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To think posting about your pregnancy on social networks is insensitive?

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ivanapoo · 07/04/2013 18:59

I don't mean the odd post here and there, I mean daily or more frequent updates/photos of scans, things you've bought or made for the baby, the "delicious" glass of Appletize you're enjoying, how sick you're feeling, how big your bump is, and so on ad infinitum?

Not only is it more boring than a parking thread on AIBU for all the friends in whose newsfeeds your updates appear, but for many women of childbearing age there's a good chance your peers/friends may be TTC, or unable to conceive, or wishing they had a partner to conceive with.

Almost as bad are the parents who detail every tiny little boring thing their child has done that day. I'm still waiting for someone to Instagram a picture of their baby's shitty nappy.

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MidniteScribbler · 09/04/2013 12:10

It's not about them not considering that what they are posting might offend others, it's just that some people can be so boring, regardless of what they are posting. One person on mine is "just got out of bed". "having a shower before going to work", "lunchbreak and eating a sandwich", "time for bed". I don't care. She posts about fifty status' per day. Boring. God help us all if she gets pregnant again.

oldraver · 09/04/2013 12:29

Yes constant posting about one particular subject can be tedious... but you shouldn't have to hold yourself in check just on the offchance someone may be offended.

abbyfromoz · 09/04/2013 12:38

YABU. It's insensitive of you to not be happy for them.
I understand how hard this can be. My sister and i were pregnant at the same time. Mine ended in MC at 11 weeks. She went on to have a healthy baby. I was terribly sad for a while thinking why her and not me? But why not her? She deserves happiness. Just because i couldn't be a mum at the time doesn't mean other people can't enjoy every single detail of their special time and share their happiness with the world. Try to appreciate how special this time is for other people and maybe it will being you a little joy too.

abbyfromoz · 09/04/2013 12:45

And just to add to that- i have a reason for posting pics of my DD. Her entire family (including grandparents) are thousands of miles away and have missed every milestone including my growing bump, scan pictures, supporting me through morning sickness, seeing her decorated nursery, seeing her smile for the first time, walk, talk.... So my Facebook which is only viewable for close friends and family is my way of keeping them in touch, which they appreciate more than anything. If other friends have a problem with it then that is just it- THEIR problem.

shoesandwine · 09/04/2013 13:06

YABU.

If you are genuinely upset by things that are making your Facebook "friends" happy, then they're obviously not your friends, are they? In that case, hide their posts or defriend them.

For the record, I'm TTC and my friends' pregnancy posts don't bother me in the slightest. As in all area of life, everyone has something that the next person doesn't. That's life. I'm sure my friends with children could be equally "hurt" by my blatent flaunting of exotic holidays or meals out.

I've lost track of what's actually "allowed" on Facebook at all these days: no trivial status updates, no food photos, no holidays (or watch how many "posey" photos you have in there, and make sure that you remove any trace of the nice hotel you might have been staying in, in case anyone gets jealous) no kids, no declarations of love and affection.....the list is endless.

Gruffalump · 09/04/2013 13:34

YABU

And self-obsessed

lovetomoan · 09/04/2013 14:39

I didn't post anything about my pregnancy on fb because lots of people in my family can't have children. And I was also told it would be difficult for me to conceive. But lots of people told me I was OTT for 'hiding' my pregnancy on fb.

lovetomoan · 09/04/2013 14:41

Still, I think YABU.

exoticfruits · 09/04/2013 16:03

I've lost track of what's actually "allowed" on Facebook at all these days: no trivial status updates, no food photos, no holidays (or watch how many "posey" photos you have in there, and make sure that you remove any trace of the nice hotel you might have been staying in, in case anyone gets jealous) no kids, no declarations of love and affection.....the list is endless.

I think it would be a lot simpler to suspend their FB account and not go on. People seem to have all sorts of friends who are not really friends at all.

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