AIBU in thinking that its greedy to ask for vouchers?

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just received an evening wedding invite, small do in a village hall, disco and buffet, grown up B and G, lived together 20 yrs and teenage children. Quite well off, 2 x holidays per year, 2 cars, both in good jobs , nice home. Invite says no presents please but if you want to give something John Lewis vouchers will be very useful.

Am I being unreasonable in thinking this is just rude and greedy?
It has really irritated me. And yes, they do have much more money than me.

Normally I would make or give something very personal and small that I think they would like and would fit in with their home. I hate buying presents off lists and I hate giving vouchers too.

If I felt this way about a gift I wouldn't go. Just turn down the invitation.

How much money somebody has shouldn't dictate your gift.

I didn't expect gifts at my wedding. I wouldn't attend a party without bringing one.

In both our circle of friends there is average amount dependent on whether the invitation is for the entire day or the evening.

My wedding invite said something along the lines , we are living together and there is not much we need but if you would like to give a gift we would love vouchers towards furniture. We had a small Argos list with things on like bread maker, soda stream, laminator, catbed , pictures, electric tin opener, spirit level, and other random things that we wouldn't buy ourselves.

Most people were happy to give us vouchers and I didnt expect anything.

For my 40th I said no presents and collected money for charity as my aunt had recently died .

crikey - if you are going to the wedding I presume you are a friend or a relative. You are supposed to like and know these people.

If a friend/relative invited me I would get them a gift, whether that be something from a list, cash towards a honeymoon or a voucher. If they said no presents then I would probably take a bottle of bubbly to mark the celebration.

I would do this because it was for someone I liked

At my wedding, I requested vouchers if people wanted to but it was by no means compulsory.

If you hate giving presents then don't give a present at all. They have given you the option to do this. Or if you can't face this, simply really - don't go. It saves you money and saves the bride and groom who are paying for your meal.

You sound jealous of their wealth tbh and seem to take issue with people suggesting what you should do with your own money. That's not the bride and grooms problem, that's your problem. You should feel privileged that they thought to invite you to their special day.

YABU. They have clearly said no presents pls and the vouchers thing will just be to placate the moaning old aunts who don't think it's 'right' to turn up without a present and who unless directed specifically towards vouchers will turn up with a set of novelty cheese knives or some other such shit that they neither need or have room for.

Novelty cheese knives :-) my mum got a set of beautiful crystal wine glasses for her wedding 20 odd years ago. They didn't get used until my 18th birthday. Don't think they've been used since.

One man's trash is another man's treasure

And I would prefer for my gift to be treasured rather than trashed. When I buy a gift, I do it for the recipients pleasure, not for mine.

Don't give anything then, just like they said on the invitation.

YABU