To think that a 40 year old man dating a 21 year old is off?

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Which is what is happening with a friend from work.

She's a very young 21, at Uni, likes to drink, party, mess around and have lots of relationships. She works 6 hours a week at a cafe.

He's a mature 40, owns his own houses and runs his brothers very successful electronics business. He has never had a long term relationship.

AIBU to think its a bit odd for an older guy to be wanting a relationship with such a younger woman?

NOTE: I would never interfere and am not saying they SHOULDN'T date, just that I find it uncomfortable for some reason. I am asking what people think not for a lecture on whether I should be judging

There are aloud of very defensive may-December lovers on here

Didn't you say the exact same thing on a thread last week? Why the obsession?

Well I got with my partner just after my 18th birthday. He was 34. Had people making comments about it. Nearly 14 years later we are still together with 2 children. Age is just a number

The two in the OP are now 43 and 24.

How/why do people find a three year old thread. Then actually post on it?

It's not like it's an update, or any relevant information come to light.

Often it's just someone's same opinion that was already stated many times before, 3 years ago!

Just why? They must have known it was a zombie thread when they looked for it, found it, then dragged it out the archive.

I think they must search for a subject sensitive to them after being on the receiving end of RL judginess that day.

Also there was a woman who dug up every thread she could find about Sports Direct after they'd fucked her over. We've all been there!

I would personally worry about the 21 year old wasting her youth on some sad sack 40 year old who has never been in a relationship before.

What a nasty attitude! I was 22 and DH was 43 when we got together. I didn't waste my youth and he wasn't a sad sack 43 year old. We're still together 18 years later.

Never mind There are aloud of very defensive may-December lovers on here, (a touch of deja vu there), I'm more concerned about the amount of nasty, judgemental posters.

Yanbu - and God luck !!! There are aloud of very defensive may-December lovers on here

You like trotting out that line don't you!

Not sure what God has to do with it either.

I think there's more ZOMBIE threads bumped than new ones started at the moment.

Maybe it's because three years ago, they were marginally less likely to have been started by a troll?

Aaah May to December. They just don't make em like that anymore. Compo falling out of a wheelbarrow. Hyacinth and her Royal Doulton.

And thank fuck for their demise.

I don't think much of men who date women 20 years younger than them.

I absolutely loved a 40ish man when I was in my 20s, but speaking bluntly I could not have sex with a 60ish man now. Unless, of course, it was Donald Trump.

They might have a problem when they're in the pub and he and his mates are reminiscing about Grange Hill, Jamie and the Magic Torch, Chorlton and the Wheelies and Bagpuss, and she's looking blank.

Ah those were the days Show. Terry &June?

Must be time for Batman

I don't see an issue, it's not common but it's not unusual either. They're both adults.

Me and My Girl!

I absolutely loved a 40ish man when I was in my 20s, but speaking bluntly I could not have sex with a 60ish man now

Yes but if you'd spent the last 20 years with him, he wouldn't be any random 60 year old, he'd be your DH/DP who presumably you'd still love?

Mitzy how about The Upper Hand?

Oh, not this again. It's getting a bit old now.

I'd rather have an older man with ambition, good work ethic and useful house-skills like cooking/cleaning etc than a drippy young mummy's boy who can only talk about Xbox and Nando's.

Yes but if you'd spent the last 20 years with him, he wouldn't be any random 60 year old, he'd be your DH/DP who presumably you'd still love?

But you're not actually growing old together, it's one person reaching first.

Oh yes, the The Upper Hand with McGann Brother (never know which one is which)!

Mitzy how about The Upper Hand?

Mmm, Joe McGann...

He was probably too old for me to be lusting over, mind. Apparently.

Nope. When I was 21, 40 was about my minimum age for boyfriends

I've always preferred much older men, still do.

And the daughter from TUH is now thingy in EE running the Vic.

The Good Life. Aaah. Such gentle humour. And growing veg. A simpler time.