deal of choice tbh
My DGC wouldn't have touched any of your ideas either. But I wouldn't have text you to complain about it.

They either eat what's on offer, or they don't. It's a tea not a banquet.

Yes, she was very rude. You provided age appropriate snacks suitable for the type of party you were having. Like other people have said, She was probably hoping to fill her kid up and not cook then tea.

What time was the party?

Whatever you provide there is a chance a child will not like much of it so not eat much so come home hungry. I've heard that children can be quite fussy eaters.

The solution is for their mum to give them something to eat when they get home.

text her back saying ''sorry luv, I forgot your children can't recognise real food, only turkey twizzlers and mcdonalds''

Send ivanacake's text. Or 'feed them then' (can't remember who posted that)

She is a rude bitch. Who cares what you served, you don't complain like this. The only appropriate text is 'thanks for the party, DC had a lovely time'

No, the OP didn't have to provide more variety!
She provided a perfectly good selection, which they could either eat, or not.

You can't cater for everyone.

Your food sounds lovely

Either

don't answer (I wouldn't) or text

Ur not being funny, ur being rude

What a rude and bitchy woman. Had I received that text I'd be

I've been to many parties and events where the catering wasn't to my personal liking. I would never dream of contacting the hosts to tell them.

She was obviously expecting a load of sugary junk food.

She's a rude and entitled eejit imo. Just because HER child does not like egg or cheese does not mean the OP has provided badly....most DC would be happy with that food.

Do so many children really not eat cheese sandwiches? It would never have entered my head to give my children jam or Nutella in sandwiches tbh.

For the record, I provided sandwiches, pizza, sausage rolls, crisps, carrott sticks and fruit at dd 2nd birthday arty, it was hardly touched, they were too busy enjoying themselves. I would certainly text her "do you mean to be so rude!