Was I out of line?

[Bwalker2012]

I have a daughter in law who has a baby girl who is nearly four months.

She seems to be really assertive with me I don't know what I have done wrong. We live close to each other and I get to see my grandchild once every two weeks or once a week depending on everyone's time.

Well the last time I was over there I went to pick up my grandchild to wind her and my dil told me to put her down and that she was ok and didn't need winding. She told me that I would make her worse. I just felt stupid.

The other day I asked her how my girl was doing and she replied in a firm tone that she is not your girl and said that my daughter was my girl and my grandchild was hers. I thought she was being means. She is all ours.

I also asked to push my grandchild and my dil said no that she was going to push her first I was really annoyed with her and shaked my head and she told me off. I can't see why she wouldn't let me push her when I asked.

I just can't seem to get anything right. My son came over to tell me that I should start asking my dil first before doing anything with her I.e the winding. She was annoyed that I took it upon myself to see to my grandchild. I don't think I should ask?

What do you all think I am looking for advice am I being unreasonable?

We have never had any arguments, they were only together a few months before she got pregnant, they would have 3-4 nights here and 3/4 nights over her mothers as they are only 19 so haven’t got a place of they're own yet, and literally as soon as the baby was born they have only been here 3 times for 1 hour max on the last visit, I have hinted I would like to help as in give bottles want but seems like they don’t want me too, he is 5 weeks old now so maybe it’s still early days, me and my son have always been close and as he was the only child he didn’t want for anything, he has a lovely car as I helped with his lessons and tests, I paid for theyre 3d scan, bought loads of stuff for the baby to help them out as much as possible, I have taken all the stuff over her mothers as newborn cloths etc would just go to waste here, hoping things will change, but for now they haven’t wanted any help from me 😞, i can’t think for any reason why she would have an issue with me and I don’t know how I would be-able to ask if anything is wrong, will just wit and see as not much more I can do.