To be angry at a nanny 'friend' who told me I should leave my job..........

[Mummyoftwoangels]

just because I told her I didn't want to feed her youngest charge her bottle this morning?! She was 'busy' texting her boss!!

My reasoning being, I lost my own babies just over a year ago, and struggle at times with dealing with young babies! The children I look after are 3 and 6 so not babies!!

She said I should be able to help out others or I'm not doing my job properly! She knows the history of what I have been through, but insisted that I should think about changing my career

If I seriously thought I wasn't doing my job properly, I would leave! AIBU to be really angry, and sad at her criticism?!

Are people implying this is all made up?

((((hugs))))

Sorry for your loss but I think your "friend" is being insensitive. To be honest I think it is her who is in the wrong job not you.

Do those of you who doubt the OP's story not realise that life is not straight forward for everyone? People encounter such evil on a daily basis but are made to feel like they are the ones who have done something wrong. All the OP asked for was advice on her 'friend' situation not pulled apart because some of you dont believe she was unfortunate to suffer horrifically at the hands of a pair of monsters. Away run back to your perfect lives and think yourself very lucky you have not had to deal with a fraction of what the OP has had to all on her own!

Afternoon. Thanks for the many reports about this thread. As you know, we're always grateful for reports.

We do understand that the OP's situation is highly dramatic but, as we have no reason to conclude the OP is anything other than genuine, we do need to remind folks not to post (or hint in a post) that their credulity is being stretched here.

That's against the rules, as we hope you all know. If you do have any concerns, please do report them to us instead.

In the meantime, we are going to repeat what we posted earlier about thanking everyone for their support for the OP but also reminding everyone of our usual caveat never to give more of yourself, emotionally, to a thread than you think you can afford to spare.

I agree McPie, I don't understand why people have to add to the OP misery.

Try to ignore those posts Mummyoftwoangels and take heed of those of us who are offering comfort.

Oh for goodness sake. What is wrong with people?

I have been reading this thread form the beginning and it is honestly not to hard to believe that someone could do these things over a period of a week and a half. These things do happen, there are people that crazy around. I know, unfortunately, because I encountered someone just like it.

Luckily, at that time, I was not as vulnerable as she thought I was, so did not become her victim.

The OP, a year after losing her babies, is vulnerable.

I also find what the OP said about the circumstances of losing those babies easy to believe. I have been subject to domestic abuse in the past, I know how bad it can get.

If you don't believe, then go watch TV, go on FB, read another thread, give a snappy answer, but really, do not express disbelief here. Even if I am wrong I am never wrong though what is the harm in just walkng away?

If I am right I am, I always am then you are being nasty to someone who is already distraught and there is absolutely no excuse for that.

Unfortunately awful things do happen to people. In my line of work, I see family situations that I wouldn't believe if it wasn't staring me in the face.

Obviously some people on this thread want to kick OP when she is down. Disgusting behaviour. Who are you to say this is made up. If you think it, just don't comment as you could be very wrong and add to her misery.

Why shouldn't the ops story be true. Its entirely plausible and very very sad. If you don't believe it don't say anything, better that than do this to someone who is likely to be genuine, and is feeling really down at the moment. What the fuck is wrong with people

totally agree MammaTJ

After a stressful day, feeling both emotional from yesterday, and from reading some not so friendly comments on here! I was just going to stop posting! But I feel I need to say a big Thankyou to those of you, who understand that shit happens, sometimes! It may be difficult for some people to understand. But as I said before, this has been my life for years! It was what I was used too! I've spent months, trying to get back on my feet and I think I have done quite well!

This nanny situation, has made me realise that I still have a long way to go, before I regain my self confidence!

I came on here for support and advice, and I am very grateful for those of you that offered just that! I understand that some people come on here making up stories to cause trouble, or for whatever other reasons! But please can those of you that feel something isn't true, just ignore the post or report it! But don't make the poster who is in need of help, feel more useless and upset than they already felt!

I thought from what I have read in Mumsnet, that it was a nice place, where people help each other! Sadly I'm not so sure now! I hope that the nice ones among you continue to give advice and support! You are the people that, woman in my situation need! I didn't need to be judged, or told I was a liar! I just needed a friendly ear!

Thanks again to the nice ones among you.

Xxxxx

Mummy, get that card to the police. Some sick bastard needs to be sorted out, but let the police worry about it so you don't have to.

wtf happened to this thread?

as i cant read them because they are deleted now, im guessing they wasnt very nice. wtf is wrong with some of you? coming on here and being nasty to a woman that is vulnerable and going through so much already. do you really think that that is acceptable? cause i certainly dont.

if you dont believe it or suspect a troll then report and let mnhq deal with it. there is no need for you to post anything at all. posting things like that (whether you believe or not) when someone is down/vulnerable/in need can cause so much more damage! think about it...

Hi again Mummy, glad you found a special way to mark your girls' special day yesterday.

As for the mean-spirited comments today, please ignore them. I suspect it's because the thread is in Am I Being Unreasonable which seems to get everybody over-excited. Maybe start another thread in chat or somewhere?

I, too, am disgusted by some people on here. Talk about kicking people when they are down. You ought to be ashamed of yourselves. Yes, it all might be untrue, but the probability is, that it isn't. This woman is in a dreadfully vulnerable place and your "helpful" comments can in one foul swoop undo all the good that the majority of posters have achieved, in building up her self confidence. I hope you are proud of yourselves.

In recent years, I have seen people behave in ways that I would never have believed possible a few years ago. People do experience crap like this. Just be thankful you don't.

Shame on you all. Is it worth even the tiny risk of tipping someone over the edge?

Op - ignore the few (nanny/ex/a couple of posters on here and take heart from the good majority.